First day jitters ...

AnneM
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First day jitters ... Aug 31, 2004 11:00:54 GMT -5

Post by AnneM on Aug 31, 2004 11:00:54 GMT -5

Today was "enrolment day" for Sam at college ... the main course starts next Wednesday but he was due to "enrol" today.

He woke up this morning and basically said "I don't want to go, I don't want to do that course and I am not going" ... and no amount of anger/cajoling/persuasion on my part did any good whatsoever! ... I was horrified!! ...

Anyway I went to work (at the same college!) very upset ... I decided to give him a "loop hole" and I told a little white lie ... I said he was ill !! ...

Sam then called me saying "I am soooo sorry ... oh have I messed it up?" ... I told him that I wasn't sure but would check it out ... (Make him suffer I thought !!)

As it turned out (and in fact I secretly knew anyway) he DOES get another chance .. tomorrow ... I waited until much later and then let him know that he has ONE MORE chance to enrol and that is tomorrow ... but if he misses that it is end of story!

Speaking to him later it seems he is really scared! ... He doesn't know anyone (yet) doing the same course ... it is a real fear of the unfamiliar and a class of strangers! ... I told him that all those other kids were "friends just waiting to be made" ... (hopefully!!)

He is very contrite now ... he says he wishes he had gone today ... I have no doubt that he will go tomorrow ... I just HOPE he settles in quickly and makes some friends ... Then his "first day nerves" can be put behind him !! ... Fingers firmly crossed!!

DS: Sam 17 - add

When you reach for the stars, you may not quite get them, but you won't come up with a handful of mud either.
--Leo Burnett

camismom Guest	First day jitters ... Aug 31, 2004 11:13:55 GMT -5 Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Back to Top Post by camismom on Aug 31, 2004 11:13:55 GMT -5 I'll cross mine for you too Anne. New things are always frightening... esp. for our kids!

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First day jitters ... Aug 31, 2004 11:20:54 GMT -5

Post by AnneM on Aug 31, 2004 11:20:54 GMT -5

Thanks Christy! ... Do you know I had almost forgotton how daunting it is for our kids to start something new like that? Sam has been at the same school for years with the same friends etc.etc. He recently started his part-time job which was new BUTTTTT he had a couple of friends already working there .... so really that was different! ... the security blanket was still there!

DS: Sam 17 - add

When you reach for the stars, you may not quite get them, but you won't come up with a handful of mud either.
--Leo Burnett

catseye Moderator Posts: 1,926	First day jitters ... Aug 31, 2004 11:40:44 GMT -5 Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by catseye on Aug 31, 2004 11:40:44 GMT -5 My fingers are crossed! Good luck Sam! cat
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Linda Moderator Love your kids...no matter what!! Posts: 10,694	First day jitters ... Aug 31, 2004 13:55:19 GMT -5 Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by Linda on Aug 31, 2004 13:55:19 GMT -5 Fingers crossed too Anne...he just has the jitters...but the whole situation would have unsettled me too!!!If I had been in your place I would have done the same thing too.
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vickilyn32 Veteran Member Posts: 680	First day jitters ... Aug 31, 2004 14:51:47 GMT -5 Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by vickilyn32 on Aug 31, 2004 14:51:47 GMT -5 Good luck Sam, I know you will be fine.

aimee30 Member Emeritus Member Emeritus 'http://img.villagephotos.com/p/2004-5/720585/DIAMOND2.gif' To dream of the person you would like to be is to waste the person that you are. Posts: 1,419	First day jitters ... Aug 31, 2004 17:35:11 GMT -5 Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by aimee30 on Aug 31, 2004 17:35:11 GMT -5 Keeping fingers (and toes ) crossed that things will go fine. Good luck Sam!
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rosyred45 New Member Posts: 0	First day jitters ... Sept 1, 2004 7:04:04 GMT -5 Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by rosyred45 on Sept 1, 2004 7:04:04 GMT -5 Anne, did he get there to enroll yet? Good luck, I hate doing strange things-(alright, not strange, but new ), but the more afraid I am, the better it seems to have been, at least in my experience anyhow

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First day jitters ... Sept 1, 2004 7:09:41 GMT -5

Post by AnneM on Sept 1, 2004 7:09:41 GMT -5

Yes Kaiti ... he is there as we speak .... ! ... Oh I hope he is having an ok day .... I hope he has at least made one or two acquaintances!... I hope he isn't having lunch on his own ....

Oh LISTEN TO ME !! .... I am saying exactly the same things as I said when he started kindergarten !! ;D ;D

DS: Sam 17 - add

When you reach for the stars, you may not quite get them, but you won't come up with a handful of mud either.
--Leo Burnett

rosyred45 New Member Posts: 0	First day jitters ... Sept 1, 2004 7:12:22 GMT -5 Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by rosyred45 on Sept 1, 2004 7:12:22 GMT -5 But mom, he's fine. ;)Did you make sure you tied his shoelaces too I'm just teasing Anne

AnneM Administrator We cannot direct the wind but we can adjust the sails Posts: 7,158	First day jitters ... Sept 1, 2004 7:49:15 GMT -5 Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by AnneM on Sept 1, 2004 7:49:15 GMT -5 ;D ;D Kaiti!! Oh YES I sure did ..... !! AND I checked that he had washed behind his ears too!! ;D ;D Just kidding!! ;D ;D
	Last Edit: Sept 1, 2004 7:49:47 GMT -5 by AnneM DS: Sam 17 - add When you reach for the stars, you may not quite get them, but you won't come up with a handful of mud either. --Leo Burnett

finnmom Moderator Posts: 5,926	First day jitters ... Sept 1, 2004 9:12:49 GMT -5 Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by finnmom on Sept 1, 2004 9:12:49 GMT -5 So how did it go? Is he home yet? Have you any fingernail´s left ;D I keep my finger´s grossed for you
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First day jitters ... Sept 1, 2004 10:36:17 GMT -5

Post by AnneM on Sept 1, 2004 10:36:17 GMT -5

Well it went "fine" !! ... He had a "really good day" ... he actually knew HEAPS of other kids there (although not on his exact course) ... so he wasn't sitting alone at lunch!! ;D

He seems to feel much better now that he has actually BEEN there and got a feel for it ... and found that it was nowhere near as daunting as he was convinced it was going to be!

PHEW !! ;D ;D

DS: Sam 17 - add

When you reach for the stars, you may not quite get them, but you won't come up with a handful of mud either.
--Leo Burnett

rosyred45 New Member Posts: 0	First day jitters ... Sept 1, 2004 10:48:07 GMT -5 Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by rosyred45 on Sept 1, 2004 10:48:07 GMT -5 Good for Him, he can still see familiar faces!!

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