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[mothercat]

I doubt it was all your looks that got you noticed...your good attitude and loving personality probably had alot to do with it..no offense but you dont seem to be exactly the quiet stand in the back type.. maybe others see more in you than you do .

As for being raised poor ...you aint alone..born poor /die poor is our family motto...BOBO didn't even have inside bathroom until he was 14. Imagine having to brush your teeth in the alley at puberty age. Although he laughs and says they had a light in their out house and a coal heater. I wasnt quite so bad off just 8 blocks away same street but my folks had it hard too and we did without alot.
Yeah it is h*e*ll getting older but darned if I want to get younger these days...cant imagine dealing with all the crud over again.
My lil sis wont get better ...she lost 60% of bone mass and ostio dont go away...she lives with it tho ..

Bigger boobs are okay as long as they arent pierced...it screws up the ring holes ;D makes it all more sensitive to pain.

I wouldn't want to wrestle Bobo...I might hurt the poor thing ;D ;D

Just keep in mind that most people think you are great the way you are ...without even seeing you. Dont worry about it.

[camismom]

said:

I doubt it was all your looks that got you noticed...your good attitude and loving personality probably had alot to do with it..no offense but you dont seem to be exactly the quiet stand in the back type.. maybe others see more in you than you do .

Just keep in mind that most people think you are great the way you are ...without even seeing you. Dont worry about it.

Aw shucks M/C! You bring tears to my eyes!

Funny you mention the "not quiet, stand in the back type" you see me as...because it is true now, but it SO wasn't that way then! Though I am still very shy in a crowd, and very shy with people I don't know that well, I lose ALL shyness once I do get to know you and I do not have any qualms standing up for myself, my friends, or my family. Back in my teenager days though I was very, painfully shy. Only my close friends knew the real me and they used to laugh at the yearbook signings by classmates that would comment on my shyness. ;D ;D ;D

[Kaiti]

;D ;D ;DChristy SHY ;D ;D ;D

Speaking of piercings, a kid out to the club got HIS pierced......um, ewwwwww that's just waaaaaay to much for me to deal with.......where is the little face that is throwing up :Pclose enough

[tridlette]

camismom said:

but when my clothes start feeling snugger than normal... what's up? I think my boobs have even gotten a little bigger lately!

With the hot and humid summer, we are ALL feeling snug in our clothes. It is a puffy summer! And when I went to get my mammogram, the technician said that it is common to get larger as you get older. Lord knows that both of my grandmothers wore DD+ as long as I can remember!

[kstquilter]

seems like we have the entire range of thin to heavy in this group!
christy, i'd be willing to bet you look great to everyone else. the others are right about not worrying about the numbers. as far as how clothes fit, i do try to watch it more when they don't fit the same but then i tend to wear mine pretty big since i'm big. your body might just be adjusting to the lipo as well.
while you may have been know as the pretty one when you are younger, you are so much more now and we have no idea what you look like.
i'm not thrilled with getting older from a health stand point but i'd like to think we're all getting better with age. i feel much wiser than i did as a kid, at least a little more secure in myself as a person, not interested at all in what others think of me as long as i'm happy with myself as a whole and dh is too.
i also can't imagine you'd want cami to only think she gets attention because of how she looks. and she is watching you whether you talk to her about it or not.
there's more to life than those numbers. i know it's hard because i've been trying for awhile to lose weight and i'm not doing as well as i'd hoped. but i've kept up the exercising even tho it's not really showing results.
even tho we might not be thrilled with growing older, it sure beats the alternative!!
give youself a hug christy, you're a wonderful person no matter what you look like!
karen

[StrugglingAgain]

Because of GENES, I've never had to worry about my weight and I could eat anything I wanted and had lots of nervous energy. NOW comes age 55...next week! In the last year I've gained fifteen pounds (that's soooooo much on a 5' 2" frame). I walk FIVE miles seven days a week (for nine months) and I've not lost a pound. What's up with that? Yes, it's still good for me...my cholesterol is awesome, but that's a lot of work to not lose a pound. I'm miserable wearing a size six (almost eight) when I've always worn a four. I FEEL like everyone I know, family and friends, are saying, "Menopausal, menopausal, menopausal....!" Arg. Little do they know that's all over with now. I'm trying to come to grips with the fact that this may be the new me, but weighing more makes the wrinkles stretch out (woohoo) and maybe I looked a little anorexic in the first place. Maybe this is a result of the antidepressant I'm on due to stress from ds.......

[Kaiti]

SA, I'm jealous ???Don't take that the wrong way....I'm jealous in the fact that you already went through menopaus

I worry every month ;Das to whetther I am pregnant....if it happens it happens, if not oh well. ;DI just don't want to get to the "I'm thrilled to fit back into a size 8" and then find out I'm pregnant again.....like last time with Mikey......just to gain 80 lb carrying him

As long as your cholesterol is good. I would like to start wealking, but there are too many dogs around here that I don't trust.....OK, bad excuse, at Mike's work they have a fitness center :-[I'm too lazy to call and see what classes are when.........

Dang, no excuse now....I'm busted

[funcat]

Hey Christie,

I am also comfortable at about 135-140 lbs. This past spring I found myself at 153 and decided I needed to do something! I'm not really a diet person, but I do believe in healthy eating and continually educating myself so that I make better choices. I lost some of the weight, and have stayed around 140 all summer. Three tips to my limited, yet satisfying, success...

1. Change One diet (www.changeone.com). It makes sense, it's healthy, and you can do a lot of stuff online!

2. Walking

3. Stay away from high fructose corn syrup. >:(It does not eliminate your sweet cravings the way regular sugar does. Be picky about your junk food choices... you may as well be satisfied if you're going to eat a cookie! Here's a great, to the point, article about it

www.organicstyle.com/feature/0,8028,s1-41-30-32-1111,00.html

If you can't make that link work, go to organicstyle.com, click on ARCHIVES, then FOOD, and you will see an article titled "The Facts About High Fructose Corn Syrup".

Your lucky to have a hubby who loves you the way you are (mine does too!). I'm 41, and I know I will never look like I did when I was younger, and I also don't expect to.

I also don't know "what to wear". I feel like I'm dressing too young, or I look sloppy!

[camismom]

This thread is getting interesting...and I thank you all for the compliments. Karen, I esp. appreciate you showing concern for my own image problems reflecting on Cami...I do try to mind that, but know she can probably just read it in me. Afterall, she knows why mom had lipo done.

Funcat, thanks for the links. I'll check them out later...just got called to start running a payroll here at work, so gotta do that first. lol

[finnmom]

Christy I´ve seen your pic´s and I think you look gorgeus!! One cant keep on looking like an 20 y old, that wouldn´t be natural.

I think it is still a bit adjusting to that lipo you had and the simple fackt that your bodyshape is not excactly the same anymore. Mayby changing your routine a bit might help you, you seem to do a lot right now, but as been said in here before, same routine doesnt work for ever.

you´re happy having Andy who loves you so much as you are, because of your great personality, giving heart and your great look´s and lot´s of else

A bit of a side walk here, but: you mentioned your mom has some thyroidal problem´s... what kind?? Gaining weight, feeling a bit depressed and powerless might(but only might) be signal´s of hypothyreosis... so if you are really worried(and I hope I didnt worry you, I didn´t ment to) you should get your TSH and T4V checked(or what´s the routine in U.S to dx hypothyreosis)

Meanwhile.... we all love you as you are

[camismom]

finnmom said:

A bit of a side walk here, but: you mentioned your mom has some thyroidal problem´s... what kind?? Gaining weight, feeling a bit depressed and powerless might(but only might) be signal´s of hypothyreosis... so if you are really worried(and I hope I didnt worry you, I didn´t ment to) you should get your TSH and T4V checked(or what´s the routine in U.S to dx hypothyreosis)

Meanwhile.... we all love you as you are

Marja, I have actually thought of that. My mom had hypothyroidism and had her thryroid removed in her late 40's or early, early 50's as a result. My doc checked my thryoid a few years back for that very reasn and it was ok then, but it hasn't been checked recently. Last time I went when he gave me the presc for phentermine, he told me if that didn't help he would probably check for some "other things", but I haven't been back since then. That was somewhere around the first of the year.

[kstquilter]

i'm also jealous that SA is already done with all that menopause stuff!!! You're right SA, the fat does make the wrinkles spread out!!! my grandma came to visit us when we lived in GA and the kids were little. we went shopping and most of the clerks thought she was my mom and brittany's grandma instead of her great-grandma!
i also knew of a heavy woman who had cancer and could barely keep anything down. the drs. said that if not for her extra weight feeding her body, she wouldn't have survived.
i figure i'm stocking up, just in case! and i'll probably look the same when i'm 80 as i do now since i'm already gray and have been most of my life and my wrinkles are really spread out!
i truly would like to lose weight and get healthier but also want to have a life that doesn't always revolve around my weight and i do.
i also wish i could find decent clothes to wear. they assume all large women also have large chests!!! by the time something fits my hips, it's too big everywhere else!
christy, you just hear so much about young girls and how they view themselves and who they compare themselves to and how they don't measure up. you said you compare yourself to people on the streets too. just remember that you may not know how they get where they are. they could be lucky like some of the ladies here and have great genes and metabolism, some could be aerobic teachers, some could be sick and wish they were healthy like you. you've said you don't want to be obsessed and i know you'd never want that for cami either.
just be healthy and try not to worry as much about the numbers.
karen

[camismom]

kstquilter said:

just be healthy and try not to worry as much about the numbers.
karen

Will do!

[SKay]

camismom said:

Well, Skay, we'll just have to be each other's support! As my wise and darling hubby reminded me last night after a long and grueling workout that though I may not be seeing results in the form of Christie Brinkley's figure instead of Christy W's, I am still doing my heart good and that is most important. He also in his sweet way told me that although I'm not as small as I would like to be I am wonderful to him and while I look around jeolously comparing myself to others I see that are more toned and slimmer than I am, that there are still others out there that would be satisified just to be my size. So, anyway, it did remind me what they say about us women never being satisfied..... LOL.....while it helped me to come to the realization that obsessing over it is not changing anything. I decided that I am going to TRY, no promises though, to cut bread out for a while and cut down on sweets (my two biggest weaknesses) and see what happens. Though I get aggravated by my weight I don't see myself ever stopping exercise because I know that it does help keep me healthy.

It's hard catching up here. You people are posting too much! ;D Anyway, I do exercise for health reasons too. I had decided that even if I don't lose weight I need the exercise for energy and just overall health. I've thought the same thing about others probably wishing they could be my size. I read somewhere that in order to lose weight, "older" women should cut out wheat, so if that's true, cutting out the bread may indeed help you. This same person suggested eating flaxseed and drinking green tea.

[catatonic]

Christy, sounds just like me! I've always been tall and skinny. Over the past year I've had trouble maintaining my normal weight...in fact, I've gained 17 pounds! And losing his has been impossible. I've been depressed, too, which is also not at all like me. I'm a very un-depressed type person!

I've found something that helps with both the weight and the depression. It's called 5-HTP, and it's basic mechanism of action is to increase serotonin production. This is the same basic principle as prescription anti-depressants of the SSRI class. Not only has it lifted my mood, it's eliminated weird food cravings (like for a plate of nachos at 10am) and reduced my appetite overall. Too soon to tell if I'm actually going to manage to lose some weight! Here's a link for more info on 5-HTP:
healthlibrary.epnet.com/GetContent.aspx?token=e0498803-7f62-4563-8d47-5fe33da65dd4&chunkiid=21399

The other VERY effective treatment for depression is called SAM-e. In clinical trials where SAM-e went head-to-head with prescription anti-depressants, SAM-e performed equally well and reached peak effectiveness in less than a week (compared to several weeks for prescription meds). Just buy a box of 400mg tablets and take one in the morning and one in the afternoon. If your depression is unresponsive, you may need to take twice that much for one week, then go back down. Once you feel "normal" try dropping down to a single tablet and see if you remain stable. Make sure to buy enteric coated tablets that are individually blister packed, since SAM-e degrades quickly if exposed to air, and stomach acid will destroy it before it has a chance to work if there's no coating.

Here's some more info on SAM-e...
healthlibrary.epnet.com/GetContent.aspx?token=e0498803-7f62-4563-8d47-5fe33da65dd4&chunkiid=21460