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Post by mskris on Jan 12, 2005 14:11:44 GMT -5
Warning...  And the saga continues.... Just received a vm from the principal saying we need to meet with her and the teacher to discuss this issue of missing take-home items. Hello! What's to discuss??  They aren't checking his book bag thoroughly to ensure he has all books and worksheets for the listed assignments. Duh!  Anyway, we agreed to meet with them on 1/24. I had DH call because I'm already upset about all this. If I'M upset, you should see DS...he sits and cries about how much work he has to do and it continues to pile up. These crying spells lead to talk of death and dying, which, although not uncommon among ADHD-ers, is alarming, nonethless.  Poor kid claims his life is "miserable." However, I must say that the principal assured me DS won't be kept in at recess or after school to do the work.  A small victory. Which I guess means he'll have to do it on the weekends. Great.  Looks like I still need the hat and broom to follow this thing through to resolution. I've requested a second set of books to keep at home, as I've heard that's a good way to deal with this. She didn't respond about that (yet). That alleviates them from having to do the check as listed in the 504 Plan, though. Who knew we'd have to deal with these things when we decided to have kids? Thanks for listening to my vent(s). Kris |
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Post by camismom on Jan 12, 2005 14:49:19 GMT -5
Kris... go get 'em girl!  There's plenty of hats and brooms to go around if you need extra. No kid should be pushed to tears due to homework. It is just uncalled for! GRRRR! It makes me mad! |
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Post by mothercat on Jan 12, 2005 15:42:02 GMT -5
If learning is to be successful then it should be painless...thats my motto but it never fits with my life...today we ordered the portable infrared machine for Jared to use at home.. the school atleast made that easier for him. no more tears over the hard drug out task of trying to get it written out.
I agree ...GO GET EM!!! and dont let them charge you for the second set of books!
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Post by finnmom on Jan 13, 2005 10:36:05 GMT -5
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Post by Linda on Jan 13, 2005 12:51:50 GMT -5
Oh they will try marja...we have to fight so darn hard for our kids rights sometimes....I have had teachers tell me they don't even go into the kids files Well if they don't go into the students files how the heck are they going to know the kids have IEP'S OR 504'S It id like our kids are on an assembly line or something |
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Post by rosyred45 on Jan 14, 2005 13:32:11 GMT -5
One thing I'd like to know: If I am making Mikey do his homework, why is he not being made to take it out of his back pack? For the past month, his homework.....and all the days homeworks were in his bag. That is until last Monday, then it was just a couple folders :-*With homework dated GET THIS OCTOBER |
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Post by mothercat on Jan 14, 2005 16:17:16 GMT -5
Sometimes I wander if there is a correlation between the teenager at Mc Donalds that only half wipes the table or doesn't quite make the sandwich look like a sandwich AND teachers who only do as much as they absolutely have to...and I dont believe that bunk about classroom size either as I sit here and look at pics of my dh's sixthgrade class of thirty kids...They could check bags if they wanted to take the time either before or after class...some good teachers do it . Too many people in life today only want to do as little as they have to to get the paycheck. Its a shame the kids are the ones who end up paying for it.
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Post by mskris on Jan 18, 2005 10:37:08 GMT -5
I totally agree, Mothercat. Last year the teacher checked Ds' backpack daily - no issues about missing items. This year, the teacher has an aide in the room, and with 2 people, they can't manage to check his pack thoroughly. Grrrr. Now get this - DD was just diagnosed as learning disabled and has a new IEP for language arts (reading). She meets with the special ed teacher 1 hr daily to help her learn to read. DD came home crying Friday because the special ed teacher told her next time her homework isn't done she'll have to do it at recess. She was missing a worksheet because DH and I couldn't find it in her book bag. We even wrote a note to that effect in her agenda. All other items were done. DD claimed she didn't want to see Mrs. Special Ed anymore. Great. And this is the teacher who is supposed to be helping her. What is the deal with punishment for incomplete homework?? If the kid didn't do it, there must be a reason (and we always check off what was done and write a note if anything's missing). So what's the point of punishment? I just don't get it. I assured DD that she will NEVER be punished for not doing homework. I wrote the special ed teacher and copied the principal this a.m. You can bet I'll be addressing this on Monday when we have our "conference." Kris |
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Post by mom2tj on Jan 19, 2005 19:03:32 GMT -5
my son had 2 books reports and a science project all at the same time one french book report and this same teacher gave them a science project and the english teacher gave them a book report also can you bleleive that.... these teachers work together cant they talk to each other
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Post by rosyred45 on Jan 19, 2005 20:15:50 GMT -5
Nope, can't talk to each other, that would mean they are on the same page and accountable for why the kids can't get stuff done Opps, did I spill the beans |
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Post by mskris on Jan 20, 2005 9:22:54 GMT -5
Oh, yes, my goodness - cooperation is a dirty word!! DS has two tests today - social studies and math. Last night he opened his agenda and was excited - no homework! He had no idea that he should study for the tests... I can't say I blame him - we finally got some snow and I let both kids play until dark outside. We're all so sick of homework - me the most! ;D Also, I never knew how to study until I got to college - I crammed. That's not to say that's the way to go, but after all DS has been through in the past few weeks, I'm loathe to make him study, too! Kris |
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Post by camismom on Jan 20, 2005 10:42:06 GMT -5
DS has two tests today - social studies and math. Last night he opened his agenda and was excited - no homework! He had no idea that he should study for the tests... Kris Kris, I had to laugh when I read that because Cami is the same way. If the have homework to study, in her mind it means no homework. No paperwork to complete, nothing to turn in and be graded, so I don't really HAVE to do anything. She hasn't quite figured out yet that studying is her homework and she WILL be graded for not doing it when she fails the test. The last week of each nine weeks they have nine weeks exams, so no written homeowork... just styudying for the exams. Well, to her that's a free week. After making two 68s on this last report card, she was informed that that would be changing this nine weeks. I don't blame you though for letting your son slide. If I know for sure Cami knows the material, I don't push. These two subjects she doesn't though, so she'll be studying. |
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Post by camismom on Jan 26, 2005 9:20:50 GMT -5
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Post by mskris on Jan 26, 2005 13:28:34 GMT -5
Camismom:
We have felt free to modify homework when we feel it's too much. Either we break it down over a series of nights or we have ds do only the odd ones or only the ones that are different from each other, etc. I haven't done it that much, but DH does. We write a note and don't feel guilty about it.
If they can do 10 of them correctly, why have them do 7 times more than that?? What does that accomplish?
I'm sooooo sick of school!!!
Kris
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Post by mom2tj on Jan 26, 2005 14:54:21 GMT -5
thats to much 75 wow..... 45 minutes is all I accept,
mind you he had to do 45 minutes of real work (wich sometimes takes 90 !) and then he has to read for 15 minutes and study any spelling words he has...
usualy takes about 1:30 every night.
if he does not finish I send a note I dont think they learn anything if they do it tiered anyway the teachers have always been suportive of my decition to stop when I think he has had enough.
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