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Post by rosyred45 on Mar 27, 2004 7:51:18 GMT -5
I know that there are a few kids that really need it, I started in 3rd grade  The summer thing only really hurts Mikey because he's go so much get up and go, it's usually gone by the time school starts He has a blast playing with the kids at SACC, mostly the younger ones of course. He tries to be the BIG BROTHER, sometimes they listen sometimes they don't. But most of the time he's thinking with his heart, not his head, which is what I do. It doesn't get me in trouble persay, just some really wierd looks sometimes. But I personally don't care. I'd rather someone come up to me and say "you're sons a little hyper and won't sit still, but he gave me the biggest hug today." That's my Mikey. If you're upset he wants to make you feel better, even if he gets in trouble for being silly at inappropriate times, he wants you to feel better. I admire that in a person, truly admire. He doesn't care what the status quo is. He's marching to his own drummer, and as long as that drummer is honest that's what matters, right? Sorry for the novel, it's just been eating at me. Kaiti Although it makes me feel better when I have other parents tell me he is the sweetest kid, doesn't have a mean bone in his body. Now if the body would only sit still..........  |
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Post by AnneM on Mar 27, 2004 12:49:55 GMT -5
Kaiti ... Mikey has a great big wonderful "gift" here ... because that is what it is ... a "gift" of being kind hearted and caring ... NO WAY does everyone have it! ..
I read the other day (and I think it is soooo true) that character is much more important than being clever ... Good character will get you much further in life ... Mikey sounds like he has a good, caring and kind character ... I personally reckon this will help him HEAPS through life !! ... ;D
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Post by LitlBaa on Mar 27, 2004 13:50:17 GMT -5
Katie seems to be catching up somewhat, last year the difference was really obvious. She's developed more confidence after standing up to the girl who was bullying her last year, and that's made her seem older. Not that I want her to grow up too fast...but I do want her to be on or close to the emotional level of her peers.
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Post by rosyred45 on Mar 27, 2004 14:28:00 GMT -5
With Mikey you could swear sometimes he's a little old man. The way about him, his innocense, his don't care additude, (it's not that he doesn't care, it's more that he isn't interested). He cuts to the chase... period. There is no middle ground. Sometimes its' good, sometimes-like in school-it's not.
I keep thinking of what one of my teachers used to tell us. She would ask if our home work was complete. She wanted YES or NO, not almost, not half way, not just about. You can't be half dead or half pregnant she would tell us. Yes or no. That's almost how Mikey is. He wants the answer, not a story or a comparison.
But that is how we have raised him and Tara. I want to know the truth. I might not like it, but I will be even madder if I find out you lied. So he point blanks everything.
Oh to be young again
Kaiti
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Post by Honeysmom on Mar 29, 2004 18:08:11 GMT -5
Immaturity is a serious issue in my house. I don't expect the world from Honey, but some of his habits are just getting out of hand.
He is just about 5, and still drinks out of a bottle. He refuses to go to school if he can't have one in the car on the way there. And it MUST be warm, no exceptions, ever.
Emotionally I think him and Avery (3 in june) are on about the same level. I have seen her handle situations much better than him, quit often. It makes me very sad that I see them as the same age in my mind. They are 2 yrs 3 months apart and she is excelling faster than him in many areas. I just don't point it out to him.
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Post by BBW4EVR1 on Apr 1, 2004 9:58:12 GMT -5
Maybe I don't worry enough about immaturity, but all of the immaturity issues in these posts don't really bother me. I admit that some of our kids do things that other children do when they are much younger, but who is it hurting. Our son still sleeps with and talks to stuffed animals--everywhere--wherever we go those animals come with-church-shopping. And believe me they are tattered and torn almost to the point of embarassement! But, when I look at the big picture, I guess it just doesn't matter. I see many adults that have habits much worse than the immaturity in our children. I know it bothers us as parents because we worry about our children being "different" or being teased because of their immaturity. But their emotional growth is part of who these beautiful children are. Some children are big-some are small-some have blonde hair-some have brown hair. All of these things combined make our children what they are. Our children are different - but beautifully different. With all they have to deal with, I think immaturity should be the least of a parents concern.  |
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Post by rosyred45 on Apr 1, 2004 10:24:38 GMT -5
I think BBW has been following me around stores. We always have a "friend" with us when we go grocery shopping, but I have had to keep the "friends" in teh car when we go to WalMart. I just don't want them to think we stole them or anything.(9 times out of ten, that's where they came from ) For me as a mom, the only reason I worry about immaturity is if it causes the kids to get teased, I got teased, so I know how bad it hurts. So when I turn around and hear my kids tell another AND YOUR POINT IS? It makes me feel good that they have the self confidence to tell someone that. My daughter has been know to tell other kids that if they don't like her clothes, they can buy her wardrobe for her. (wonder where she got that from ;D) I feel worse for the other kids that judge on material possessions. They have no concept of what's really important, thank God my kids do!!! They do make me proud, even if I'd like to trade them in every so often Kaiti |
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Post by BBW4EVR1 on Apr 2, 2004 0:40:00 GMT -5
AMEN, Rosy Hey, on the Walmart thing - there is no way the "friends" that tag along with us could ever on God's green earth be mistaken for a stolen item!!! I like your way of thinking - sounds like you have some pretty amazing kids! |
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Post by rosyred45 on Apr 2, 2004 6:36:05 GMT -5
Thank you for the compliment. I really appreciate that. When I step back and look at my "kids" as people and their character, I see that they are really not that bad. At little sloppy, but they make the best friends (of course this is most of the time, they both have a stubborn streak that won't quit with us, must get it from daddy ;D) When I look at everything that means anything, I'll take the immaturity anyday! Along with that comes lots of hugs  Kaiti |
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Post by BBW4EVR1 on Apr 3, 2004 3:10:02 GMT -5
Couldn't have said it better myself! ;D
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Post by sweety on Jun 4, 2004 8:46:56 GMT -5
Sweet Girl still carries her stuffed animals around (she's 9) She wants to take a baby doll to Girl Scout camp.She is also a summer baby (august) Unfortunately I think it will take someone making fun of her to get her to stop.  |
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Post by rosyred45 on Jun 4, 2004 9:32:14 GMT -5
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Post by aimee30 on Jun 4, 2004 11:34:28 GMT -5
If they laugh at you then they are really going to laugh at me. I have a pillow, "my pilly" , that I have had since before I was born. It is a feather pillow with what I call ticken (the blue and white striped material). I used to suck my thumb and rub the coldness off the pillow.
My dad took it away when I was 8 and I quit sucking my thumb. When I turned 16 he gave it back to me. I still have it on my bed and sleep with it every night. I still find myself rubbing the cold off of it occasionally.
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Post by rosyred45 on Jun 5, 2004 6:36:10 GMT -5
Thank you for admitting that, I'm glad I'm not the only one. I've said before that Mike is my soul mate and we talk about EVERYTHING, but when he makes me mad and I can't find the words, I just go upstairs and try to fit under it....it's my shield against reality ;D Well, better that, then storming off in a rage or doing something stupid that I'd regret later.......  |
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Post by kstquilter on Jun 7, 2004 21:08:32 GMT -5
i've been reading these posts for awhile because immaturity is such a big problem for dd as well. she is a really good kid and alot of things are not a big deal in the big scheme of life.
however as a 19 year old, there are maturity issues that surface as they age. driving is the first one, then her choice to stop taking meds, boys and sex and birth control all come into play when it comes to maturity and what she is able to deal with.
now she has stayed home to go to community college because she screwed up so bad her senior year that was the only choice she had. in that same year, all of her friends went away and jumped way ahead of her in maturity again. she had started to catch up some by her senior year.
i keep hoping she'll catch up but if 18 or so is when they peak, she's in big trouble. her social skills are still at least 2-3 years younger than she is. since she also still has braces on she looks about that age as well.
i sure hope she hasn't peaked.
from what i can tell, just getting older is the only thing that has helped with her maturity. i don't think the boyfriend (older), the sex, or anything else has helped. i do think if she took meds, she'd help herself some with choices she makes because it does help with her impulse control. but she doesn't want to take a pill to feel normal.
sorry this is so long, just lots of worries and some days are better than others.
karen
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