So angry I could scream

[lauries]

Wow, do I feel for you. My DS just started middle school but our years in the elemantary school were horrible to say the least. Our school psychologist woudl try to talk me out of having him tested every step of the way. Our Principle was a simpleton who did not even understand kinetic teaching...Her question to me was "But why did he do so well in kindergarten???!!!"
Well, halfway through this grade 5, I have finally found an advocate in the school system. It is his speech tutor & believe me when I tell you that I will be thankful for her forever. She was actually the one who told the vice princ & counselor that DS parents have bent over backwards to get him this far & now it's the school's turn to work for him! Wow, I was floored because, as you know, we are never given credit-only blame.

So this is just to show you that the fight probably will not end in the elem.levels. But the upper grades do take this seriously & will work with you.

Hang in there, the struggle never ends but it does get easier.
Laurie

[Honeysmom]

Thanks, I think that is part of what made me so mad. I can't stand it when I get the feeling, or am told right out, that this behavior is a result of bad parenting. It just gets me b/c the that guy can't see all of the effort and time we put in. He has no idea that we run all over our side of the state to see doctors and has no idea the amount of reading and research we do on our own. He is just of the impression that I am looking for an easy way out. At least we are lucky that Honey's teacher is great. We have very good comunication with her. Oh well, you can't have everything.

I am glad that you have someone working with you indtead of against you!! Becky

[lauries]

Yes, it is nice to have someone on our side. Each year a new search begins for the one that you, as a parent can count on. Thank God Honey has a great teacher. That's half the battle.
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[HooDunnit]

When I was homeschooling our ADHD-son for five years. I got to know the superintendent of our school division farily well. One thing she happened to mention to me is that some school psychologists don't believe that ADHD is a medical condition. Most do, but not all. If a person doesn't believe that ADHD exists, then some of the other stuff follows naturally. If the student isn't doing well, it must be the parent's fault and so on. So there are two ways of looking at the same behavior.

Barry

[Honeysmom]

Yes Barry, that does make sense.

I just cannot figure out how people can't beleive that it exists. Especally if you look at 2 children from the same family, raised by the same parents, with the same rules. Why then would it be that one child reacts and behaves in a socially acceptable and positive way and the other does not? Or if you take into account that the child who does not respond as desired has also been displined in various differnt ways.

I know there are people who do not disipline their children or at least make the attempt and they still do not have some of the problems that many of our kids face everyday. I just gets me that someone can be so closed minded that they will not even consider the possibility.

[HooDunnit]

Yes, especially when they are a psychologist.

Our two sons are completely different and yet (my wife assures me) have the same parents!! The oldest boy is ADHD, somewhere between "great deal" and "severe". When we had him diagnosed, at age ten, he was two points from the top of the chart. The other boy, who is now eight, is not at all the same. My wife tells me that if we had had him first, we might have had six kids!! So all of this unfolds in mysterious ways!!

I wanted to tell you that I've always enjoyed your posts. Your children are so fortunate to have such a loving mom as yourself.

Barry

[Honeysmom]

Thank you Barry I appriciate that.

We have the same situation with our kids. Even our peditrician has commented that if I didn't bring them both in he never would have guessed they were realted.