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Post by on_edge on Nov 16, 2003 12:53:54 GMT -5
In an earlier post, I was venting on my mother's attitude that daughter was just a brat and needed better parenting. I didn't want to spend holidays around family because of attitude.
I got a phone call from Mom and she wanted me to educate her on adhd. Apparently, my sister cornered her and let her know that she is about to lose over half of her grandchildren if she doesn't get with it. I spent 45 minutes talking about my issues with the schools, new routine, and behavior mods at home. She is uncertain about meds, but does agree that if it helps her stay at grade standards for school it is worth it.
Not only did she listen to me, but stated she was going to talk to her friend who is raising her granddaughter. The granddaughter and my adhd daughter are so similar you would think they were the same child. She is going to explain the behavior mods and recommend her to look into an evaluation.
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Post by Dad2Brooke on Nov 16, 2003 12:57:35 GMT -5
Good for your sister, good for you, and good for her, but most importantly, good for your daughter ;D
Here's to having a pleaseant holiday season.
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Post by finnmom on Nov 16, 2003 13:37:43 GMT -5
 :DON EDGE Great new´s: as dad to brooke said, for you and most of all for your child!! It is so much easier if you have, if not the support, but at least the understanding of your family. GREAT Educating, it really is the keyword of living with ADHD, you can never educate too much. I´am so happy for you!! Remember to thank your sister! Marja
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Post by Linda on Nov 16, 2003 13:49:57 GMT -5
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Post by AnneM on Nov 16, 2003 15:10:29 GMT -5
This is a GIANT step forward ... !! ;D It helps so much to have your family understand the situation.... I know I have been SO lucky with my own mother who has totally stood by and understood everything we have done with our son (including meds) .... and it makes all the difference in the world!! This is GREAT NEWS !!!
... and as Linda (a GREAT example!) says....
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Post by sierra on Nov 16, 2003 16:48:43 GMT -5
That is wonderful! My mother accepts that ADHD exists. All her grandchildren have been diagnosed with ADHD. Most have comorbids. I guess she figured that many doctors and psychs can't be wrong. The only problem is she thinks it can be completely controlled by cutting out sugar  She restricts sugar when grandkids visits. Sugar free cookies. Sugar free candy. Sugar free ice cream. She rations the milk. She reads every label on every food. I'm not to hot on all the artificial sweeteners these foods are loaded up with.  But she still serves white bread and chips and mashed potatoes and other foods that convert immediately to sugars during digestion. I didn't wise her up. I figure it's already hard enough to find something you'd want to eat when we visit her. |
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Post by GSDMommy on Nov 17, 2003 11:39:26 GMT -5
My parents accept it and have been very supportive <and my mom having died recently is hanging above us all knowing how it will turn out....>. My DH's mother is another story. She no longer talks to me because I "need to relax". She doesn't believe I have one seriously mentally ill son <at one point he was on 7 antipsychotics, and I lined up the bottles on Thanksgiving right on the table in front of everyone so they could see and said "Yeah, there's nothing wrong with him at all">. She never has seen the behaviors at her house so they must not exist and they are all caused by me.
My dad is even starting to think he may be ADHD and keeps asking me about different symptoms he has. He is 78 this month, wonder if Strattera works for the older population? He is even thinking about going and getting evaluated for it by the family Dr!
I am lucky, I have great parents though!!
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Post by MommaToFive on Nov 18, 2003 12:18:54 GMT -5
I am so glad to hear she came onboard hun!!!! YEAH!!!!!!!
I hope you will have a wonderful holiday season!!!
Erin
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Post by gabrielsmom on Nov 18, 2003 15:42:13 GMT -5
Isn't it great when one has the support and understanding of ones parents. After 8 yrs of struggling with my son, my mother and father finally realized that it was not just a boys will be boys, bad parenting etc.... issue. It took my almost having a nervous breakdown for them to realize that ADHD DOES EXISTS!!!!
Thankfully, they are now in my corner and very supportive. Make a huge difference.
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~~~~Erin~~~~