Talkative

[rosyred45]

Oh boy, I didn't realize report cardss were coming out and needless to say, I really don't care for Mikey's

Although he doesn't have any "u"s, he didn't get "s's" across the board either.

That isn't what has my goat though. The teacher comments is what gets me.
"Michael is a very capable student. Unfortunately he is very distracted (insert here) He Talks almost non-stop It is very difficult to teach a lesson when he is so active in the front of the room. He needs to be in the front of the room to keep HIM on task ( this was part of the 504) He is a distraction to the whole class and to himself ( ) He has not completed a couple of homework assignments on time. He also sucks his fingers and chews on almost everything"

Please help me out here. I am trying to figure the line between what I can do at home and what I should expect of a teacher. I know that she is trying, but I don't notice him chewing on everything around the house, and he rarely sucks on his fingers anymore.

I know that part is his coping mechanism-sucking the fingers and chewing on stuff, but what am I supposed to do? He is in the class room. He already has his TV privelges taken away along with the computer. There isn't much else to do to punish him.
Yeah, I can take toys away, but then I'd have to take everything else away as well.

Am I suppose to make him sit down and do NOTHING for his punishment at home? I am really trying to figure this out. I think I'm just more upset it just doesn't seem like she is doing enough reminding.....then again, she is ALWAYS reminding him

Sorry so long

[Linda]

geeeez...She is the TEACHER...let her figure it out! He probably needs to be by her desk or in the front row...why isn't she doing it? I don't think she is trying hard enough Kaiti

Have you gone into the classroom and observed? This might be the answer cause you know mikey better than she does.

I think you are probably the one to come up with the answers....how frustrating for you...and for mikey.

[finnmom]

Kaiti
Ditto to what Linda said; she´s the theacher, she should be able handle this. I think you´ve done what you can, now it´s her turn to take the lead on classroom. She knew all this before at autumn, right then she has to think it through, because it´s not working right now.

If you can, go to the classroom to observe, then you´ll know how it really is!

you can do this Kaiti

[rosyred45]

I've seen them in action, not as a technical
"observation" persay, that would be MORE detrimental on Mikey's part ::)But that is exactly it, the more change there is, the more he seems to be, I don't know...anxious?

I was even talking to the librarian today and I actually ended up breaking down :'(felt like an idiot, but she said that maybe putting him in the resource room might be a good idea, which I'm all for but was already told no, he has no LD's.

HELLO, he sure as heck isn't learning in the classroom.
I just don't get it, I agree that it doesn't seem like she is doing enough, but I can see her point about his talking being disruptive, but just tell him to can it. What am I supposed to put a muzzle on the boy

I am just so frustrated. Reminding him to stay on task is just what you have to do. I do it all the time at SACC with homework and 35 kids. I know it's a pain, but things get done with the reminders.

Oh he is in the front of the room, but she has the desks aranged as pods- 2 right next to each other and 2 right across is front so they are facing each other.

Just thinking about it now.....isn't that asking for the kids to talk

[Linda]

I think if you push for it Kaiti...mikey can go to the resourse room when things get to be very hectic for him. We do it here...the resourse teacher can give mikey some extra "tools" to help him.I feel so bad for him...he is feeling it too or else he wouldn't be doing all the chewing and why he is calmer at home.

Push for it honey..mikey is hurting

[rosyred45]

I just emailed the Guidence Counsoler and the teacher separately, so hopefully I'll be able to get to this VERY soon.

I am just so upset that I would like nothing more than to yank him out of school period. But that isn't in the cards.

Oh hereing back from the teacher now. BRB

[rosyred45]

She just said that since she has a student teacher, she can meet whenever, so I turn and look......THERE"S MIKEY"S LUNCH ON THE TABLE So I might be meeting in a few minutes. I'll let ya'll know.

Thanks for letting me vent

I'll be back.........

[MistyMorningPA]

I hope your meeting went well. I agree with the others that its up to the teacher at this point. I dont think taking away more toys would help, in fact, it may make it worse. I can't see where extreme punishment (I.E.: Doing NOTHING at home) will help at all. Obviously this is a school related problem & the teacher NEEDS to step up to the plate! I think you are handling things well. Good luck!

[rosyred45]

Thank you for understanding. I was surprized when she said that she KNEW it was nothing intentional, but it is getting in the way of his education.

She said that she didn't agree with the resource room only because he would be missing out on the lesson in the class and she feels that it would do more harm then good because she knows he is a smart little boy. And then he would be trying to play catch up with the rest of the class even more then.

She did recommend reevaluation over at AI DuPont, which I wouldn't mind having one, but don't want them to tell me I have to medicate him. This isn't intended to offend or start an argument, so please don't take offense. I just don't feel that he is the type of child that needs medication, and I do know that some really do.

I just don' t get it. I need to step back and reevevaluate everything.

[tridlette]

Kaiti, an eval at Dupont would be very useful! Remember, they are the craziest in the world!

I buy Michael chewing gum by the case at Costco, and let him chew all day in class. I have yet to have a teacher say anything about it... he is discreet. It keeps his mouth moving, and his attention focused.

I don't see why you can't pull Mikey out of school, and keep your job too. He can work during the school day, go with you to work, and still finish his school work in the evening while Tara is doing her homework.

It might actually be good for him to have his day broken up, and still get the oh-so-important-to-educators "socialization" time with the after school kids.

Just a thought... I don't want to sound pushy either!

[Linda]

Kaiti....I didn't mean to imply that mikey go to the resource room all day....I meant that if he is really having a hard time he should be allowed to go and TAKE HIS WORK WITH HIM.There are fewer kids and less distraction in the resource room.

I am not to sure I like the teacher's statement that "mikey is too smart to go there".I am sure he IS smart but what does that have to do with anything?

[rosyred45]

Linda, I knew exactly what you meant, that's how I feel, but she still thinks it wouldn't work because then he has to readjust and all that happy crap. I was thinking the same thing about the resource room stigmatism.

Trid, I was thinking about that. I just don't know what it would look like from the BOE's point of view. I'm about ready to ask a couple of members what I could be accomidated with. My husband used to work with one and he already told me if we need anything to hollar.

But he's in his first year, we don't want to corrupt his rep yet 8-)I just have to talk to the Board Business adminastrator and pick her brain for a while.

He is right now not allowed to watch TV, but she did agree with Misty in the fact that it probably wouldn't effect....although he tends to get more wild when he does watch TV.....so I think a reajustment of the programs he watches WILL be made.

Oh thanks for any and all advice.....I could use it about now