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Post by Angelia on Nov 4, 2003 12:15:58 GMT -5
I am so frustrated! My son came home Friday with a handful of papers, and 5 of them had 50's on them. I was just in Thursday for a conference with his teacher, and she said he was doing fine.
My son is in the 504 program. On all of the papers that had 50's on them she had wrote a note at the bottum of the paper modified! She did this because she knew I would have something to say about these grades. I just do not understand how he can have a 50 on a paper that has been modified. Especially when I go back over the papers with him at home, and he gets everything right on them.
I just do not understand why every year I have to be up at the school all year long having conferences for the teachers to do the correct modifications.
The sad part about it is I really like his teacher this year, and I know as soon as I go up to the school to ask what is going on. It is going to be hell from there on out. I just hate, hate, hate having to go up to the school every year, and be the parent that every teacher hates.
I need some advice on how to go up to the school, and get my point across, and not look like a push over or the unruley parent. How do I get thes teachers to understand that I hate doing this as much as they hate seeing me up there. I just want them to do their jobs, so that my child does not end up back in the 3rd grade next year. Please help give me some advise I need it despirately!
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Post by catseye on Nov 4, 2003 12:44:11 GMT -5
I have no experience with a 504 plan... Just wanted to be upfront with you on that!!
My experience is kind of the same in that I have had SEVERAL calls from the school this year, ranting and raving on how well sd8 is doing this year.... Low and behold I get her report card yesterday, guess what?? It was a pretty lousy report card for a kid who is supposibly makeing leaps and bounds compared to last year!!
Our conferences are tomorrow night, and believe me this will come up... I feel we were mislead into believing sd was doing well, but instead it is just "better" comparitably to last year (does that make any sense?)...
I will let you know if I figure some way to do this with out makeing teacher dislike us!!!
In your shoe I think I would just say you know I dont dont like comming here badgering you (teacher) either, but I have to think about my childs best interest and his education... Something to that effect that isnt necessarily saying the teachers are doing something wrong?? I dont know... Good luck
cat
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Post by LL on Nov 4, 2003 13:41:35 GMT -5
This happened to me last year when my son was in 2nd grade, public school. He has an IEP. Came home with all these failing grades on papers all the way down to two papers that were in the 20s. I was LIVID.
I responded via email to the teacher, the resource teacher, the counselor and the principal. I love the paper trials emails leave.
I hated always having to be at the school, calling the school, emailing the school, making sure they were doing what they were supposed to be doing bec they weren't doing it. I had to modify the HW myself. I would just put a big X through it and write, NO.
Thankfully I was able to switch him to an LD/ADHD school. They know what they are doing and they do it quite well. Really highlights just how much time I was spending babysitting the public school.
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Post by mskris on Nov 4, 2003 13:43:28 GMT -5
Angelia:
Could your ds have test anxiety? If he knows the material at home, then you need to find out why it deserts him during the test. Is he overwhelmed by the number of questions/problems on a single sheet of paper? Could the teacher modify the layout to provide more white space? Is there a time limitation that makes him nervous? Can the teacher modify the time he's permitted to complete the test?
I wouldn't go in with guns blazing; You need to find out exactly what SHE means by modified and what you mean by it - it could be apples vs. oranges! You don't say how old your son is - could he lack motivation in school but want to please you? Does the teacher praise him for effort at all (my ds does great when the teacher praises him - he wants to please her even more). Is there another method that could be used to test him (oral vs. written?)? You and the teacher need to work together to determine where your ds needs the help and then make the appropriate modifications. The 504 plan can be modified to reflect your discoveries.
Approach the teacher like a partner, telling her you're willing to work with him at home to help out and you can provide suggestions, etc.
Good luck.
One final thought - is there something happening at school that distracts/upsets him? When my son was being bullied last year, his grades were awful - lo and behold, we stopped the bullying and the grades immediately rebounded. Does you ds have any social issues that may take precedence for him during the school day? Something to think about...
Kris
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Post by Angelia on Nov 5, 2003 15:30:17 GMT -5
mskris,
thanks for the responce! Maybe I needed to be more specific on some things. My son is 9 years old, and in the 3rd grade. The papers that came home with the 50's on them were not test they were his daily lessons worksheets that she teaches in class everyday. That is were the problem lies. In my sons 504 plan one of his major modifications is that the teacher must come to my sons desk after she has given directions to the class. She must read the directions to him. He must then reread the directions to her. They are to do the first problem together, then he is to work the second problem on his own. If he has it down she is able to leave, and he can continue the paper on his own. It is very important that he gets this modification, because he has more than likely not heard a word she has said about the directions to the class, because he is in another world. If he does not have this modification he is totally guessing on how to do the work, and once he understands how to do it he has no problem completing the work on his own. He will usually make a 100 on it.
Also, on test he usually does very good, because it is something that I can help him with at home, and we can study a few days on it. He just has to have the one on one help on something new, so that he gets it into his head. Once it is there he is good to go.
The problem I have with the teacher is I know that she is not doing this modification with him, because every paper he brings home the first two problems are wrong!
and I know how it goes it will take me at least 10 conferences this year before she will understand that she will have to do this modification with him or I will be up at the school everytime it is not done, and that is the part that bites!
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Post by Linda on Nov 5, 2003 15:41:52 GMT -5
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Post by Angelia on Nov 6, 2003 18:02:41 GMT -5
Well I went to the school today, and had the conference with my sons teacher, before I went in I said a prayer that god give me and this teacher the pacients we need to deal with each other this year. I came out feeling really good about it. I had the best conference!! I feel as though she really listened, and was opened to what I had to say. This is so new to me, because I am used to his teachers bucking everything that I say. So, hopefully this will be a good year after all.
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Post by catseye on Nov 7, 2003 9:30:40 GMT -5
Way to go, mom and teacher!!! I hope this is a good year for all!!! Good luck
cat
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Post by sierra on Nov 11, 2003 1:19:32 GMT -5
Keep us posted on those modifications. I hate to say it but you better stay on this issue.
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Post by 1Madison on Nov 11, 2003 19:20:38 GMT -5
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HI,