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Post by kellys4babies on Feb 4, 2004 23:47:54 GMT -5
I am wondering what the kids in kindergarden are excepted to do for attention. My son has had a good semester. I get his report card and he gets a N(needs improvement) again this semeter. I am so upset about this. I really feel that his teacher is not being fair. She said he was doing better and now this. And then conversational skills what are they supposed to be doing have a conversation during class. I am begining to think that just because he is labeled ADHD that they are going to grade him harder and I think this is soooo
unfair.
Just needed to vent.
Thank you
Kelly
Logan 6 (ADHD)
macey 4
Aubrey 3
Torey 2
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Post by swmom on Feb 5, 2004 7:05:07 GMT -5
kellys4 -
I think there is something to what you said about his
being labeled ADHD and his subsequent grade. I do believe there is a connection there, even if it's subconscious. Just my opinion.
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Post by catseye on Feb 5, 2004 10:18:55 GMT -5
Hi kelly! I know it is sooo frustrating, to hear all the improvements they are doing in school, then get the report card saying improvement is still needed! GRRRR...
I think part of the problem, is they are grading our adhd kids, according to the other kids! What I would prefer is the child to be graded upon their own performance, not according to what the other kids are doing... If their performance improves they should get and 'e' for effort, and not be told they still have a ways to go... I also think the teachers need to realize, that grading according to other students, our kids will never measure up perfectly that is going to harm our kids self esteem... If they are never good enough... Just my thoughts on the problems...
Hang in there!
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Post by mskris on Feb 5, 2004 10:27:49 GMT -5
Kelly:
We are having similar problems with DS in 3rd grade. Frankly, though I've been disappointed in his academic performance (he's quite bright and capable of better), I have realized I have to balance it with his emotional state. So even though the teacher has said he's not trying hard enough, I have to counter with the fact that he's happy, has friends, and is making progress.
Try to put some perspective on this...if your ds is happy, healthy, and improving, then don't worry about the grade or the teacher's perception of his current level. Unless there's a danger he'll be held back because of it, try to be satisfied with the improvements he's made and focus on the positive. Also, if possible, communicate that to the teacher.
It's amazing to me that there seems to be so little common sense these days - should we have to tell these "highly-trained educational professionals" that our kids respond better to positive reinforcement and praise than to punishment/ridicule?? GRRRRRRR....
Keep your chin up and don't worry about your little guy as long as you continue to see some progress. As I said to the teacher yesterday, just because T is not reaching his academic potential in 3rd grade doesn't mean he'll be a dropout or a loser for life! We have to celebrate the little victories...
Good luck.
Kris
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