Post by buttercup on Jun 22, 2004 10:29:51 GMT -5
I thought this topic deserved an entirely new thread.
Are the rest of you as sensitive to weird people and weird, rude behaviors as I am? I feel like I am either just a magnet for people without boundaries and crazy issues, or that I tend to perceive them and get freaked out by them more than anyone else I know.
Ugh.
Yesterday, I had to deal with no less than 4 people who crawled out of the woodwork to weird me out or annoy the daylights out of me.
My neighbor - is a very new age massage therapist. She introduced herself to me about a month ago and has been knocking on my door or calling almost daily. Ugh. I am handling her, but geez...she keeps asking for favors, etc. and then saying "I'm sorry, I know I keep bothering you lately" or trying to get me involved in her causes. UGHHGHGHG!!!
Singing teacher--I called an ad in our local paper for singing instruction. It was a weird "husband/wife" situation where I almost ran out the door. He was this pompous, condescending, arrogant icky older guy whom I could barely understand. I had to stop him 5 or 6 times to ask him to repeat a word he used. It was ridiculous. I asked him questions to clarify these seemingly bullnuts type explanations and he acted angry and said that I ask an awful lot of questions. I wouldn't HAVE to if he made any sense. It was ridiculous. He ends up leaving in the middle of the lesson and just telling his young, YOUNG wife to finish up. Then at one point, they both left me sitting there and went in the kitchen to make tea. I was so weirded out, you can't even believe it. What I am writing is only the tip of the whole experience. They had a daughter that was jumping all over me the 2nd half of the lesson...no boundaries whatsoever. Ugh.
Hairdresser--decided to splurge on a great haircolor. So, looked up a salon in the most expensive part of the city. Her ad says "COLOR SPECIALIST" - that is supposed to be her main business. She screwed up my hair royal and got dye all over my shirt. I had to go elsewhere to get it fixed. When I called to tell her calmly (yes, I managed to be composed), she was snappy, angry, defensive and hung up on me. Told me that getting dye on my clothes is to be expected when I go to a hairdresser.
My half sister--the angriest woman you have ever met. I hope none of you ever meet her. She is seriously whacked and barely has any social skills. Asked her if she would like to help me get our dad moved into a smaller place now that he's 85. I can't even explain in words the joy it is to deal with her. She is so out there that she thinks she has extra-special ESP powers and that she knows EVERYTHING. You cannot have a discussion with her, because she already KNOWS what the answers are. If you ask her the basis of her knowledge, she doesn't have any answers, just raises her voice to try to initimidate you. The louder the voice the more rght she is...something like that.
My brother - does not believe in ADHD or depression. Simply thinks people are lazy people looking for excuses. If you were on a bridge about to jump, he would hold up a Nike "just do it" sign. He is currently not answering or returning my phonecalls because I pointed this out to him (I think that's the reason).
Co-Workers - OMG!!! The raging alcoholic, former drug addict that keeps wanting to get close to me and tell me all her yucky drug stories from the past.
The anger queen who hates everybody, especially men. She is a snob and INSISTS on being the ultimate authority on, well...everything...especially the arts. If you see a movie she hasn't seen, well, she will tell you that it's not worth seeing because she has already read the reviews. She is loud and rude when she gets with another person. It is her passive way of telling someone off. She will say exactly what she thinks of someone loud enough that they can hear, but she'll use the excuse of talking TO a different person. If you are the person she talking TO, you feel like you are agreeing to what she's saying. It's so embarrassing and wrong.
2 others that keep calling me that I come away feeling like sh*t aftterward we've gone to have lunch or shopping together. Just have weird energy and are RELENTLESS about trying to get me to make time to go and do things with them. I always make excuses and they never get the hint. So, then eventually, I give up, forget how freaked out I am by them, and go. Ugh.
MOTHER OF GOD -- WHERE DO THESE PEOPLE COME FROM?
Ok, to be fair...I haven't mentioned the absolutely wonderful people that I love and who are normal in my life. But, seriously about the others...are you as sensitive as me? Do I just notice these people more? Are you as freaked out by others' behaviors as I am? I can always understand if someone has had a bad day and they are not on good behavior, but when they are so out there on a regular basis and not seeking help, I just feel like I'm surrounded by insanity or something.
I'm really working hard to protect my space. I know that I do tend to make people feel comfortable and excited to talk to me--think it's sort of the ADHD charisma thing. I have been told I have a knack for making situations more exciting, motivating people, etc., so maybe that's part of it.
I can only imagine what it's like to be Tony Robbins. He is someone that seems very ADHD to me and I imagine probably attracts a whole LOAD of folks that want a piece of him somehow.
Rant, Rant, Rant....
buttercup
Are the rest of you as sensitive to weird people and weird, rude behaviors as I am? I feel like I am either just a magnet for people without boundaries and crazy issues, or that I tend to perceive them and get freaked out by them more than anyone else I know.
Ugh.
Yesterday, I had to deal with no less than 4 people who crawled out of the woodwork to weird me out or annoy the daylights out of me.
My neighbor - is a very new age massage therapist. She introduced herself to me about a month ago and has been knocking on my door or calling almost daily. Ugh. I am handling her, but geez...she keeps asking for favors, etc. and then saying "I'm sorry, I know I keep bothering you lately" or trying to get me involved in her causes. UGHHGHGHG!!!
Singing teacher--I called an ad in our local paper for singing instruction. It was a weird "husband/wife" situation where I almost ran out the door. He was this pompous, condescending, arrogant icky older guy whom I could barely understand. I had to stop him 5 or 6 times to ask him to repeat a word he used. It was ridiculous. I asked him questions to clarify these seemingly bullnuts type explanations and he acted angry and said that I ask an awful lot of questions. I wouldn't HAVE to if he made any sense. It was ridiculous. He ends up leaving in the middle of the lesson and just telling his young, YOUNG wife to finish up. Then at one point, they both left me sitting there and went in the kitchen to make tea. I was so weirded out, you can't even believe it. What I am writing is only the tip of the whole experience. They had a daughter that was jumping all over me the 2nd half of the lesson...no boundaries whatsoever. Ugh.
Hairdresser--decided to splurge on a great haircolor. So, looked up a salon in the most expensive part of the city. Her ad says "COLOR SPECIALIST" - that is supposed to be her main business. She screwed up my hair royal and got dye all over my shirt. I had to go elsewhere to get it fixed. When I called to tell her calmly (yes, I managed to be composed), she was snappy, angry, defensive and hung up on me. Told me that getting dye on my clothes is to be expected when I go to a hairdresser.
My half sister--the angriest woman you have ever met. I hope none of you ever meet her. She is seriously whacked and barely has any social skills. Asked her if she would like to help me get our dad moved into a smaller place now that he's 85. I can't even explain in words the joy it is to deal with her. She is so out there that she thinks she has extra-special ESP powers and that she knows EVERYTHING. You cannot have a discussion with her, because she already KNOWS what the answers are. If you ask her the basis of her knowledge, she doesn't have any answers, just raises her voice to try to initimidate you. The louder the voice the more rght she is...something like that.
My brother - does not believe in ADHD or depression. Simply thinks people are lazy people looking for excuses. If you were on a bridge about to jump, he would hold up a Nike "just do it" sign. He is currently not answering or returning my phonecalls because I pointed this out to him (I think that's the reason).
Co-Workers - OMG!!! The raging alcoholic, former drug addict that keeps wanting to get close to me and tell me all her yucky drug stories from the past.
The anger queen who hates everybody, especially men. She is a snob and INSISTS on being the ultimate authority on, well...everything...especially the arts. If you see a movie she hasn't seen, well, she will tell you that it's not worth seeing because she has already read the reviews. She is loud and rude when she gets with another person. It is her passive way of telling someone off. She will say exactly what she thinks of someone loud enough that they can hear, but she'll use the excuse of talking TO a different person. If you are the person she talking TO, you feel like you are agreeing to what she's saying. It's so embarrassing and wrong.
2 others that keep calling me that I come away feeling like sh*t aftterward we've gone to have lunch or shopping together. Just have weird energy and are RELENTLESS about trying to get me to make time to go and do things with them. I always make excuses and they never get the hint. So, then eventually, I give up, forget how freaked out I am by them, and go. Ugh.
MOTHER OF GOD -- WHERE DO THESE PEOPLE COME FROM?
Ok, to be fair...I haven't mentioned the absolutely wonderful people that I love and who are normal in my life. But, seriously about the others...are you as sensitive as me? Do I just notice these people more? Are you as freaked out by others' behaviors as I am? I can always understand if someone has had a bad day and they are not on good behavior, but when they are so out there on a regular basis and not seeking help, I just feel like I'm surrounded by insanity or something.
I'm really working hard to protect my space. I know that I do tend to make people feel comfortable and excited to talk to me--think it's sort of the ADHD charisma thing. I have been told I have a knack for making situations more exciting, motivating people, etc., so maybe that's part of it.
I can only imagine what it's like to be Tony Robbins. He is someone that seems very ADHD to me and I imagine probably attracts a whole LOAD of folks that want a piece of him somehow.
Rant, Rant, Rant....
buttercup
