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Post by Annette on Jan 30, 2004 21:56:53 GMT -5
Twice this week, my daughter was come home with none of her work done. So they sent it home as homework So this morning I go up there to find out what's going on. Talk to them about setting up another I.E.P. To find out what the problem is. Part of her disability is that if she thinks her work is hard she will try anything to get out of doing it, and they know that.
And surprise all of her work is finished today.
This has been going on since the beginning of the year. She brings home more and more unfinished work, I go up to the school, she starts bringing home her work finished for a few weeks, then it starts all over again.
Does anyone else have to stay on teachers like this?
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Post by LitlBaa on Jan 31, 2004 1:27:27 GMT -5
I did the same thing when Katie was in elementary school. Now that she's in junior high, I'm backing off somewhat so she can feel the consequences of her choices. However, I still reserve the right to pop in and chat with any and all of her teachers, which causes massive embarrassment for my overly cool 12 year old.
I figure the world isn't gonna give her any slack, so hopefully she'll start to think about what needs to be done and then start to do it. I remind, but I won't nag about it anymore. I just tell her, "Your choice, your consequences...not my problem."
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Madison
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Post by Madison on Feb 1, 2004 15:41:33 GMT -5
Hi Anne and Lit,
Yes...I've sure heard about that! I've got two friends that their children are in 6th grade and one is now faced with a LOAD of work sheets that were to be done in class and now sent home to do as 'homework.' She said "he's not doing it at school and now their sending it all HOME and he just won't stay with it at home and is wearing OUT with it!" She didn't know what to do and my suggestions was "Have him do HALF of it and send the other half back to school and he can do it recess or WHENEVER they feel is a good time for him to complete this unfinished work!" It's like they are WAISTING 8 hours of school time to send it home to the PARENTS to complete! That's NOT right!! It all started because he brought home 2 poor grades on report card and when they set up a appointment it was like 'well, he's not getting his work done at school, blaa, blaa, blaa and now they are sending it HOME!' Here a parent is wanting more done at school with C's or better and the schools answer is 'Well, lets just send it all HOME!' It's turning the situation around and throwing it in the PARENTS lap! My child too struggles and I'M not going to settle with that kind of answer! I don't like to make waves but that work is to be done at school! I can't even get my kid to work longer than a HOUR on homework because they've been at SCHOOL ALL DAY!! My other friend said 'She calls school quite often and makes sure her child gets all his material DONE and they are helping him as much as possible.' If that work ISN'T done then the teacher only lives a few blocks away and he goes to HER house and that teacher helps him complete it. This teacher is the study hall teacher. The teacher NOW makes sure that boy has all material COMPLETED before leaving school. I thought that was a really GOOD idea! I've read ALOT of parent do their own assetments with homework either doing only half or one hours worth and NOT doing anymore. Most teacher DON'T complain if they see there's a EFFORT to doing some of it. I BET if you wouldn't say a word and sent the work done on what YOU felt is CORRECT/RIGHT and SIGN your name the teacher wouldn't say a thing about it.....take care...madison
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Post by mskris on Feb 12, 2004 15:53:13 GMT -5
I agree with Madison to some extent. I have occasionally written the teacher a note that ds did a,b,c, and was unable to complete the rest...I've never received a complaint. Sometimes it's just not worth the fight and we have to recognize our kids' limitations.
Ds, 8, 3rd grade, has a 504 policy and I have YET to see any of his class or schoolwork modified in any way. In fact, he did poorly on one math test and we suggested a different format for the retest - we had to modify it ourselves and then send the modified test to the teacher...IMHO that's not our job. DH occasionally reduces or modifies ds' homework assignments. I haven't done so yet, but I will if I think it's necessary. As far as I can tell, the school's idea of modification is to change his seating location or send him to the resource room for smaller class size (ie, he takes some tests in the resource room with only a handful of other kids, rather than in his own classroom). They also keep him in at recess a couple of times before a big test to join a study group. While I'm not thrilled about that, it does seem to help with the test results.
It is up to us to copy any study materials so we have an extra copy at home, modify homework, etc., and to be honest, I resent that at times. We have another child who will soon be bringing home work and we'll have to work with both of them. It doesn't take a lot of extra time to use a highlighter on a homework sheet or identify key problems to focus on.
Kris
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