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Post by HooDunnit on Feb 23, 2005 4:24:28 GMT -5
One thing I realize now about having an ADHD child is that it really sucks you in as far as your energy and time goes. I don't know if all ADHD children are like this, but ours can be totally dominating. Even when there are no issues, you are sort of waiting for the next storm. Your whole family life seems to orient around the condition. You can never forget it or get away from it or just be normal.
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Post by Linda on Feb 23, 2005 7:16:35 GMT -5
I think we all can relate to this Barry....I always looked at it as "Being on Guard".....From elementary all the way through middle school I have always felt that way. When the phone would ring during the school day I always looked at caller ID before I picked up  Things have eased up a LOT but it is always there if that makes any sense. Yes I know exactly what you mean.  |
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Post by mothercat on Feb 23, 2005 8:11:17 GMT -5
I think living with adhd in the family is very exhausting and time consuming. There are times when Bobo will say "cant we just go one day with using the "ad had" word. {he thinks if he says it like that Jared doesn't know what he means...Jared is 11 ;D ;D} I have other family members who have severly adhd children and they just like ignore it completely. {which is why their kids are floundering and usually shoved off on my mom.. who's health is bad enough that she doesn't need the probs}  I think we have our time consumed more because we are actually being parents who care adhd or not. As for the caller ID ...I wish they made them in big print so I didn't have to find my glasses every time the phone rings.  |
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Post by milesofsmiles on Feb 23, 2005 9:51:09 GMT -5
I have heard that the storms are created just because the add/hd feel no control over their own thoughts and emotions. They sometimes create that vortex to suck you into their world. It is more than difficult to relate, and even more frustrating for them trying to explain what they are going through. So yes, we wake up every morning tip toeing into our son's room wondering what side of Jeckle or Hyde we are going to get. Some mornings I just want to forget I ever woke him up. Miles |
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Post by mothercat on Feb 23, 2005 9:54:11 GMT -5
Gee jared is our adhd one and he seems to always wake up peachy....Its the TEENAGER that we need a beware sign for. (and during the day he is the peachy one not Jared) |
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Post by Linda on Feb 23, 2005 10:14:21 GMT -5
Paul wakes up happy...I am the ornery one  Just goes to show how different our kids can be.  |
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Post by mom2tj on Feb 23, 2005 12:21:55 GMT -5
""just be normal"" what is that? ? there are days like this morning  I wish I had a "Normal" child..... I sometimes morn having one, how I wish I could get him off to shcool just once without getting upset...... ds#1 is almost 10 still I have to be on top of him for everything, I cant beleive that a avarage 10 cant get dressed and get his stuff ready for school on his own... I have to make sure he has what he needs and I have to make sure he has the proper clothes I think he will be in high school and I will still be doing this fo him.. Please someone tell me it gets better...... |
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Post by camismom on Feb 23, 2005 13:40:18 GMT -5
Barry, you decribed EXACTLY how I'm feeling right now with Cami. I feel like we have to walk on egg shells around her at all times, and I find myself actually thinking of the "right" way (to her anyway) to answer a question of hers without setting her off. It has become just completely exhausting, stressful, and yes time dominating raising her. ADHD has touched every part of her life in some way and made it miserable for both her and me.
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Post by AnneM on Feb 23, 2005 16:26:48 GMT -5
Wow Barry !! I think you have really touched on something here .... and something all of us can relate to one way or another! I have certainly at times over the years felt that I HATE add/adhd and some of the things included in it !! ...  Sometimes I have felt exhausted by it ... other times it is exasperating ... Sam was ALWAYS a "high maintenance" kid ... but he has come a long, long way ... but there are still days and times when I think "Whew!! You exhaust me Sam !! ... and your demands (either directly or indirectly) are above what I honestly think they should be... !" I think I have more to say on this because this is very interesting ... |
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Post by TexasMom on Feb 24, 2005 0:05:56 GMT -5
I know what you mean. I saw a special on the Discovery Health channel about a family with 3yr-old quints who were saying that they were pretty normal and easy to handle. I remember wishing I could change places with them.... |
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Post by Linda on Feb 24, 2005 7:01:06 GMT -5
TexasMom....That is too funny. I have had days like that too ;D ;D ;D
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Post by camismom on Feb 24, 2005 8:16:10 GMT -5
I have certainly at times over the years felt that I HATE add/adhd and some of the things included in it !! ... Sometimes I have felt exhausted by it ... other times it is exasperating ... I can so totally agree with that comment. I do absolutely HATE ADHD and what it has done to my child, to me, to my family, to our relationship, etc. Cami being my only child I have esp. hated it because for so long I looked forward to being a mother, and now there are times that I think "this is not what it's supposed to be like." I love my child, but I hate the behavior that comes from her. I try to keep the two seperate though so I don't wind up hating her. It's hard though when she is screaming at me, insulting me, or just acting totally irrational. I know alot of her current behaviors have to do with her age, her hormones, her depression, etc. But then I also know that without the ADHD there probably wouldn't be the depression, and with the ADHD the hormonal/age related behavior is worsened, so it takes me back to hating it again. Good topic Barry. |
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Post by Linda on Feb 24, 2005 9:23:54 GMT -5
Christy...the hormonal/age thing is a good point...but it effects every child differently...from what I am reading it seems to hit girls a little bit harder?
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Post by camismom on Feb 24, 2005 10:20:49 GMT -5
I have read the same thing Linda. I used to really hold out hope that when her "change" hit, the change in her hormones would maybe bring about a change in her chemicals and help with the ADHD. Then last year I read the book Understanding Girls with AD/HD and it said that ADHD worsens in girls during this period. I'm finding that to be very true. Cami is a whirlwind of emotions with a VERY short fuse. We do literally have to walk on egg shells around her sometimes.
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Post by camismom on Feb 24, 2005 10:50:52 GMT -5
" I think he will be in high school and I will still be doing this fo him.. A constant question to Cami in my house: "What are you going to do when you are grown and out of this house? Expect me to come to your place every morning and drag you out of bed, tell you what to wear, how to fix your hair, etc.?" Her answer is always, "I'll be older and more mature then." ;D ;D ;D ;D I've been telling myself that about her for years. At 13, it still hasn't happened. |
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