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Post by vickilyn32 on May 18, 2004 12:50:29 GMT -5
I guess when I saw that they would talk to her if she joined them and looked at the pictures with her I did not realize that they would not even say hi to her if they saw her. I just thought that they would say hi then go on their own way. If they are not even being polite, then I would say you did well by talking to the youth pastor. I also have a problem with 6th graders and highschoolers being put together. The older kids are probably talking about things I would not want my middleschooler thinking about just yet. Even in church most of the kids gather to socialize, and I am sure talk about boys and dating.
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Post by camismom on May 18, 2004 13:16:17 GMT -5
That in a nutshell is the biggest problem. The majority of our youth group is high schoolers. There are two girls in eighth grade (but keep in mind school ends here this week) and one other sixth grader which like I said has an older sister. The only seventh grader is one of the ones Joel was talking about that has already come to him.
You're prbably right about the talk too. I know that's the only reason they joined her when she had those pictures, because they wanted to see the two hot guys I mentioned!
I think the best solution is to divide them in groups sometimes and break up the cliques. Other than that, I guess they need to visit some families with middle-schooler! ;D
Thanks for your concern and all the feedback though!
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Post by rosyred45 on May 19, 2004 9:08:40 GMT -5
I just thought about it, but about a month ago we had the same problem at SACC. Some girls took their classroom clique TOO FAR and brought it to SACC.  It has gotten to the point where the kids ASK to be put into groups by me, when we are doin a group project or game. That way it eliminates the kids thinking they weren't picked because someone didn't like them, I can make play fairer than having all of the athletic kids on one team because the are all friends and the not so athletic team on the other side because they are all friends. The rule at SACC is that you will respect everyone while at SACC. No, I can't control how they act outside of SACC, but we are all friends when we are here. If you can't get along with others, go sit aside until you can. You will not participate with a nasty shunning attitude. And it works. The big kids are our helpers, and explain to the little guys what should be what if they don't understand it from an adult point of view or explanation. Sorry, not much of a help, but I like the idea of the helper thing. The older kids that I have are in 5 & 6 grades, and they love the "responsibility" factor that we give to them. Kaiti |
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Post by Linda on May 19, 2004 9:26:00 GMT -5
Christy...You do realize that this a form of bullying that these girls are doing to Cami don't you?I hate it when kids are mean to each other. 
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Post by camismom on May 19, 2004 9:33:59 GMT -5
Linda, oh yeah I realize it! This is why it has bothered me so! I mean they are there to be a part of our youth group and server together, no matter the age. They are supposed to be christians and know we are all God's children, and He wants us all to be treated equally. We'll see how it goes tonight. Let's hope I can keep my own religion!  |
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Post by loveforeric on Jun 13, 2004 14:28:35 GMT -5
Christy; I know Cami is upset. but I probably would have done the same thing... the mama cub thing just kicks in when your kids are hurt.  This will pass. I think you were right to ask for a talk. Maybe she doesn't care but I bet it still stung a bit, and snobby people sometimes need to be put back on earth. I hope you have a better day, Christina |
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