He uses this word casually!!!!

[Linda]

Paul is on his 3 girlfriend in the past year!!! When he is talking on the phone and is ready to say good bye....they both say I LOVE YOU What is with that?

He couldn't possibly love her in such a short period of time...nor the girl!!!

To me I love you is such a personal thing and to hear it used so casually puzzles me. Is it his age?

[AnneM]

Oh Linda ... this one has baffled me too !! ... I have also heard Sam use this on the phone to girls he has only been "casually" seeing ... !! I think it must be a "sign of the times" but I will be interested to know what everyone else thinks ...

[mothercat]

Does that explain why there is such a high divorce rate
now days? Even being married as long as we have the words are still special and not said at every drop of the hat. Puzzles me too. Jimmy has a new girlfirend every other day and tells them all that.

[Linda]

Whewwww....at least I am not alone here!! I really do not understand it.

We have some really close friends....the woman feels closer to me than I do to her Her dh and my dh are very best friends since elementary school.

She throws I LOVE YOU around like it is candy She is always saying....love you guys!!! I am such a hypacrite because I say.....same here!!!

[Kaiti]

;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;Dsorry, that one slipped ;D ;D ;D

[Linda]

Spit it out Kaiti...don't be shy ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D

[sportsmom]

Yes I think kids use that phrase without really understanding the impact of what it means. I have heard kids saying it to one another and thought WHAT? Even when I was younger I don't remember saying it (only to that very special and dear first love~~who still makes my heart flutter whenever I see him~~another story hahahaha).

Although I do make sure it is the last thing I say to my family everyday when I say goodbye.

[Linda]

His last girlfriend "cheated" on him and he dumped her really quick but I could see how hurt he was.

I also say it to my family too....especially the kids....It just flows ;D ;D ;D

[kstquilter]

my son has loved every girlfriend he's had. brittany is much more conservative about who she says it to. i know she loved jerkboy. otherwise, i don't think she says it much. rarely to ed or i either.
i tell my kids i love them alot but not everytime i say good bye. one of the ladies at work tells her family members she loves them every time she talks to them. sometimes many, many times a day. i feel like it can't mean much when you say it or hear it so many times a day.
i know my parents loved me and they often told me they were proud of me but don't think i heard i love you from them until just before my dad died. i'm glad it's so easy for me to tell my kids. maybe a generational thing with our parents?
do you think our kids love each other so quickly because it makes sexual contact more acceptable? most kids hear that when you really love someone, sex is ok, such as living together for adults. i realize we don't tell our kids that or if we do, it's not meant for the teen years or younger. alos know it's not acceptable to everyone but i think our kids hear and see it enough to accept it. just a thought
karen

[Linda]

Personally I think these kids need to LIKE before they can LOVE...or am I being old fashioned?

[camismom]

Are you kidding me? Oh yeah, i hear this word thrown around like nothing with Cami and her friends. I have to give her a LITTLE credit in that she won't say it first, but if a boy says it to her, she'll say it back. I'm like, "what?..you don't LOVE that boy!" and she responds, "I know, but he said it to me, so what was I SUPPOSED to say?" How 'bout, "no you don't...you only just started seeing me!" I did that exact thing as a teen once. I had just started dating a guy and we were on our second or third date and he said "I love you" to me and got hurt because I didn't say it back. I told him I didn't say it because I didn't love him and told him i didn't believe he loved me either...we had just started dating. It took him back at first, but he later respected me for not expecting him to say it unless he really meant it. Anyway, I do agree that it is misused and misunderstood. I have seen Cami's infamous friend A, who changes boyfriends every other week, tell each one of them she loves them. I think it is just a thing they feel they "should" do to show their committment to the person....while not yet knowing they can do that in other ways.

[Linda]

It's the other ways that scare me

[Kaiti]

I had a couple of guys tell me "well if you loved me...."


So I said "IF YOU LOVED ME YOU'D WAIT"

hmmmm ???for some reason they didn't work out too well