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Post by AnneM on Jan 22, 2004 14:09:03 GMT -5
I have always struggled with this one .... One minute I think my son is very outgoing and the next I think he is actually very shy!! ... I am truthfully not sure WHICH he is ... !
Would be interested to hear about everyone else's kids in this respect and whether they could be considered "outgoing" or "shy" or a "mixture of both" ...
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Post by finnmom on Jan 22, 2004 14:20:48 GMT -5
Anne It depend´s, usually he is very outgoing, and then, when you least expect it he turn´s out to be shy  It´s usually place and situation that make´s me just a huge question mark, I´am like"What, I cant believe you got shy again  " I kind a think it´s the expectation´s he feel we have for him at that situation ,that make him shy, not eager to do anything. it doesn´t make any sence, I know, but that´s the case! Marja |
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Post by swmom on Jan 22, 2004 14:54:21 GMT -5
From birth until about 8, my daughter was very outgoing. Would walk up to anyone and start a conversation, strangers, anyone. Then, we put her on meds for ADHD. Suddenly, I think she became aware of all kinds of things and realized that going up to just anyone probably wasn't a good idea. I've seen lots of shy moments since then.
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Post by Linda on Jan 22, 2004 15:40:40 GMT -5
Very outgoing...always has been  loves to be around people and not afraid to hold his end of a conversation. |
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Post by Jenn on Jan 22, 2004 16:33:29 GMT -5
Kat is shy and quiet and Mikie is loud and more or less outgoing to a select group of kids.
Kat is my ADDer and Mikie is ADHD/ possible ODD.
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Post by gabrielsmom on Jan 22, 2004 18:00:53 GMT -5
Gabriel is very very outgoing!!!! Can't get him to act shy if i wanted to God Bless Him!!!
I'm actually hoping that as he grows older he will be less willing to go up to total strangers and start conversations...
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Post by Honeysmom on Jan 22, 2004 18:07:17 GMT -5
Painfully shy, but sometimes people think he is not shy b/c he is so hyperactive. If they watch, he is only hyperactive when no one is really paying attention. If he realizes someone is watching him he will immediately stop, otherwise he is so shy it looks painful for him. He absolutly refuses to participate in any school production.
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Post by 1mom on Jan 22, 2004 23:42:18 GMT -5
mine is extremely outgoing. the last word you'd use to describe him is shy. since he could walk and talk, he'd go up to strangers and talk to them, pick up their books, ask questions, etc.
once we were eating out (he was 2) and he decided to go talk to a man across the dining room. (we gave him pretty free reign within eyesight), he went over to the stranger (he'd been waving and talking loudly to him already), sat next to him uninvited, took inventory of his plate, then asked if he had any extra change, since he was starting to save money for his college fund.
(what can you say?)
on the other hand, as much of a livewire as he was/is, during his preK Christmas play with the lead role, he froze up and couldn't say a word. in most instances when he's in the "big spot light" or in front of people formally, he almost shuts down. such opposites ends of the pole! so, i guess he fits the "both" category.
interesting thread!
1mom
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Post by Dad2Brooke on Jan 23, 2004 8:51:45 GMT -5
Brooke is not shy one bit. She is probably too fearless. I have a story to tell. One night we went to Pizza Hut. Radio Disney had an event going on there, that we didn't know about in advance. So we are playing games like bingo and stuff, and they announce that they are going to have a Karaoke contest and need 4 volunteers. Brooke was pleading to go, but we wouldn't let her. (meanies) We just didn't think she should do it. Well the 4 volunteers get up there and one by one they sing, all doing pretty good, until the last one gets stagefright and won't say a peep. They ask for another volunteer, and Brooke just looks at me and says, "Pleeeeeeeeaaaaaaaaaasssssssssseeeeeeeeee!" and I say yes. She bounds out of her seat. And grabs the mike,  she has them queue up "All Star" (aka the Shrek song) and just proceeds to belt it out word for word.  The audience is hooting and holloring over this 7 yo girl, just giving it her all. What she gave up in musical ability she made up for in enthusiasm. Well, they vote by audience applause, and Brooke get the most far and away. She won! Nope not shy at all.... ;D ;D |
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Post by rosyred45 on Jan 23, 2004 9:33:09 GMT -5
Tara has gotten a little more reserved when it comes to what ever she feels like at the time. I guess she has my moodiness.  Mikey, oh, Mikey is a Mikey is a Mikey......  Fearless, talkative (most of the time, unless something has his undivided attention), sometimes shy(not much though.) But they both see my husband and I out and about in public with all of the things that we are involved in. We have always made sure that they SEE us. Not just hear us. We talk to strangers, open doors, pick up dropped things, offer assistance. When they ask why we did something, we just let them know that it was a help to the other person and that they appreciated it. Intresing the moods though. Kaiti |
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Post by vickilyn32 on Jan 23, 2004 10:35:36 GMT -5
Both my kids are very outgoing, but in diffrent ways. They both make friends easy, and can get along with people of all ages, including adults. Amber-10 loves to be in the spotlight. She is my little drama princess. Whatever will get her noticed is great with her. Dan-13 likes to do group things when he is in front of anyone. Team sports are great, but dont ask him to do anything alone.
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Post by camismom on Jan 23, 2004 11:01:55 GMT -5
Cami is shy, but she comes by it honestly! She is even shy to a sense with some of her own family members! If she wants to ask for something or tell them something, she always want me to do it for her! |
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Post by AnneM on Jan 23, 2004 11:22:58 GMT -5
This is an interesting response and SO mixed!! ... and some of the replies have had me laughing very loudly especially DadtoBrooke and 1Mom's stories!! ;D
Seriously though - it seems our kids vary hugely from being extremely outgoing to be extremely bashful .... with some of us (like FinnMom and I) seeing a mixture of the two just in one child!! ... From such a mixed response it definitely seems that being either shy or outgoing doesn't have anything at all to do with adhd !! .. but is a' general character trend' ...
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