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Post by BBW4EVR1 on Apr 22, 2004 20:14:23 GMT -5
To all who contributed to this post- Please accept my apology if I offended any one of you with my "absolutes" and the way in which I have expressed them. I didn't think I had offended any one but it has been pointed out to me that some of my words may have been hurtful and condensending to some of you. I am truly sorry for the way in which I communicated my thoughts (although I am not sorry for the way I feel). But, as most of you know, I can be far too outspoken, and I guess on this post, I have been. So, having said all that--if allowed, I will simply be reading this post in the future. Thank you all for your understanding.  |
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Post by tridlette on Apr 22, 2004 20:41:21 GMT -5
BBW4EVR1
I don't see where you offended anyone here. Certainly not me. You expressed your opinions and thoughts on this subject. While not everyone will agree on such a controversial subject, I think I speak for most of us that we all agree our kids need absolutes. When rules are expressed with no uncertainty, and the consequences make sense, our kids do much better.
My own kids use foul language, and keep very messy rooms. Why? Because my rules are inconsistent. I admire you for your ability to establish and maintain steadfast rules. I know where the fault ultimately lies in this household. I also admire your courage to say what you think.
I have ADD, but I am always very careful to watch my words so that I keep the peace with everyone. I am very uncomfortable when someone's feelings are hurt. I wish I could just say what I feel and let the chips fall where they may.
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Post by finnmom on Apr 23, 2004 10:39:35 GMT -5
BBW You certainly did not offend me, nor I see any offending comment´s in your post. But, hey, this is interesting topic, I use to take conversation as a good way to share opinion´s, we dont all have to agree with each other, isn´t that what make´s this so great! I love to hear other one´s experience´s, I think it widen´s my wiew of life  Same goes with all of you, I think you´re bunch of people I would have fun at "live" too. I like talking to people who have their own opinion´s  Marja |
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Post by aaa-alison on Apr 26, 2004 20:40:58 GMT -5
Totally give them birth control and give them an open and candid talk about sex. Don't pry but listen to them and let them talk to you. Tell them you are proud of their maturity, openess. And above all don't be afraid for them, be afraid of unprotected sex and unsafe sexual activity with them. Say how scared you were or how you felt like nothing bad could ever happen. If you don't want to talk so candidly about your self make up a fake girlfriend from you past and tell a story about how they never thought anything could happen to them and how they were wrong. Tell how she had all the right intentions but things got hot and heavy and the boy did not respect her wishes to use protection-this happens a lot today. Boys tell the girls it's not sex if it's oral or anal. Then they tell the girls not to worry cause they can't get pregnant. There is a lot of sick stuff going on out there. The more you can walk her step by step through the stuff that she may have to deal with-like a guy being manipulative, decietful, or uncaring the better she is prepaired to handle them. Give her emotional protection along with sexual. Kids are going to do stuff anyway-especially today in our totally sexualized world. So don't be afraid to accept the truth of her reality. Be proud that she is mature and wise enough to share herself with you. You must be a great mom.
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