Jareds done it again

[mothercat]

Well Jared jas misplaced his reading book again..this makes twice but atleast no one has called him irresponsible in front of the class this time..its not like he does it on purpose. The thing is he finally told me about it last night..he lost it Tuesday. I wandered cause all of a sudden he was getting all that classes work done at school. I asked what he has done for a book all week and he told me he is turning around in his chair and sharing the boys book that sits behind him. I asked what the teacher thought about this and he said she hasn't noticed yet. She has an adhd child sitting there backwards using someone elses book for the best part of a week and hasn't noticed. (she needs to get her mind out of bed with the second grade teacher and pay attention in class) I grounded Jared for losing it and not coming forward. I however kept him home today.
After flunking out on the track tryouts because he had an asthma attack I had him go talk to the coach. He with a doctors note, inhaler , and carry permit is going to get to try out for 8th grade track Monday. (he is in 6th grade but the coach will only let him try for 8th now) (a little good news) HOWEVER if he gets a detention for anything today it will have to be served Monday and he would miss tryouts. (that happened last year for only half way completing an assignment) I wont take away something he has wanted this bad for misplacing a book as the punishment out weighs the crime. So today he is home and I have borrowed a reading book from school. He is going to do school work today and he is grounded for two weeks from vid games , pc, and playing out after school. I think that is strict enough. (bobo disagrees) but geese the kid has worked and talked so hard to get another wack at trying out for track that I just cant take it away from him. Just another day in paradise . ;D ;D ;D ;D

[Linda]

I agree with you that it is strict enough I have to say though Jared is quite inventive I think it is pretty funny that he is turning around in his chair and sharing the other boys book ;D

Personally I hope he doesn't get caught...he has been through enough

[vickilyn32]

Good luck with the try-outs, Dan is on the 8th grade track team and also has asthma. I cary an inhaler with me, and the coach has an extra one for practice and such. I am at all the meets, but cant go to practice, so the coach makes sure he uses his inhaler before practice per the docs instructions.

[mothercat]

I dont really look for him to get picked for track ..after all he is running against 8th graders..but I want him to have a chance to try. He only had one detention last school year and it was for only doing half an assignment in class...they made him serve the detentin on track try out day so he missed out..then this week he tried out and had the asthma attack . It took alot for him to go to the coach and talk him into letting him try again so I just couldn't see any reason to take it all away over a lost book. I am sure the book is somewhere in the school and he will find it..if he gets a detention on Tuesday for it ..well so be it as he deserves it but he just did'nt deserve to miss tryouts again. We will see on Monday how he does but he is smaller than all the other sixth graders let alone the 8th graders.

[mskris]

Okay, I'm confused. You say in the first part of your first post that he doesn't lose things on purpose. Then you ground him for losing the book. THEN, you let him stay home from school "in case" he should get a detention and not be able to try out for track. To me, this sends mixed signals. Sorry, and I don't mean to be rude, but should he be punished or shouldn't he? Seems to me that missing out on the track tryout would be the punishment for losing the book. Frankly, I wouldn't have punished him at all, knowing our adhd kids "lose" things so easily...

Do you have extra school books at home? This might be the solution to that problem, at least.

Kris

[mothercat]

Heres the deal..we know he has a hard time with losing things but he is expected to TRY. When we let him stay home it was because trying out for track is the one thing he has wanted to do for three years. Three years ago he was told NO because of long hair. Last year they said he could try but he got a detention and missed it because he left blank spaces on an assignment. I will not BREAK HIS HEART again over a book, but he will have a punishment of some sort. He had already tried out last week for track and had an asthma attack and had the courage to ask for another try. Keeping in mind that LONG HAIRS in the past have always been told absolutley NO to trying out for anything in our school. It took courage for him to beg another chance and I refused to blow that chance over a reading book ..BUT he didn't go without punishment.

Much like you dont put someone to death penatly for stealing a candy bar but you do for killing 50 people..the punishment has to fit the crime.

Having adhd is somewhat of an excuse BUT as our children get older we have to teach them that it is not always something they can USE and they do have to be somewhat responsible. They are talking over
100.$ replacement for a new school book here and whether or not that is what they paid that is what they can charge me to replace it. Keeping an extra set would be very expensive.
It was very important to let him try out the second time for track even though he didn't make it again (asthma) because atleast he tried. Having to deal with being adhd is one thing but having to deal with it and have every single dream ripped away from you will only teach a child to not bother to try and succeed at anything.

That is why I let him stay home but still punished him . No mixed signals as we sat him down and explained exactly why we did what we did..we were dissappointed in him.. BUT we still loved him and we worked out a punishment together.
still confused? and no you weren't being rude ..I know it is very confusing.