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Post by 1mom on Jan 24, 2004 12:05:42 GMT -5
does anyone else see automatic blurting out as one of their adhd'ers most impulsive symptoms? turbo (now 13) continuously does this with only a small lessening in degree with age. i notice it usually puts people off and i wish i could think of strategies to help him with this. he seems to not even recognize it at all. ((engages mouth way before brain.)) 
1mom
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Post by Linda on Jan 24, 2004 12:36:45 GMT -5
No comment...I still do it!!!  |
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Post by geewiznit on Jan 24, 2004 13:14:56 GMT -5
Oh yes! That is the one ADHD element that most plagues my daughter, 12, and it is a killer socially. Her Ritalin LA helps a lot, but when it wears off, watch out. She was thrown out of a play rehearsal after school yesterday, because she couldn't stop commenting on everything, and correcting everyone. My most memorable moment was a couple of years ago when, while riding in the back seat with a friend, she looked at the friend closely and announced "You have a mustache!" I nearly drove off the road. Wish I had some solutions for this one, but I don't.
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Post by AnneM on Jan 24, 2004 13:34:10 GMT -5
Oh my goodness YES ... this has always been a major problem with my 15 year old ! ... (better now ... but was a problem for years!) ...
I remember when his diagnosis was in progress (at age 13) and we were discussing it and he said to me "Will the meds stop me from blurting things out that I don't mean to because I seem to do that a lot?" .... At the time it just hadn't occurred to me this was part of add/adhd (I thought it was just part of "him") ... but it was something that even HE himself was aware of and I would say is a big part of the add/adhd package...
I guess its a case of "putting brain into gear BEFORE engaging mouth" !!
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Post by swmom on Jan 24, 2004 14:14:00 GMT -5
The impulsivity we were experiencing has greatly diminished with Strattera, greatly. However, prior to Strattera, my daughter at that time 7, had been listening to me complain in a big way about the mother of a friend of hers from school who had never bothered to invite my daughter over even after we had had her child over numerous times. Well, we ran straight into this mother at a Domino's one night, no one else was in there. My child came right out with our concerns about her!!!! She went on and on about how we had had Juliana over many times and the favor was not returned, not even once. And then my child asked WHY!!!!!!!!! Oh my god. It was a horrible moment and one I will never forget. Thank god for Strattera.
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Post by Dad2Brooke on Jan 24, 2004 19:06:40 GMT -5
The impulsivity we were experiencing has greatly diminished with Strattera, greatly. However, prior to Strattera, my daughter at that time 7, had been listening to me complain in a big way about the mother of a friend of hers from school who had never bothered to invite my daughter over even after we had had her child over numerous times. Well, we ran straight into this mother at a Domino's one night, no one else was in there. My child came right out with our concerns about her!!!! She went on and on about how we had had Juliana over many times and the favor was not returned, not even once. And then my child asked WHY!!!!!!!!! Oh my god. It was a horrible moment and one I will never forget. Thank god for Strattera. , I don't blame her, I would love to hear what the other mother said. We have the same situation, not with the blurting, but with them always being at our house never at theirs. I finally, told the kids that Brooke could play at their house, and after a couple of times of them not being able to play and going home their mother finally got the hint and Brooke played over there and last weekend even had a sleepover at their house. As far as the blurting goes, she does have a tendency to say what comes to mind, but like swmom, I have noticed a lessening with the Strattera. I can definately be embarrassing, when they have no internal filter. |
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Post by swmom on Jan 25, 2004 9:12:55 GMT -5
Accepting no responsibility whatsoever for returning the favor(s!), the other mother said to my daughter, "Don't you have any other friends you like to play with?" Perhaps her daughter said, "I'd rather have someone else over." I believe I'd do it anyway just because I have good manners!
We now limit playdates to twice. If they don't return the favor, we don't invite them back.
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Post by 1mom on Jan 25, 2004 12:52:11 GMT -5
hooooooooo boy, can i relate to the "you have a moustache"-type comments. lack of an internal filter. that about sums it up. for sure. i'll just keep hoping the filter grows with age. right anne?  1mom |
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Post by Honeysmom on Jan 27, 2004 1:49:26 GMT -5
It does lessen with age, but sometimes I still do it. I want to just crawl into the nearest hole after I open my big mouth. That's why I like typing, I can proof read what I want to say.
After one of my good friends had a baby her mom called to tell me. Then she told me the new babies name and then I acutally said "Oh, that is an awful name." I have no idea what I was thinking. I really felt bad, but it was too late and she agreed to keep it to herself. I feel guilty everytime I say the kids name.
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Post by LitlBaa on Jan 27, 2004 2:03:26 GMT -5
Oh my gosh, open mouth, insert foot! And then Katie looks at us like, "What? Hunh? How come everybody's mad at me all the time?" Because you don't make yourself stop and think before you open your mouth, and then you don't listen to what comes out of it...
Please tell me it gets better. She's 12 now. How much longer will we have "hoof in mouth" disease?
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Post by rosyred45 on Jan 27, 2004 7:12:51 GMT -5
I'm riding with Linda on this one, I still do it. I have been better at thinking before speaking, but my problem, right there with my kids, I want to know everything. And I mean EVERYTHING. I have to it's that "small town syndrome" ;D hmmmmm, Maybe that's why I work at a school.  Kaiti |
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Post by sweety on Jan 28, 2004 20:54:01 GMT -5
;D My family doesn't say "Don't ask Helen a question if you don't want to hear the answer" for nothing. ;D ADHD combined on concerta. Since I gave birth to myself basically, I have a 9 year old daughter(also on concerta) who does the same thing. I don't know how many times I have gotten myself in trouble. I have sworn in front of my pastor, I almost got kicked off of the speech team in High School because of a remark I made to one coach about what the other had said. I am getting a little better but it REALLY takes work
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Post by 1mom on Jan 29, 2004 22:03:17 GMT -5
helen, you made me smile. we say the same thing to our blurter---"don't ask unless you're SURE you want to know." (LOL on the preacher moment  ) prayers, 1mom
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Post by mctavish23 on Feb 1, 2004 9:48:56 GMT -5
Hi,
This is an excellent topic and one that hurts ADHD kids both socially and academically. It boils down to the way ADHD impacts the brain in terms of emotional self -regulation and the ability to internalize speech; among others.Several of the areas of the brain affected by ADHD have to do with inhibition.That's why there's a movement afoot to change the names(again).Right now, its purely speculative but.." Dysinhibition" is getting a lot support for the Hyperactivity-Impulsivity and Combined types.Further down the road I suspect that the Inattentive Type may be changed as well to what Barkley has called..."Sluggish Cognitive Tempo."
Personally, I liked it better when it was easily distinguishable between the old ADD vs ADHD. However, anythings better than MBD( Minimal Brain Dysfunction or Damage) which is what it was called back when I was dx'd in 1972.
I hope this stuff isnt boring to you, as I certainly dont mean to do that.I like this aspect of the disorder and also think it helps to have a better working knowledge of what you and your child are dealing with.
Take care.
mctavish23(Robert)
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Post by 1mom on Feb 1, 2004 11:34:26 GMT -5
dear robert,
please don't think the info boring--it is anything BUT! i knew about the nasty old term (MBD); hideous! i hadn't heard that they were thinking of changing the dx name again. (perhaps the DSM publishers are behind the movement as it will require a new edition to be printed. LOL! i too perfer the old ADD vs. ADHD terminology. it seems that most of the world does too, as i still see educators and "experts" using both. i just wish they'd settle on a once-and-for-all acronym and stick to it. that would help all concerned stay on the same page.
thanks for the post and help!
prayers,
1mom
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