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Post by aimee30 on Dec 9, 2003 21:04:15 GMT -5
I have my first meeting with the school tomorrow. My DD is not dx yet. I did speak with the counselor Monday and she said she hadn't looked over all the "reports" but there were a lot of red flags coming up for ADHD.  Tell me something I didn't know. By the way, those of you who read my post on ex husband problems, my ex is planning on attending. Wish me luck. Anyway, I'm just looking for suggestions. What should I expect? Can anyone think of anything in particular I should ask? Thanks for any help before hand! |
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Post by AustinsMom on Dec 9, 2003 21:08:12 GMT -5
I haven't gotten this far yet, so am interested to see the responses you get to this. But the single thing I think I'm going to be questioning the most is about accomodations...what changes can be made in the classroom to help my/your child perform at his best. Good luck. We're all rooting for you.
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Post by Dad2Brooke on Dec 10, 2003 8:48:08 GMT -5
My first meeting is next Wednesday. So I can't really tell you what to expect.
I do know it will be me, Brooke's teacher, her reading teacher, school psychologist, and the asst principal. The teacher has been writting a report since I asked for an IEP meeting, and she will give her recommendation
Together we will determine if Brooke has a problem with learning. Then if we decide that, the school has 65 days to do testing on specifically what areas are lacking and specifically how to fix those problems via accomodations, etc. Then they will come up with the IEP.
I can only guess then that there will be further discussion (if I feel they aren't doing enough to help Brooke) and then the IEP is signed and goes into effect
I do intend to be very vocal in this meeting, not antagonistic, but vocal about Brooke getting what she needs. I do not intend for Brooke to get steamrolled.
I really want to work with them on this, but if I get the runaround, I will do what it takes to get her help.
Good luck with your meeting and let us know how it goes.
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Post by camismom on Dec 10, 2003 10:24:03 GMT -5
I had a meeting with Cam's teachers last week. The 6th grade guidance counselor and asst. principal sat in on it too. If they hadn't have been there, it may have gotten ugly. What to expect all depends on the type teacher your dd has. Is he/she helpful/concerned, or just wanting to rush thru this to get help so they don't have to put up with the behavior any longer? I would say, as awful as it sounds, to go in expecting the worse and if you get better, you can be pleasantly surprised. Arm yourself with your knowledge so you can contradict their snide opinions if needed. One of Cami's teachers came across real harsh and made a couple snide remarks that I disagreed with him on and pointed out this was ADHD related and the counselor agreed with me and shut him up. Anyway, a few of the accomadations we made for her was: 1.. Reduced assignments. If class is given a 2 page writing assignment, she can get by with 1. If homework is assigned with 30 Math problems of the same nature, she only has to do 15, etc. 2. Copies of notes, esp. for tests. Due to poor and slow handwriting if notes are taken, she can get a copy of the teachers or another student's. 3. In tests that involve essay questions, she can take them orally. 4. She will have a "peer helper" that will sit next to her in each class and give her friendly reminders to get back on track when the mind starts wondering. Kids take this better from peers than adults. 5. The peer helper will also make sure she has what is needed for homework in her bookbag at the end of the day. Their lockers are next to each other. 6. Teacher is to make sure homework assignments are fully written down, along with what is needed for them, and understood before leaving the class. 7 I am to be notified immediately if they notice a problem. I don't know if this helps you because some of these are geared more toward middle school, but this will give you a general idea of where to start. Good luck and let us know how it goes!  |
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Post by aimee30 on Dec 10, 2003 20:57:26 GMT -5
Well, the meeting went pretty well. Luckily, as I said before, I had the chance to speak with the school counselor beforehand to fill her in on ex husband's thoughts. He knows nothing about ADHD and refuses to see that there is a problem. The counselor had run off a 22 page pamphlet for him and asked him to at least read through it. I don't think he liked it to much. This meeting was basically to let us know the teachers are seeing problems. They had the screening summary from the connor's report and things the school psychologist had observed. I didn't know it but the ex had been to the school and they let him fill out the connor's too. The scores, I thought, were pretty funny. All of his were in the 40's. Both the teachers and mine were all in upper 80's to lower 90's. Both the teachers and counselor pointed out to him that he only sees her every other weekend and that time is considered "fun time". I agree with that fully. Then he brought up the meds and said again that he didn't want her put on anything. I guess my next move is to go back to see our LCSW. After talking to her I may know more about where I go from here. So I guess it is a waiting game from here. I haven't called the LCSW yet, but assume it will be after the holidays before I can get in to see her. At least I am armed with this report now. Thanks again to all of you. Will post more when I know something.
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Post by on_edge on Dec 10, 2003 21:30:38 GMT -5
I have a meeting tomorrow for dd. This is the first meeting since diagnosis. I know the teacher, principal, and several others will be there. Cross my fingers.
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Post by Madison on Feb 3, 2004 21:47:04 GMT -5
Hi,
I know you've been through your meetings but a GOOD thing to do is
GET COPIES OF EVERYTHING!!!
It's nice to sit down at home and go through the reports and what was written down about your child and even what YOU have said. They gave me a touch of a hard time when I asked for copies of the PERSONAL interview the school phycogist did with me...sorry about the MISS spelling ;D She hummmm hauled around and said "Oh the printer went down, blaa, blaa, blaa then she said "hmmm...well you know this is all confidental?" Like WHO IN THE HECK would be seeing other than her PARENTS?? That was a OFF remark!! I'm glad I waited with the questions right there at her finger tips! Amazing how the copier magically got fixed! I'm still a little steamed about that one! Never the less I was NICE! It pays to be nice and seem like your ALL working together as a team to help your child through school.
Camismom....EXCELLENT ADVISE!!! She had some GOOD ideas!!
cutting that HOMEWORK load can be a HUGE factor!
making sure your child fully understands her school papers with more one on one instructions with the teacher and that your child can READ all the words on the papers. My child is going through that now..Missed answers are mainly because she can't read alot of the words and gets directions MIXED up!
My child needs that slower pace! It's the difference from a passing grade to a failing grade.
If homework isn't completed than see if it's possible for them to miss recess to make it up? So many times it takes a teacher to help with homework. I'm NOT a teacher and can't explain things like a teacher can do.
Hope this helps...madison
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