I'm so confused!

[jdmom]

Oooh, I want to see that movie! Good for you for taking your wife. I figure I'll go with a few girlfriends one day that we all manage to have sitters at the same time...which will probably be never, haha!
I've read the book, and it was great. As a matter of fact, it's laying on the end-table in my office right now. I drug it up here to skim back over during lunch, so that way I'd be able to compare it to the movie, when I saw it. But for some reason, I couldn't drag myself off the net during my lunch hour. Oh, well.
A girl I work with saw it and said the same thing. Not a dry eye in the place. She went with a couple of her aunts and cousins and her grandma. She said that it was pretty neat to sit there and watch 3 generations all cry their eyes out over the same movie.

[HooDunnit]

My initial thought was that the book is better. It uses a light touch and alludes to things which you need to work out in your imagination. It is a quite believable story, and is based on the experiences of the author's grandparents, I believe. The movie is a bit "Hollywoodized" so to speak, if you know what I mean. Things are added which aren't in the book, and some of them are quite improbable. But, you know, the movie has a magic of its own. The character of the woman in the story is much more developed in the movie, and the actress who plays her does an incredible job. The innocence of true love is all there. Please see it. You have to go. It is so uplifting and gives us all something to believe in.

[Honeysmom]

Buttercup, you are sooooo right!!

I married one of those cute men, and while I know he is faithful to me (as if he has time not to be ), some of them never get over that high of turning heads. It drives me insane, sometimes insanly jelous, b/c girls (not women b/c real ones don't act like this) hit on him everywhere! And they are blatant about it. he acts like he doesn't notice them, but if I hear him tell me one more time how good looking he is, I will lose it. I keep trying to tell him that being so vain is a big sin just to shut him up.

But you are young, there is no harm in a few dates. Unless you fall head over heels in love, start a physical relationship, and then who knows? Best case scenerio, he loves you and you live happily ever after. Worst case, you get pregnant, he is annoyed, still looking at other women, leaves you, and there you sit. 2 kids and no one to help you out. Doesn't sound like my idea of a good time. Sorry so rude about it, but there is nothing nice about "players."

Becky

[jdmom]

Well, I guess you all were right. We spoke on the phone Monday night, when I gave him my little spill about him giving me mixed signals. At that time, he told me that last week had been a crazy week at work, last weekend had been a crazy weekend because he had his little girl. But he told me he was free last night and that he would call me and we would go out. Never got the phone call. And the thing is, I'm pretty sure I'll hear from him tonight, and he'll have some big excuse. I'm just going to tell him that I'm too old to play games and that he passed up a good thing and leave it at that.

[rosyred45]

You know what's fun? Playing head games. I had this guy hitting on me, knowing full well I was married I tell my husband everything, so that doesn't matter, and he LAUGHS. And the guy's married too. But I take it as a compliment, especially since this guy is HOT.

The dude's a player, and me and Mike were talking last night that he has such a dominering personality, because he talks SO much, he's a follower. He talks big, but doesn't follow through with the little things. It is fun as all get out to flirt with him because he'll take it as far as you let him, BUT there's that follower attitude shining right through.

Anyhow, back to you. If I were you, don't worry too much if he calls, don't worry if he doesn't call, live your life and if he happens to trip in there sometime or another, let him join the party. I agree with your guy friend. He doesn't know what he wants, his life is pretty much filled to the brim right now, and he's probably out to have a great time. Just depends what flovor he wants :-Xat the time.

[HooDunnit]

RE "He doesn't know what he wants" This isn't true. Shame on you for writing that Kaiti. He knows what he wants. Why do you think that he flirts and has girls phoning him? The fact that he is a disappointment doesn't matter. Women love cads. They wait for them, because chasing doesn't help much. But they do wait for them, and hope.

[rosyred45]

I see that point, so I guess your right, I feel no shame though, but meaning his emotions are tugging him left and right and up and down.

[jdmom]

I don't know, this guy just really confused me. Usually, I can tell right off the bat what a guy is after. He took me to breakfast the first night, but didn't try to take me home. Didn't even kiss me! Then he calls every night the next week, and invites me to the lake. Then doesn't call me to let me know we're not going. Then we're supposed to go out last night, and he never calls! He didn't know that I wasn't going to give it up, cause he never tried. So what was the point of all those late night phone flirtations? Did he just need someone to talk to? Men suck!

[Linda]

Oh H E L L....Get yourself a "sugar daddy" and be done with it. ;D ;D

[HooDunnit]

I must admit that it does sound a lot like he has ADD / ADHD. My ADHD-son, who turned 18 this month (an adult now!) has big problems with time management. He often just doesn't seem to be aware of it. And when he is in a flow state (such as talking to girls on MSN), he can totally lose track of time and just about everything else he is supposed to do. Video games and exciting company can do that to him as well. But he really means well, so I don't take a moral approach to it. But time is a big problem for him. Sometimes other people get angry at what he seems to have forgotten to do. But his mind was just somewhere else. He is sort of like helium balloons.

[rosyred45]

I like Linda's idea. ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D

Can I go get one too Oh wait, gotta ask hubby, he wants to know why? HAHAHAHA

[HooDunnit]

jdmom is too young for a suger daddy. She is 28. She still has ideals.

[Linda]

Barry...you are never to young!

[jdmom]

Now, I have to admit, a sugar daddy sounds great! As long as he's not too old. I'm not into wrinkles!

That's one thing I liked about this guy. He had a great job! He built, installed, repaired, and took down gas and oil rigs. Lots of traveling. That way I could have him around when I wanted him to be, and he could be gone when he was getting on my nerves. Sounds perfect. He would call me from far away, late at night when he was on his way home. Maybe that was it. He just needed someone to talk to late at night to keep him awake while he was driving. He said he never gets in bed until about 3 or 4 a.m. when he's working, then usually slept until noon or so and then was back on the road again. But he also told me since he worked his butt off last week, he was taking it easy this week, and he would spend some time with me "getting to know me better". Well, here it is Wednesday........

I think it's the brush off that's upset me more than the fact that I liked him. I did everything right. I didn't call him, or bug him, or act too clingy, but let him know I was interested when he called. And he was so dang hot......*sigh* It's true, all the good guys are married or gay.

[HooDunnit]

And another possibility is that he just has a very busy life and will get back to you yet. Then what will you say?