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Post by Linda on Jul 12, 2005 15:09:26 GMT -5
Apparently Paul stopped by to see his mom...or I should say incubator a few days ago  He was out working with a friend and stopped in for some water...so he says....he has no contact with her for several years. I asked how everyone was doing and he says all right I guess!!!! My problem is I still have a lot of animosity towards her and I thought it was all gone!! I have a lot of feelings to sort out because as I said I thought the bad feelings were gone. |
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Post by milesofsmiles on Jul 12, 2005 16:46:18 GMT -5
Linda, Sounds like you have a lot of history there. It is normal to have all the emotion come bubbling back to the surface when all you have is the last memory to go on. Looks like a couple people in our forum have blasts from the past coming back. Miles  |
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Post by Amsmom on Jul 12, 2005 20:48:44 GMT -5
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Post by Linda on Jul 12, 2005 20:57:32 GMT -5
I guess it doesn't matter how old your kids are....in my case grandson...we want to protect them. I hope Paul has the stamina to withstand her |
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Post by mothercat on Jul 12, 2005 21:33:57 GMT -5
From all you have said about Paul..he seems to be a very smart and good person...trust that he will see thru her and wont let himself get used by her.
When it comes to someone doing a child wrong...I can see why you have harsh feelings. (Especially a mother!)
Paul is smart..he will be okay..he had the best example to follow when it comes to learning the difference between caring and incubating.
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Post by Linda on Jul 13, 2005 9:37:47 GMT -5
What kind of mother tells her child (Paul) that we took him from her when in reality she deserted him  I told Paul if he believed that ....why didn't mommy dearest have us arrested!!!!! |
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Post by AnneM on Jul 13, 2005 10:43:33 GMT -5
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Post by camismom on Jul 13, 2005 12:04:19 GMT -5
Linda ...  How can you possibly erase all those bad feelings towards that incubator after everything she has done (and much of what she HASN'T done when she should have!) ...? You CAN'T !! ... Nobody could!! ... so don't go beating yourself up about how you feel!! ... I completely agree with Anne! |
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Post by Linda on Jul 13, 2005 13:56:35 GMT -5
I guess it goes with the territory.  |
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Post by finnmom on Jul 14, 2005 2:13:12 GMT -5
Linda Ofcourse you have lot´s of bad memories of her, I think you shouldn´t worry about that at all...you did the best with the kid when she left him(finally...luckily) I think you´ve done great job with Paul and he´ll know the thruth behind her lies. To you. |
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Post by Linda on Jul 14, 2005 6:01:03 GMT -5
His mom has 2 other sons...14 and 10...I think it is a shame there is no relationship there between the boys and Paul. Again that is her choice...she prefers it that way.  Maybe Paul can change that. |
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Post by Kaiti on Jul 14, 2005 6:18:45 GMT -5
:-XDon't worry too much, Paul knows that you care deeply for him and the rest of your family. I have a half brother from my dad's first marriage. Growing up dad's ex told my brother that Dad was all kinds of a bad person and filled his head with stuff. Since Ray has married his wife, she has initiated what Ray was afraid too....contact with Dad. Now I have to say, dad's ex was nice enough to bring Ray up to stay with mom-mom and pop-pop when we were growing up because she felt that they didn't ruin the relationship. Anyhow, let Paul realize what kind of person his mom is. It's part of his maturing and realizing things. Things might have turned around for her and she might have a different take on things now that he is older and he sees what a great job YOU did. |
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Post by Linda on Jul 14, 2005 7:24:17 GMT -5
kaiti....The excuse she gives to Paul for not calling or seeing him is that she is AFRAID OF ME!!!She better be afraid if she hurts him again  |
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