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Post by losingmysanity on Dec 5, 2003 21:57:12 GMT -5
Well that was just lovely. We were just returning from a Christmas party, such a fun family experience too.
Its only about a 5 min trip back home but boy what a trip. My youngest (5) was overexcited and yelling and singing very loudly in the back seat. My eldest (9 ADD)
called him a f****ing idiot (twice in as many days) and said he was going to hit him in the privates (not his word) if he didnt shut up. I tell ya I just dont know how to stop this. I can take the sibling fighting (well not really but at least its fairly normal) but I really dont like the swearing especially to his 5 year old brother. Next thing you know he'll start repeating it too.
I'm thinking of taking away TV time (he only watches maybe an hour or two a week anyway though) or maybe writing lines.
Anybody else having problems with foul mouth? What do you do
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Post by aimee30 on Dec 5, 2003 22:07:35 GMT -5
When my DS was younger we had problems with cursing. I know not everyone will agree with how I handled it, but I did what my mom would have done to me. I literally washed his mouth out with soap. He hasn't cursed since but he's beginning to call his sister an idiot on a daily basis. I don't know what to do with him now. This is a big no no word in our house and I wonder where he picked it up. If you find something that works, let me know.
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Post by GSDMommy on Dec 5, 2003 23:01:48 GMT -5
I was gonna say what Aimee said....we told the child that he was going to be eating some soap if he didn't stop it. He told a counselor at school who told him that was abuse and I chewed that counselor a new aperture for that one. Umm, curse jar<a quarter a curse>, some consequence immediately after the word gets out.......like an apology and no more words said until home?? Dunno, I guess I have always done whatever was available at the time <corner time outs, silence, being told that was innappropriate, etc> No fun though, I had an older one who uses colorful language and a child about to start kindergarten learning it all  Boy, is the school gonna have afew things to say to me  |
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Post by catatonic on Dec 6, 2003 8:41:37 GMT -5
Fighting and cussing...sounds like my house on a bad day. My 9-year-old (ADHD) knows that foul language is NOT acceptable, so he gets around it by saying "freaking" of "frigging" or "son of a..." (without the last word). You get the picture. He's always ALMOST cussing.
The change jar where he had to pay when he cussed worked really well here. Twenty-five cents a word. If he ran out of money, it was extra chores at 15 minutes work per bad word. Now I have to work on the almost cussing, because it's practically as bad.
My two-year-old daughter told one of the older boys last week to "go away, f*g**t" and when asked where she'd learned that particular word, didn't hesitate to share that she'd learned it from the 9-year-old potty mouth. So now I fine EVERYONE who uses that word in any circumstances.
But I think it's not uncommon for our problem kids to be obsessed with cursing and private parts and other unacceptable subject matter. I'm not sure why, but it seems to be the case. (BTW, if "idiot" is your problem insult, "pervert" is ours!)
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Post by adhdtimes4 on Dec 6, 2003 8:51:22 GMT -5
When our boys fight, we make them run. When they were smaller, they had to run around the house a certain number of times. Now they have to run a mile - across the street, down a hill, up a hill - then back. They HATE it, but if they've got energy to waste fighting, then they need to get rid of some energy.
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Post by Linda on Dec 6, 2003 9:04:26 GMT -5
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Post by Honeysmom on Dec 6, 2003 10:24:14 GMT -5
Dad used to make us scrub the shower with a toothbrush.
Our bad word is stupid, but my kids are small, only 2 and 4.
Last weekend when my BIL left to out with friends Honey yelled "See ya later F*g**t!" To make matters worse my BIL is gay. I made him apologize and asked BIL to fake cry to show his feelings were hurt. Honey feels bad about it so I do not expect to hear it again. I guess he learned it from my 14 yo BIL who uses that word with his friends. I hate that word, I think it is demeaning.
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Post by mom2tj on Dec 8, 2003 11:41:36 GMT -5
I washed my 8yo's mouth with soap and sent him to his room without a drink ... did it just once thats all it took.....
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Post by jachkldavis on Dec 8, 2003 13:11:19 GMT -5
I love adhdtimes4 answer! My ds is 5 and he has cussed a few times. We tried the soap....no effect. Then we tried a dab of hot sauce.....now he likes it. So now we have chores like washing the mirror or dusting.
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Post by catseye on Dec 8, 2003 13:32:07 GMT -5
Since the subject is back up, I wasnt sure weather to laugh or cry yesterday... While putting up christmas lights, hubby descided to search for his mole scarer thingy in the ground... He is crawling around on the ground, my son 2 goes over there, and starts crawling on the ground too... Hubby is haveing trouble finding it, and started saying the "f" word ... Well guess what pops out of the little guys mouth, clear as day  ... I about fell over!!! And was ready to strangle my hubby by the 3rd offense!! GRRRRR.... For such a little guy (my son) who has trouble with most words comming out clear, that one was unmistakable BAD DAD!!! GRRRR  cat |
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Post by jachkldavis on Dec 8, 2003 14:11:18 GMT -5
Cat, I know how you feel. My oldests first word was the f word . How cute is that a 1 year old saying F***. My hubby still doesnt get it and we have a five month old. |
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Post by losingmysanity on Dec 8, 2003 21:07:25 GMT -5
Wow lots of good suggestions from everyone  Trouble is he loves to do housework. You wouldnt believe it. He'd spend the whole day cleaning instead of playing if you let him. I think its a touch of OCD. When he first started ritalin he went up to his dresser and took out all his clothes and folded them up in neat piles!! Asking him to wash windows or clean the bathtub would be a reward for him! At least that is one positive.. he's a very good helper. He'll lug around heavy stuff, something spills he wipes it up.... anyway back to the swearing problems. For now we've taken away the TV. I have told him though, if it does happen again, I'm trying the ol' soap in the mouth. Trouble is I'm a little leery of doing it because he probably will tell his teacher and then they'll sic the authorities on me. I guess they'd rather we let the little darlings round around with a potty mouth. He already told us once that he was going to phone 911 on us, because we wouldnt let him ride his bike at the end of the street where theres a bend.... said we were just being mean!! I just about died when I heard that. Can you imagine if he did that and him and my other son get taken away for suspicion of child abuse?  Its great that kids know how to protect them selves in cases of real abuse, but this is ridiculous. I dont know if you heard about the 12 year old who was beaten to death with a baseball bat by his 16yr old brother, and two of his brothers friends, then they slit his throat. (They also went after the stepdad but he survived). My son has got such a hair trigger temper especially around my younger son, that I kinda worry about what will happen when THEY are teens. I guess that maybe thats a little out of proportion. I hope so!! They really dont get physical with each other. Just kinda fake each other out. Thanks for the suggestions and support everybody ;D |
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