Potty training help!! Bs 31months

[catseye]

Ok, I think we are getting there ... I got one of those little potties to put in the bathroom for my bs to start using... I figured leave it in there for a few weeks, and let him get used to it sitting there, and him sitting on it (clothed not actually trying potty on it yet)...

I also have one of those "rings" that go on the big toilet to make the whole smaller basically, but bs gets scared sitting that high up... Although I believe that would be the better option, because then he would be used to the bigger potty rather than going from little one to big one (just another adjustment)... Any suggestions to help his fear? Or should I just let the little potty thing go for now??

My other problem is ROOM!!! Our bathroom is tiny, once you have the hamper in there, and the step stool for bs to brush his teeth, there really isnt any room for the separate little potty... Should I take out the hamper for now? Put little potty in his bedroom?? (although then another adjustment argh!!)... Maybe take out the step stool? That just barely would make enough room...

Any other thoughts or suggestions would be sooooo appreciated!! Yes I did it with sd, but girls are easier! Less chance of "mess" if you know what I mean...

Also I plan on bs going straight to underwear (yes I know accidents), because I feel that is better than pull ups... A few months ago we started trying on his underwear, and he hated the feeling of everything "out" ;D , and not as encased as it was in the diapper... Help if you can! I havent a clue about boys potty training...

cat

[Dad2Brooke]

Catseye, I wish I could offer some help. Brooke basically started using the potty when she was ready (around 3yo), not when we were.

She never used the little potty we had for her. She used the little ring we put on the commode.

Of course before she actually started using it for what it was meant for, she used it as her princess crown

Kids........

[catseye]

LOL about the crown!! Even if you cant help me, THANK YOU!!! So much for a place for me to put my non adhd concern!! Well at least I am praying bs is not adhd ...

cat

[Jorgy]

I have trained 3 boys. Or should I say semi trained as they are never completely trained. Sorry Ral[ph and Barry . Boys take longer than girls but will do it when they are ready. My ADHD son was the worst as he didn't care. He wasn't fully trained until he was 5! I wouldn't recommend putting the potty chair in the bed room unless you don't like the flooring and would like to replace it. Try to make room in the bathroom if you can. As far as pullups go I felt the same way as you untill Jake, he did wear pullups because the whole thing was sooo frustrating for me. Pullups kept things in perspective. Even when my boys were trained during the day they still had problems at night and would wear underwear during the day and pullups at night. I needed sleep and was running out of sheets. Glad those days are over! Our oldest boy we did have to put on a program at night to teach him to wake up when he had to go. Good luck, Sue Also my sympathy ;D

[tridlette]

I have to agree with Sue, they are never really trained... I live with DH and 3 DS's. Oldest was trained the day he turned 3. I just told him that 3 year olds aren't allowed diapers anymore. Not one accident until he was about 9! Next boy was still in diapers until a week before he was 4. Nightly episodes even now at 11. I just got the cloth type of hospital bed pads... a dozen of them so we don't have to keep changing sheets every other hour. Youngest, darn it if didn't train himself at 3 yrs, 3 mos. I hadn't made any effort since we were moving away from the only home I had ever known, to a new state and would be living in temporary housing (a.k.a. hotel) for a few weeks. As we crossed the state line driving away from home, he asked to use the potty because now he lived in Vermont where boys were rough and tough and didn't need sissy stuff like diapers. (I still don't know where he got that line from!)

When they are ready, they will do their thing in approximately the right place. But, like Sue hinted, they will never aim straight. Let him make his efforts in the right room, and let him set the pace. I admit I was very short tempered with the second one when he never got it right. I regret the temper tantrums on my part now. Do your best to let the messes go, pick the battles.

Forget all the books about training in a day... they do, what they do, when they want to, and there is not much you can do, except encourage them where to do it!


Be brave, it will eventually solve itself, maybe 15 years from now when he moves out, but it will not be your problem by then either ;D

Laurie

[Jenn]

I used pull ups because I hate doing laundry the money I would of spent on underware and laundry was about the same as the cost of pull ups so. And I would of felt really bad if Mikie would of wet in my friends car or on the sofa. He hated the potty chair, went straight to the toliet. He also was nite time trained by the time he was 3 1/2. Poor Kat was 7 or 8 before she could be fully nite time trained. The only time he has problems is when he is sick, and Kat has not had any since she finally went a whole week without wetting the bed.

It is hard to decide how to do it. pull ups are made more and more like underware, I mean they are super thin, not as thin as the ultra thin maxi pads lol but pretty thin these days. I think it is a good thing to use for a while at least until he learns what the urge is like in just in case he don't make it, but once he gets it down a little and knows the drill than turn to underware.

They hate that wet against the skin but when training the wet may make them hold it until they just flood over and end up with a bladder infection.

That is just my thinking on it.

[Honeysmom]

Cat, my DD is also 31 months and she is waaaaay harder to train than Honey ever was. Honey trained himself one day. He just did it, and never even had a nighttime accident until last September when he injured himself by holding it for too long. He was trained at 2 yrs, 2 months. Once he was trained I neve even had to bring an extra outfit anywhere we went, we've yet to have an accident.

Now, my DD is just not getting it. She wets all of the time, but refuses a diaper b/c they are "for babies." (Who taught her to talk anyway?) I am not a fan of pullups b/c DD thinks that it is just a diaper. I think each kid is differnt that way. Some of my Aunt's kids trained faster in undies b/c they could not stand the wet feeling in thier jeans. So far I am having the most luck with a naked baby running around here. As soon as we add clothes she wets. I think she waits until too late and then can't get them off. She had her 2 1/2 y/o check up last week and the doc said not to push her and he isn't going to worry about it until she is at least 4! Aparently he forgot how much I am paying for diapers.

Someone once told me that if you can get him to stand on a stool put Cheerios in the toilet and let him "take aim." It is supposed to be fun, don't know, never tried it!

[aimee30]

I think boys are easier to train. I have 2 boys and a girl. With my DD it took forever. She was almost 4 before she was trained and she still has problems with bedwetting. My littlest guy is 25 mos and I feel like he is ready. I was actually thinking of at least giving it a whirl this week. According to the almanac, the signs are right the 21st (tomorrow). If he doesn't get the hang of it we will wait til next month and try again. And so on and so forth until he gets the hang of it.

My oldest boy is 10. He was potty trained at 2 and a 1/2. We started with a potty chair but quickly went to the ring for the big potty. I, like you, have very little room in the bathroom. We moved the hamper into the hallway during potty training. Something had to go. The potty chair we used could be turned over and made into a step ladder to reach the toilet. As long as that was there he wasn't afraid of being so high up. Once he was ready to stand to pee we did the cheerio thing. We called it sink the cheerio. He loved aiming for them and if he actually hit one we would cheer him on. Sounds crazy but it worked. Just the other day someone told me they had something that looked like targets you could actually put in the toilet. I personally haven't seen them, but it's worth looking into. Cheerios always worked for us though. Just a thought.

That's about the best I can do. Hope something helps.

[mom2tj]

well I read all you advice... I'm in the same boat here DS is 25 months old and is not talking yet so I dont know how he would tell me but I still took out the ring thing and like Brooke he puts it on his head

he seems to want to sit on the potty but when I try he looks scared and wiggles off... so for now its a decoration in my bathroom. ;D

Ds #1 was not trained before way past 3 I tried everything I could think of...... he would hold it in until bed when I would put a pull-up and then go and stay soiled all night unless I noticed.... so I gave up gave it a rest and he came around himself It was the most fustrating thing night time was hard he wet the bed up until about 6 months ago still has the occational accident.

let me know if and what works I'll keep reading

[TexasMom]

Now, if I could just get my 10-year old to wipe and flush!

[rosyred45]

At this point, I don't have any advice, but my MIL said that my husband was about 13 months old(hmmm, don't know if she's telling a tale, but I have seen it) when he potty trained himself. He'd just take off the diaper and run around naked, and go potty as close as he could.

Jezz, somethings never change do they ;D ;D ;D

Actually, this has a point. He hated the wetness around him. Still does to this day, he won't go to my grandmom's with us to swim unless it's over 100 and the swim trunks can dry quickly.
Wierdo, but I married him
Kaiti

[finnmom]

Hi
I´am at no help here but putting my 2 cent´s in ;D
With my kid´s there is no significant difference between boy and 2 girl´s. Ds8 was try at days about 20 mos, and at night´s around 36 mos, but I just had dd at that time, so I didn´t do anything to get him out of night-pull-up´s earlier. Dd5 mainly selftrained herself to be try both night´s and day´s around 24 mos. now my dd 34mos was try at days around 22mos and is now mainly try at night´s too, we just got her out of night-diaper´s at christmas, and so long it seems to be fine.

Dont hurry too much, every kid take´s their own time, it´s not too late until about 4is, it´s quite normal to wet the bed once a week still at the age of 5-6. (Atleast that´s how we tell parent´s in here, I work at the children healt care)

All 3 of mine have prefered the real toilet, not potty. We´ve had different experience´s of that ring, daughter´s used it, son didn´t, go figure

Just take the time, it´ll be okay, although I have to agree with that aiming, it never seem´s to be so clear where to aim
Marja

[tridlette]

Texas mom, let me know if you find the cure for the wipe and flush. I don't have to worry much about the washing part since he doesn't touch anything "dirty" yet! He is 9 also. It is sooooo frustrating and embarrassing. He likes to wear his "tighty whiteys" but since I can't keep them that way, I buy him the dark and dirty version... already black, brown and navy blue, some with stripes! Saves me from trying to keep his clothes from "looking" spotless. Still have to use Febreze laundry with every load!

when will they be 18???

[Honeysmom]

This is really gross, but my DD2 has a terrible habit of wiping with her hand, YUCK! Then as if that is not bad enough, she very conviently wipes it on the wall. I found that if I keep the bathroom door shut she has to ask to have it opened and then I can keep an eye on her.

Honey had a hard time using tiolet paper b/c he is so small so he would either skip it or go to the extreme and fill up the whole toilet bowl to the point that there was no water left in it. I bought him those flushable wipes. They are only for him and they work really well.

I guess it is true when people tell you that you lose all decency when you have kids. I never imagined myself cleaning poop off of the walls or smelling someones diaper to see if it was dirty. I have definately lost all decency!

[mom2tj]

Honeysmom said:

smelling someones diaper to see if it was dirty. I have definately lost all decency!

LOL been there done that !