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Post by mom2tj on Jan 28, 2005 11:40:05 GMT -5
my 3yo is in pre-k and loves it, the problem is the teachers are having a hard time with him he is hyper and sometimes huts and pusshes.... he is going 2x a week, he likes it so much when a 3rd day came open I tried to get in, I was to late but was put on a waitting list. I came to find out that other kids are beeing let in not mine, when I asked his teacher she told me DS was to much for her to handle   yesterday I e-mailed her boss to tell her how I felt and I also feel that he is spoken of in a term that I dont like as if he is a monster when the teachers speek of him I feel like on no not him! anyway the boss e-mailed me back and set up a meeting because I said I was now woundering if I should register him there for next year. I have mixed feeling about what I did maybe I should have just shut my mouth, now if the boss makes her take my son on that 3rd day how will she feel about it! will it make things worse. I hate to cause trouble I am always worried about how it affects my boys afterwards. I know theachers hold a grudge I have proof of it, with my older sons teacher I am feeling so bad about it now.  |
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Post by catseye on Jan 28, 2005 12:04:24 GMT -5
I am very non confrontational... Thus my holy terror sd, was thrown out of 3 preschools, before I put my foot down on the last one, since sd was technically in "head start" thus COULDNT legally be asked to leave AGAIN! Funny I had to remind them of that, when they approached me about taking sd out of their school... Suddenly like a light went on in their heads, oh wait this is not only illegal, we are getting paid double for sd... NOW they were willing to work with us more... I got so sick of everyone treating sd, like a demon child (which even I was beginning to think there for a while!), everywhere sd went, she was instantly labeled.l... I guess I am not a whole lot of help... All I can say is trust your instincts, if you think the teacher will take it out on him, dont force and extra day... Good luck |
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Post by rosyred45 on Jan 28, 2005 12:06:49 GMT -5
Oh you are bringing back memories for me  I think you handled it perfectly. They have no business rearranging the waiting list. THAT IN ITSELF IN VERY UNPROFESSIONAL :-*I'd report them to some kind of regulatory commission. In all of the years that I have worked with kids, of course there are some that are a handful, BUT Rule #1: Treat all families with respect. It is very disrespectful for the teacher to even let on her personal feelings for ANY CHILD, good or bad. Of course all of the adhd kids LOVED me, and yes, sometimes it is a bit over whelming, but I got into that business for a reason. To help kids learn, not to call names and act like a kid myself. They need to learn how to deal with the adversity of children. PERIOD. I told someone something about cookie cutter kids recently......I honsetly don't work well with the run of the mill sit down and listen type kids. Kids are not to be seen and not heard, maybe at nap time, but in order to learn the kids need experiences, and from the looks of it, I hoep you do look for another school that can better accomidate your kids. The worst thing to do is let someone talk down to your kids. I have seen teachers do that before, and it burn my butt when ever I see it. Please look into another daycare if possible, and look ing filing a complaint. If you need help writing a letter, give me the details, and I'll put on together for you. I'm good at that  |
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Post by mom2tj on Jan 28, 2005 13:22:05 GMT -5
cat, well this is a private pre-k out of the YMCA I think they have the right to kick someone out so far the administrator had been helpfull in the passed I asked her if she had ever kick anyone out she told me it only happend once.... Rosy, thanks for the offer I might take you up on that depending on how it goes on Tuesday, I am sure that if I am not satisfied I could go higher in the Y to complain... I personaly think it has to do with this particular teacher, she is young and unexperienced, they dont teach in school how to deal with discretion or manners how to talk to parents there should be a class on that before they become teachers. its done now so I will have to deal with it ! I am looking for other pr-k's in the area, I hope I dont have to change I love the convenience of the Y I can train while he is there I have to bring him so it gives me that extra push I need to go! I had no complaits when DS#1 was in there programs. please tell me why I let things bother me so much its a miracle I dont have ulcers I am way to concerned about what others think, low selfesteem plays a huge role in there... see where beeing teased as a child leads! |
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Post by brookesmom on Jan 29, 2005 8:57:35 GMT -5
I have worked in the Early Childhood field for years as both a teacher and a Director so I feel that I can understand both sides.
If your son was in my center I would definitely prefer that he attends a minimum of 3 days a week. This helps him adjust to the routine better. If he only attends 2 days a week it is like starting over every time. Especially a child who experiences attention problems.
Next I would work closely with my teacher. They should not be passing along their personal feelings at any time about a child. Their job is to teach, nurture and care for each child as an individual. They do need to observe and document disruptive behavior that is "out of the norm", meaning extreme for that developmental age. That way they can partner with the parent to make a solid action plan for that child.
Unfortunately there are times when behaviors are too extreme for the child care setting. We must look out for the welfare of all children. If a childs behavior is dangerous to other children and we have tried everything to improve the situation then sometimes it is time to part ways.
I don't agree with passing you over on the waiting list. I suggest you look around at other programs. Look for programs with accreditation from NAEYC-National Association for the Education of Young Children. You can find out more at naeyc.org. Socialization skills at this age will be very beneficial entering into formal schooling later.
I hope this is helpful. Good luck and keep me posted on how you are doing.
Chris
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Post by mom2tj on Feb 1, 2005 16:50:42 GMT -5
thanks brooksmom I will check that web site out today was not a good day for him he hit and pushed I dont know what to do with this child anymore |
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Post by brookesmom on Feb 2, 2005 7:08:22 GMT -5
Hang in there mom2tj. You will find the right place for him with people who have the skills to give your son what he needs.
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Post by mom2tj on Feb 2, 2005 18:00:36 GMT -5
I sure hope so brokesmom, so far this week I visited 2 pre-k's and both didnt make it in my books.... one had to many closed doors small rooms with no way to look in that gave me the creeps..... the second one the hours are not convinent and they only offer 2 days a week for 3 yo he will be 3 1/2 so he fits in the 3yo class he is now 2 days and he cries to go more, hwen I bring his big bro to school the days he comes back home he fits... so I have to find at least 3 days plus is extra activities .... so far the YMCA still is my best bet, I sure hope they smarten up registrations are next week I might just register and keep looking I can always change my mind later... |
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Post by brookesmom on Feb 3, 2005 6:59:35 GMT -5
Are you looking at half-day or full-day programs?
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Post by mom2tj on Feb 3, 2005 15:20:52 GMT -5
I'm looking for 3 1/2 days, I talked to the administrator of the Y, she was very nice and made me feel at ease she doent think he can be in the program alone he will need a shadow at all times, she told me she will help not to be scared and register him we will sork things out.. I still dont know she doesnt know about my older son and still she mentionned that she thinks my 3yo had ADHD ******hit me like a brick***** even if I mentioned it so many times hearing it from her....I started to cry... I have an apointement next week to see a pre-K that specialises in speech delay, I dont hink we can afford it she said on the phone that the cost for 2 1/2 days (2hours each day) is 240.00 a month  I'll go see but no way I can afford that I'm hoping there is some grant or fuinding.... thanksbrooksmom for lissening so very kind.. |
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Post by brookesmom on Feb 3, 2005 16:05:06 GMT -5
Check with your county Health Dept and your school district to see if there is some type of free screening or Early Intervention team. You might be able to qualify for services.
Also don't discount full day child care programs. They also can provide high quality pre-k programming with the benefit of all day care. This could benefit him socially and give him the stimulation he is craving.
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Post by Sorka on Feb 7, 2005 22:59:20 GMT -5
If he has special needs, a speech delay and possible attention problems he is covered by the public school system when he hits 3 years old.. 3 to 21!
So call local district or ask at your older son's school about screening.
I took my son to a screening when she was 3, I was concerned about speech and hearing.. but hehe he just has the attention problems!
So do check that out. Then hey.. it's FREEE!!!
Denise
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