Post by aaa-alison on Mar 15, 2004 9:32:30 GMT -5
I think you are a great mom for asking us adults how we coped for your child/childrens benefit.
If I could be a child with ADHD now, I would want my mom and dad to love me unconditionally and have me hang out with other children who have my disability. I would want to be on chat lines or talk to people my age-like me. And I would need to be okay with me, and I would need to be able to explain myself to others and be comfortable with how I am.
I believe that people with ADHD are special and have a lot to offer. We are usually very bright, even though people think we are dumb or flighty because of our inattentiveness.
I would also want my mom or dad to encourage me to do things that feel good. If I felt good skateboarding-maybe send me to a camp for that. Or if I felt good helping people-maybe help me to get more into that and help me to achieve my goal of bringing them stuff or giving them things.
I guess I would want my parents to really understand me and help me to achieve my goals. I would want them to know and explain to me that the world is cold to people who have invisible disabilities, but that is no reason for me to be mean to them. That I should love myself and teach others about who I am, and that they should be kind to me-because I am unique and special.
I, like many ADHD children, had rediculous goals. I think I did this because it felt good, got me dreaming and out of myself and my misery, and hyper focused me. Plus, I think I knew of the potential that I had and believed in my potential. I knew and believed that I could be great cause of my talents-even though my abilities screamed otherwise.
I think the best example of great parenting comes from the movie, Forest Gump. She tells Forest to tell people who immediately put him down and ask if he's stupid to say, "Stupid is as stupid does". How true. Forest may not have been a smart man, but he learned from his mom how to make smart choices-and he did. If I was a parent and had a ADHD child I would want them to say to people mean to them, "I am strong because I have people who love me, and if you had people who loved you wouldn't be picking on me".
People only pick on people or put them down to make themselves feel better-do you realize how many people must feel really bad about themselves to pick on others. Pretty pathetic. I would say this to make my child know how lucky he or she is in other ways in their life.
If I could be a child with ADHD now, I would want my mom and dad to love me unconditionally and have me hang out with other children who have my disability. I would want to be on chat lines or talk to people my age-like me. And I would need to be okay with me, and I would need to be able to explain myself to others and be comfortable with how I am.
I believe that people with ADHD are special and have a lot to offer. We are usually very bright, even though people think we are dumb or flighty because of our inattentiveness.
I would also want my mom or dad to encourage me to do things that feel good. If I felt good skateboarding-maybe send me to a camp for that. Or if I felt good helping people-maybe help me to get more into that and help me to achieve my goal of bringing them stuff or giving them things.
I guess I would want my parents to really understand me and help me to achieve my goals. I would want them to know and explain to me that the world is cold to people who have invisible disabilities, but that is no reason for me to be mean to them. That I should love myself and teach others about who I am, and that they should be kind to me-because I am unique and special.
I, like many ADHD children, had rediculous goals. I think I did this because it felt good, got me dreaming and out of myself and my misery, and hyper focused me. Plus, I think I knew of the potential that I had and believed in my potential. I knew and believed that I could be great cause of my talents-even though my abilities screamed otherwise.
I think the best example of great parenting comes from the movie, Forest Gump. She tells Forest to tell people who immediately put him down and ask if he's stupid to say, "Stupid is as stupid does". How true. Forest may not have been a smart man, but he learned from his mom how to make smart choices-and he did. If I was a parent and had a ADHD child I would want them to say to people mean to them, "I am strong because I have people who love me, and if you had people who loved you wouldn't be picking on me".
People only pick on people or put them down to make themselves feel better-do you realize how many people must feel really bad about themselves to pick on others. Pretty pathetic. I would say this to make my child know how lucky he or she is in other ways in their life.
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