Post by jdmom on Jul 26, 2004 17:04:49 GMT -5
Ok most of you guys know me, but I don't know if you know that I am divorced and 28 years old. I've been divorced for about 4 years now.
I met this really good looking guy 2 weekends ago. We met at a club, but a mutual friend introduced us. He took me to breakfast after the club and we sat there for over 2 hours just talking. We really got along great. Had a lot in common. He has a great job, is 26, divorced (only) 9 months, and has an 11 month old little girl. The friend who intro'd us says he is a great guy, hard-worker, has lots to do with his little girl.
He called me every night last week. Then he asked me to go to the lake with him and some friends on Saturday. I accepted. Then he didn't call me Friday night. Then he didn't call Saturday. It was raining like the thingyens Saturday, so of course I knew we weren't going to the lake, but he didn't call. Finally, I took off for a friend's house late Saturday afternoon. I already had a baby-siiter, cause i thought we were going to the lake, and I wasn't just going to sit around and wait for him to call. On my way to the friends (the same one who intro'd us) he called me. He asked what I was doing, and I answered that I was going to my friend's (rather huffily). Then he said "Oh", like he was disappointed or something. So I asked why? He replied that some of his buddies were going out to eat and were asking him to go. I think he wanted to ask me to go, and then got nervous about my attitude. So I felt bad and invited him up to the friend's house. He said he was going to eat with his buds, and then would come up there afterwards. He did. He was there for about 30 minutes when his cell rang, and when he answered it, I could hear it was a girl. He got up and walked away, but I could tell from the sound of his voice that he was getting hateful with her. At one point I heard him say "And what the h*** am I supposed to do about it?" Then he tells me that he has to leave for a few minutes and wants to know if I'll still be there when he gets back. I just shrugged. Then he asked me to please wait for him. This was about 11 pm. So I said okay. At 12:30, he's still not back So I get mad and leave. I sent him a text message as I was leaving that said "I'm bored. Going home. Thought you were coming back??" I don't hear from him that night. I'm ticked. Sunday morning, I get a text message from him that says "I'm so sorry. I fell asleep at Mac's house. Will you ever forgive me?" I don't believe for a minute that he fell asleep anywhere, but think to myself "What the hey, it's not like we're serious or anything." So I call him (the first time out of all the times we talked where I called him.) He apologized and I kinda let him know I was ticked without getting female dogy. I think I said something along the lines of "All I know is you got a call from a girl and left and I didn't hear anything else out of you." We talked for a while, and flirted, and then he said he'd have to call me back later, and he never did!
I'm trying hard here not to just lay into him because I realize that at this point, there is nothing between us. And I realize that with him being divorced for only 9 months, he's probably not looking for anything serious anyway. I wouldn't mind just going out and having fun with the guy, you know? Every time we've talked he seems like a lot of fun and we like to do a lot of the same things. But then it almost seems like he's blowing me off. But if he wanted to blow me off, why did he send the text message Sunday apologizing? I'm going canoeing with some friends this Saturday, and would like to invite him, but figured I'd wait and see how things go this week. I did break down and call him today. I got his voice mail and just asked him to call me. I hardly ever call guys unless they ask me to, because the last thing I want to seem like is a clingy person, becuase I actually like my space and enjoy some "me time".
I don't know what to think. He has called ME every time. He flirts like crazy. Last Thursday, he asked me if it would be okay to come over to my house this week. He has intitiated everything, but then it seems like he's blowing me off. I've made it pretty clear I'm interested, I think. I've flirted back and all that crap. I'm just so confused. I'm too old to play these little high school games.
I have 2 best friends and we've been friends for years. One of them says to drop him like a hot potato becuase he's too inconsiderate and I have a bad track record with inconsiderate men.
The other one says to just go with the flow and not worry about it. She says I'm too serious all the time and I need to find a guy to just have fun with, no strings attached.
I'm just confused. Is it too soon to tell him I thought he acted like a jerk? I really would like to see him some more, and am kinda confused that he doesn't act like he wants to see me, since he is the one who has done all the calling, and asked me to the lake. What do you guys think?
BTW - this whole thing just seems SO ADHD to me!
I met this really good looking guy 2 weekends ago. We met at a club, but a mutual friend introduced us. He took me to breakfast after the club and we sat there for over 2 hours just talking. We really got along great. Had a lot in common. He has a great job, is 26, divorced (only) 9 months, and has an 11 month old little girl. The friend who intro'd us says he is a great guy, hard-worker, has lots to do with his little girl.
He called me every night last week. Then he asked me to go to the lake with him and some friends on Saturday. I accepted. Then he didn't call me Friday night. Then he didn't call Saturday. It was raining like the thingyens Saturday, so of course I knew we weren't going to the lake, but he didn't call. Finally, I took off for a friend's house late Saturday afternoon. I already had a baby-siiter, cause i thought we were going to the lake, and I wasn't just going to sit around and wait for him to call. On my way to the friends (the same one who intro'd us) he called me. He asked what I was doing, and I answered that I was going to my friend's (rather huffily). Then he said "Oh", like he was disappointed or something. So I asked why? He replied that some of his buddies were going out to eat and were asking him to go. I think he wanted to ask me to go, and then got nervous about my attitude. So I felt bad and invited him up to the friend's house. He said he was going to eat with his buds, and then would come up there afterwards. He did. He was there for about 30 minutes when his cell rang, and when he answered it, I could hear it was a girl. He got up and walked away, but I could tell from the sound of his voice that he was getting hateful with her. At one point I heard him say "And what the h*** am I supposed to do about it?" Then he tells me that he has to leave for a few minutes and wants to know if I'll still be there when he gets back. I just shrugged. Then he asked me to please wait for him. This was about 11 pm. So I said okay. At 12:30, he's still not back So I get mad and leave. I sent him a text message as I was leaving that said "I'm bored. Going home. Thought you were coming back??" I don't hear from him that night. I'm ticked. Sunday morning, I get a text message from him that says "I'm so sorry. I fell asleep at Mac's house. Will you ever forgive me?" I don't believe for a minute that he fell asleep anywhere, but think to myself "What the hey, it's not like we're serious or anything." So I call him (the first time out of all the times we talked where I called him.) He apologized and I kinda let him know I was ticked without getting female dogy. I think I said something along the lines of "All I know is you got a call from a girl and left and I didn't hear anything else out of you." We talked for a while, and flirted, and then he said he'd have to call me back later, and he never did!
I'm trying hard here not to just lay into him because I realize that at this point, there is nothing between us. And I realize that with him being divorced for only 9 months, he's probably not looking for anything serious anyway. I wouldn't mind just going out and having fun with the guy, you know? Every time we've talked he seems like a lot of fun and we like to do a lot of the same things. But then it almost seems like he's blowing me off. But if he wanted to blow me off, why did he send the text message Sunday apologizing? I'm going canoeing with some friends this Saturday, and would like to invite him, but figured I'd wait and see how things go this week. I did break down and call him today. I got his voice mail and just asked him to call me. I hardly ever call guys unless they ask me to, because the last thing I want to seem like is a clingy person, becuase I actually like my space and enjoy some "me time".
I don't know what to think. He has called ME every time. He flirts like crazy. Last Thursday, he asked me if it would be okay to come over to my house this week. He has intitiated everything, but then it seems like he's blowing me off. I've made it pretty clear I'm interested, I think. I've flirted back and all that crap. I'm just so confused. I'm too old to play these little high school games.
I have 2 best friends and we've been friends for years. One of them says to drop him like a hot potato becuase he's too inconsiderate and I have a bad track record with inconsiderate men.
The other one says to just go with the flow and not worry about it. She says I'm too serious all the time and I need to find a guy to just have fun with, no strings attached.I'm just confused. Is it too soon to tell him I thought he acted like a jerk? I really would like to see him some more, and am kinda confused that he doesn't act like he wants to see me, since he is the one who has done all the calling, and asked me to the lake. What do you guys think?
BTW - this whole thing just seems SO ADHD to me!
But, like I've said before, I'm to old to play those games anymore.
, I can squish bugs and mow yards and take trash out all by myself! The only one who messes up my house is my kid, and that doesn't irritate me as much as when my ex did it. I can stay home and relax and play with my kid and do basically whatever the heck I want whenever I want to do it, without having to check in with anyone else. When I feel like going out, I can go out. I got married young, and went straight from mom's and dad's to living with my hubby, though I did go to college out of state for one year. It's just kinda nice to have my own life.