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Post by LaurieL on Nov 17, 2003 18:44:26 GMT -5
Does anybody have any suggestions regarding obsessivness. My son will get something in his head and we won't let go...whether it is he wants a dog or reading everything about the Titanic. He won't let go. Now he has an issue that has come up at school and he will not move on. His teacher doesn't really know what to do but it is causing some problems. It is not hurtful or OCD per say. Any help or advice would be appreciated.
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Post by AnneM on Nov 18, 2003 8:37:55 GMT -5
Does anybody have any suggestions regarding obsessivness. My son will get something in his head and we won't let go...whether it is he wants a dog or reading everything about the Titanic. He won't let go. Now he has an issue that has come up at school and he will not move on. His teacher doesn't really know what to do but it is causing some problems. It is not hurtful or OCD per say. Any help or advice would be appreciated. Hi LaurieL .... Oh I know this one!! My son - particularly when younger - was JUST like this .... he would get an idea into his head (often something he desperately wanted to own or something he desperately wanted to do) and just couldn't let go .... when gripped by these "ideas/wants/wishes" he would talk about nothing else, think about nothing else and nothing else would be important! .... VERY, VERY tiring and frustrating for us parents though eh??? My son is now 15 and this has improved HUGELY ..... BUT there is still "a little of it" left .... he recently ordered some cd's by mail order. I kept reminding him (because I know how impatient he can be!) that they would take "a few days".... "Yes, yes I know" he said .... BUT every single morning he was impatiently waiting for the postman - every single afternoon when he got home from school his FIRST question would be "Have they arrived?" .... He would then keep saying "They MUST be here tomorrow - they just MUST ...." something like this seems to completely "take over his head" .... until of course the order arrived .... PHEW!! That is one small (recent) example of many, many, many over the years!! Oh I can certainly relate to you here!! ... |
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Post by Linda on Nov 18, 2003 8:42:38 GMT -5
Must be the age Anne...or we have the same kid  ;)and I do agree time is taking care of it. ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D |
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Post by Dad2Brooke on Nov 18, 2003 11:41:36 GMT -5
This post could have been written about Brooke. I don't think she has OCD, but man can she obsess. Her latest is broken bones. She broke her foot this summer and had a cast. Now every time she gets a bruise on an extremity, to her it is broken and she needs a cast. She is like a dog with a bone, she won't let it go. Week before last she fell on the monkey bars and bruised her arm. We humored her with the ace bandage, but she wanted to go to the doctor, her arm, she said, was broken. Just so happened that we were going to the ped in a couple of days for meds, so I had him look at her arm to definatively tell her that it was not broken. Even that didn't work. Dr. said it wasn't broken. Brooke insists it was. Next day, I told her if she brought it up one more time I was going to whip her, I was so tired of hearing about it. Finally got the point across. Last week it was her foot, same thing, obsessing. I finally did spank her  to get her to stop talking about that one. Then, the next day I come home and she has gotten mom to give her ice for it. (I know what you're thinking maybe it is broke, but the nurse next door looked at it, and it's not) It's just obsessing. I would love to find a solution. Thanks, |
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Post by dansmommy on Nov 18, 2003 12:43:10 GMT -5
Yikes. My ds does this too. We were just to the psychiatrist yesterday and he increased his Prozac. We have felt the Prozac helps, but it may also increase his tics. There's a book that's highly recommended for OCD called _Freeing Your Child From Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder_ by Tamar Chansky. It deals with cognitive strategies to overcome OCD. Good luck. Christie
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Post by lovemyson on Nov 18, 2003 12:48:16 GMT -5
Hi, Don't think my son is OCD (ADHD is enough) but he does the same thing, he gets something in his head and wont let it go...Ugh...It can drive a person crazy!  He is 6 so I hope it does get better with age! |
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Post by AnneM on Nov 18, 2003 12:59:31 GMT -5
Hi, Don't think my son is OCD (ADHD is enough) but he does the same thing, he gets something in his head and wont let it go...Ugh...It can drive a person crazy! He is 6 so I hope it does get better with age! No... I also don't think this is OCD .... it is obsessive behaviour YES ... but (speaking for my own son) he definitely doesn't meet the criteria for OCD in any way at all ... this is something completely different and more common than I realised (having read all these posts!!) ... I think it should be called something along the lines of " Drive parents so crazy that they end up agreeing to it!" disorder!! ;D |
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Post by Amsmom on Nov 18, 2003 20:26:55 GMT -5
I think it should be called something along the lines of " Drive parents so crazy that they end up agreeing to it!" disorder!! ;D You said it Anne!!! My son has an acute case, I'm sure  |
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Post by Dad2Brooke on Nov 18, 2003 23:47:07 GMT -5
Another thing Brooke will obsess about is if we tell her that we are going to do something. Maybe something on the weekend. "How many days until so and so?" Over and over. It almost takes the fun out of the upcoming event, before it even arrives.
We learned early on with Brooke not to tell her anything that is planned. This serves two purposes.
1. We don't have to hear her obsess about it.
2. If it falls through, we don't have to go though a meltdown situation.
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Post by MommaToFive on Nov 19, 2003 9:44:21 GMT -5
I just posted a message similar to this in Behavior... My ds9 is the same way as the kids above... And he seems obsessed by needing to know what is going to happen in the near future as well as in the distant future. He wants to know who is doing what, how they are doing it, why they are doing it and so on... <This also applies to himself> It is driving me mad!!! I don't think it is OCD but wonder if there are any other kids that are having the same issues.... Patience is a virtue.... one I have little of lately Thanks!! Erin |
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Post by crillmom on Nov 19, 2003 11:03:30 GMT -5
All thse behaviors you all are describing are ocd. You do not need to have compulsions to be diagnosed with ocd. My son has obsessional thoughts and has a really hard time letting things go. He just started taking lexapro and was on paxil at one point. What a diference ! he is so much happier and relaxed doesn't get frustrated when things aren't the way he wants in his head. He is way more easy going. Anyway just wanted to let you know my experiences with obsessing.
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Post by lovemyson on Nov 19, 2003 11:10:09 GMT -5
My daughter who is not ADHD is the same way...Needs to know exactly what/when/where/how much/ Etc/....I think it is Drive your parents crazy........
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Post by AnneM on Nov 19, 2003 12:34:19 GMT -5
All thse behaviors you all are describing are ocd. You do not need to have compulsions to be diagnosed with ocd. Hmmmm ..... this is interesting and Crillmom brings up a good point here... I just looked up DSM criteria for OCD and found this: QUOTE: Diagnostic Criteria (DSM-IV 300.3 OCD) A. The Person Exhibits Either Obsessions or Compulsions Obsessions are indicated by the following: The person has recurrent and persistent thoughts, impulses, or images that are experienced, at some time during the disturbance, as intrusive and inappropriate and that cause marked anxiety or distress The thoughts, impulses, or images are not simply excessive worries about real-life problems The person attempts to ignore or suppress such thoughts, impulses, or images or to neutralize them with some other thought or action The person recognizes that the obsessional thoughts, impulses, or images are a product of his or her own mind (not imposed from without as in thought insertion) Compulsions are indicated by the following: The person has repetitive behaviors (eg, hand washing, ordering, checking) or mental acts (eg, praying, counting, repeating words silently) that the person feels driven to perform in response to an obsession or according to rules that must be applied rigidly The behaviors or mental acts are aimed at preventing some dreaded event or situation; however, these behaviors or mental acts either are not connected in a realistic way with what they are designed to neutralize or prevent or are clearly excessive. B. At some point during the course of the disorder, the person has recognized that the obsessions or compulsions are excessive or unreasonable. (Note: this does not apply to children.) C. The obsessions or compulsions cause marked distress, are time consuming (take more than 1 hour a day), or significantly interfere with the person's normal routine, occupational/academic functioning, or usual social activities or relationships. D. If another axis I disorder is present, the content of the obsessions or compulsions is not restricted to it (e.g., preoccupation with drugs in the presence of a substance abuse disorder). E. The disturbance is not due to the direct physiologic effects of a substance (e.g., drug abuse, a medication) or a general medical condition. END QUOTE .... so it definitely seems that you don't have to see the Compulsive criteria to have some OCD ... Hmmmm ......  |
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Post by crillmom on Nov 19, 2003 12:35:52 GMT -5
that is true. My son has never had any compulsions but there was no doubt his diagnosis was correct.
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Post by Dad2Brooke on Nov 19, 2003 14:36:33 GMT -5
Greattttttt... Another half step back. Don't these children suffer enough? I will definately discuss this with Brooke's next health care professional. |
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