romance

[HooDunnit]

How important would you say that romance is in a relationship? Do you think that women are more interested in romance than men? In our relationship, I might be more romantic than my wife. Sometimes I even read romance novels. I asked her once if I were that way and she said, "Well, I think we've established that, dear."

[jdmom]

I think that it is the norm for the woman to be more romantic than the man. Lots of men consider romance as unmanly for some reason, when I think it is actually the opposite. The more romantic a man is shows me that he is tough enough to show his softer side.

And as far as how important romance is to a relationship....what women appreciate the most about romantic gestures is just that the man THOUGHT to do it! Flowers or gifts unexpectantly go a long way.

As far as romantic time spent together: Every couple needs "us time". It's just a given. If it's a stolen moment here and there or a romantic weekend get-away, being romantic towards one another just let's you know that the old flame is still burning!

[Linda]

Wanna know what romance is? A few years ago my dh came to my job and presented me with a diamond tennis bracelet!!!!!

What is unusuall about this is I normally do not like diamonds but he heard me mention to someone that I really liked diamond bracelets!!

I have not taken the bracelet off once

[rosyred45]

AWWWWWW that's sweet.

Mike won't buy me a dozen roses, they die too soon, he buys rose bushes instead

[finnmom]

I think romance is importantant for relationship.... not like it should happend in frequent timeline, that´ll be a pattern, not romantic act But every now and then.... it´s the key to keep the relationship alive.

It doesnt have to be big one eather; mayby a chocolade-bar when he goes grosery-shopping.... although... it was great to get 10 red rose´s at our 10th anniversary... the better yet; they were delivered at my job in the midle of the day

[DANIEL]

romance, not an idea that is missing from a mans vocabulary. but the implamentation of it differs from what women want. our idea of romance is changing into clean underwear, ya know the ones without the stains. , or maybe not drinking directly from the milk jug. stuff like that. its kinda funny, i hear women complain all the time about men not taking notice in the little things. what women dont realize is that they dont take notice either, now granted the ability to take notice in things that we do takes awesome powers of observation. little things like taking dishes into the kitchen, or creating that pile of clothing on the floor in the bedroom that looks alot like what would happen if a person ceased to exist and their clothing fell to the floor, verses leaving a trail from the front door to the bathroom. its important to understand that men although physically grow up, we dont grow up much inside. remember in grade school when you liked a girl you would not throw mud at her, unless you think she might like it then you throw an extra large amount on her. you have all heard the story of the mom who cleans and cooks doe the dishes and takes care of the kids, day after day after day, with little or no thanks, then you get up one morning and your husband has this smile on his face like he has just done the best most thoughtful thing in his life, and he is carrying a tray with breakfast on it. in the background however the kitchen is on fire, and looks as if it has been ransacked by no less than 30 hunns. or the laundry has been done and everything you own is now a sickly shade of pink. i wrote a book once about men and women and pregnancy, it was basically a how to (survive) guide on helping your wife out with the daily chores and things of that nature so it would be easier on her. i got a draft of it here somewhere around here, if anyone is interested.
happy holidays

[Linda]

I would be very interested in the draft Daniel

I like a lot of women DO take notice of the little things our men do.Even if things are not done the way I would like it....I still appreciate it.

[sweety]

I think romance is in the eye of the beholder. My family is currently in a fight over my nephew's upcoming wedding. My husband is VERY protective of what the different sides say to me and how they should treat me. I wouldn't be suprised if he tells my mother or my sister off during the holiday visit. He doesn't send me flowers but I have never had anyone be so protective and aware of how people treat me. He would die for dd and I. Like I said in an earlier post. He's still got his duck hunting gun and any boy she goes out with better take REAL GOOD care of that Okie I married's child.

[rosyred45]

:DSweety, your hubby is sitting next to my hubby when the girl's go on a date ;)It is funny though, I said it before, but didn't make sense til I had kids.....my dad sat on teh step with a baseball bat one nite waiting for me to get home

Now I understand......oh and, romance wise, he ALWAYS puts the lid down :Deven yelled at his dad that he needed to remember he was at our house. The dishes might not be done, but the lid goes down

Hey, I say hes a keeper ;D

[danielle]

so whats classified as romance?

showing affection for one another?

gifts?

private get aways ?

surprises?

[mothercat]

I think in my own mind romance is different for some reason. Romance is when gramma still talks about granpa when she has been down with alszheimers for six yrs and he has been dead for over 20. It is not so much what you do as to how you think. Its more a look in the eyes that lasts forever than what you say and its the feel of a touch that never goes away. I see in the eyes of the old that romance is more than doing and when you give it comes from the heart. I myself like the jewelry and flowers and toys but the one thing I like getting most is that one certain smile that turns my heart over. Its been a bad week so just ignore me.

[danielle]

You right on mothercat...

its not the doing that makes me melt .. its knwoing it comes from inside.. deep .. and sometimes just isn't anymore more then a .. look.. a glance... a simple.. holding my hand for no reason....

/sigh...

[rosyred45]

AWWWWWW. you all are sweet.

I agree Mothercat is right on. It's in the look, the sparkle in the eye, whether it is sincere or mischievious, like my husband about 2 seconds ago

It's the glances across the crowded room, knowing that you are going to go home and snuggle.

And no matter how mad I am at him, when I go to bed and just cuddle, that's the best

[mothercat]

Right now the only look I want from my hubby is and better be a look of apology and fear...he will need a crowded room if the company he invited without consulting me shows up. He will need the crowd to save him. Its been a long week ;D

[Linda]

I'm right there with you mothercat I just read your other post