Post by eaccae on Feb 6, 2004 10:39:01 GMT -5
DS(8) has always been such a social, outgoing kid. We can go anywhere in the world and he has someone to play with. He has that ability (that I do not have) to meet strangers anywhere and instantly start conversation/playing/etc. We've visited my sister in Chicago and at the playground he will spend hours playing with people he has just met. Everytime we go to the movies he makes a friend. We even go to our own playground and he is right in the middle of the action with kids twice his age and people he doesn't know!
But . . . school is such a different story. He has always played with the girls. This never really bothered me - I just felt boy or girl - as long as he had friends and was happy then I was happy. (Of course my mother-in-law would go crazy but I felt that was her problem).
We have already had a couple of playdates with one of his best friends this year (a girl, of course). But recently I found out that DS isn't playing with ANYONE. I guess the girls are starting to do more "girl" things and he obviously just doesn't fit. He seemed fine with it but as a parent - you all know - my heart was so sad.
The other day he decided to bring his pokemon cards into school (I have always bought these for him even though he has never really had that much interest in the cards - loves the gameboy game but the cards usually just collect dust). I asked him who he was going to play with - with the cards. So he stopped and thought about it for a moment and then mentioned the name of a little boy in his class - said this boy likes pokemon cards. (I'm glad I had him think about it because if I hadn't I think he would have just sat and looked at them all by himself).
He has now played with this little boy two days in a row! Traded some cards - wants to get some new ones on the weekend so he can trade them etc. And - he even asked if this little boy wanted to come over to his house - the answer was yes! Yeah! I asked DS who this little boy played with usually and he mentioned two other boys. I asked how he felt about them and how they felt about him. He said one of them liked him but the other didn't really know him. He paused, and then said this boy thought his behavior was weird. So asked what behavior and he said - well he doesn't like it when I make the pokemon cards kiss. (my heart sank a little here). I explained to him that it was inappropriate behavior. I asked him if he wanted to be friends with these boys and he said yes. So I told him that most boys don't like that kind of behavior so he really had to think a little bit more about what he was doing. If he really just got interested in the cards and the levels, etc. and stuck with that then he would be okay. He thought about it and decided it was a good idea (yeah - here's hoping he doesn't impuslively forget this!!)
He has now shown me his pokemon cards like twenty times! As I am writing this (snow day
) he informed me that all the boys play the game but since he doesn't know how to play - when it is indoor recess these boys are going to teach him how so that when he learns he can start playing with them and the other boys during outside recess)!
I am sooooooooooooo happy right now! I guess buying those silly cards did help after all!!! (I started buying them because I knew the other boys were into them and was hoping that it might somehow be a "bonding" thing - yeah - finally!!!!)
But . . . school is such a different story. He has always played with the girls. This never really bothered me - I just felt boy or girl - as long as he had friends and was happy then I was happy. (Of course my mother-in-law would go crazy but I felt that was her problem).
We have already had a couple of playdates with one of his best friends this year (a girl, of course). But recently I found out that DS isn't playing with ANYONE. I guess the girls are starting to do more "girl" things and he obviously just doesn't fit. He seemed fine with it but as a parent - you all know - my heart was so sad.
The other day he decided to bring his pokemon cards into school (I have always bought these for him even though he has never really had that much interest in the cards - loves the gameboy game but the cards usually just collect dust). I asked him who he was going to play with - with the cards. So he stopped and thought about it for a moment and then mentioned the name of a little boy in his class - said this boy likes pokemon cards. (I'm glad I had him think about it because if I hadn't I think he would have just sat and looked at them all by himself).
He has now played with this little boy two days in a row! Traded some cards - wants to get some new ones on the weekend so he can trade them etc. And - he even asked if this little boy wanted to come over to his house - the answer was yes! Yeah! I asked DS who this little boy played with usually and he mentioned two other boys. I asked how he felt about them and how they felt about him. He said one of them liked him but the other didn't really know him. He paused, and then said this boy thought his behavior was weird. So asked what behavior and he said - well he doesn't like it when I make the pokemon cards kiss. (my heart sank a little here). I explained to him that it was inappropriate behavior. I asked him if he wanted to be friends with these boys and he said yes. So I told him that most boys don't like that kind of behavior so he really had to think a little bit more about what he was doing. If he really just got interested in the cards and the levels, etc. and stuck with that then he would be okay. He thought about it and decided it was a good idea (yeah - here's hoping he doesn't impuslively forget this!!)
He has now shown me his pokemon cards like twenty times! As I am writing this (snow day
) he informed me that all the boys play the game but since he doesn't know how to play - when it is indoor recess these boys are going to teach him how so that when he learns he can start playing with them and the other boys during outside recess)!I am sooooooooooooo happy right now! I guess buying those silly cards did help after all!!! (I started buying them because I knew the other boys were into them and was hoping that it might somehow be a "bonding" thing - yeah - finally!!!!)
