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Post by Amsmom on Nov 15, 2003 14:47:40 GMT -5
Does anyone else have problems with their child's father being absent from their lives? My son's father is a violent man with anger problems, so I don't mind that he doesn't see him, but my poor son misses him and asks me why he doesn't call. I will allow his father to see him with my supervision (as per court order) but he chooses not to see him at all if I have to be there. He also does not call him and it breaks my heart when my son misses him. With all the problems our kids go through, this makes things so much harder on my little boy. We have been fortunate to be matched with the most wonderful Big Brother in the universe from the Big Brothers Big Sisters program. We were matched this past June and this wonderful man has boosted my son's self esteem tremendously.
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MommaToFive
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Post by MommaToFive on Nov 15, 2003 15:32:06 GMT -5
Amsmom,
I sympathize with you on this!! My ds9 biological dad also has made the choice not to have any contact with him. Which I think he is better off anyway. My ex also was/is a very very violent man and has an incredibly short fuse. My son has just gotten use to the fact that he wont hear from him. But we are also very lucky because my now hubby is in his life. He has my brother too to look up to. I am so sorry it is so hard for him and I wish I had better advice to offer. I would just try to explain to him that even though he may not show it his Dad does love him. And that it has nothing to do with him. Hope that helps...
You are in my prayers!!
Erin
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Post by GSDMommy on Nov 15, 2003 21:27:55 GMT -5
Wow........this is a thing I have had to deal with. This January it will be 5 years since my kids have seen their father. My thoughts are : GOOD! but it breaks their hearts. The therapists and other people are all saying it is best because of the violence and short fuse and aggressiveness <everyone sing along, you know the words!> and the insensitivity. He actually agreed to a court ordered psyche eval and that came back quite interestingly. He hasn't changed since I have last dealt with him.
I had to drag my oldest kicking and screaming from the phone when his father wouldn't answer. It broke my heart, but better my broken heart than his broken body. Just one of those things you have to do in life that isn't any fun. They <the fathers> make the decision and we live with the consequences.
Hang in there!
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~~~~Erin~~~~ 