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Post by AnneM on Aug 5, 2005 17:04:38 GMT -5
We came back from 2 weeks holiday in the Mediterranean last weekend ... Sam took a friend who is really totally NON add/adhd and it very "interesting" to see the differences in them and also to see how their two characters in many ways in fact "complemented" each other!! Sam is "URGENT, URGENT, URGENT" ... if he wants to do something there is "no stopping him" ... and it needs to be done NOW ... if not YESTERDAY ... he is easily bored and yet is VERY RARELY bored because he makes sure he keeps himself occupied pretty much constantly.... His friend D on the other hand is VERY laid back and easy going ... Nothing seems to "get to him" and he likes to take time to "chill out" and "relax" ... When we first arrived on holiday we asked both the guys what sort of things they wanted to do during our holiday. Sam said "Go to places which are EXCITING and where things are HAPPENING ... waterparks where we can whizz at high speed down those shutes, go-karts, quad bikes ... etc.etc. His friend D on the other hand said : "I am happy just to chill out reading by the pool or at the beach ... I would love to just take a sightseeing trip inland or into the mountains to look around ... and take a wander around the markets ..." Having said THAT .. D was quite happy to also do the more action-packed things that Sam wanted to do ... but they weren't in ANY way a "necessity" to him .. they weren't of "paramount importance" ... whereas to Sam they were the "essential items of his holiday" !! .. Sam was also quite prepared to do some of the stuff that D wanted to do but he was always "keen, keen, keen" to finish that and get on with something more 'stimulating' .. !!  It was very interesting to witness the differences between them... but also interesting that these two guys get on SO WELL !! They have known each other for about 4-5 years and have consistently and continuously been good friends ... on holiday they were with each other 24/7 for 2 weeks constantly and they got on FINE !! ... I have to admit though that I was grateful that I didn't have TWO SAMS on holiday!! .. ONE can be exhausting .. TWO would have been a nightmare ... But two D's ... ?? Oh yes ... honestly MUCH MUCH EASIER!!  ;D ;D |
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Post by Linda on Aug 5, 2005 17:38:49 GMT -5
Paul has non ADHD friends too Anne....What is interesting to me is that they love to get into Paul's world ;D ;D
Are you sure that Sam doesn't have the H? ;D ;D ;D
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Post by tridlette on Aug 5, 2005 18:55:24 GMT -5
And Michael's BF Steve is adhd on adderall. They are peas in a pod most ways, but Steve never learned to ride a bike, and he won't even walk the two blocks between our homes... mom, dad, or brother always drive him! Michael will go for a a 2 mile run when he gets bored! Steve will watch the grass grow! And find something hysterical about it!
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Post by Kaiti on Aug 5, 2005 18:58:20 GMT -5
;D ;D ;DThat's what I was wondering too......BUT I think it was more of the hyper focusing for SAM. It is funny to see that kind of stuff though. At work when the kids are doing things..,...I luaqgh at the fact that the things that facinate the adhd'ers is the same stuff that facinate the non's-----after the fact.  |
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Post by mothercat on Aug 5, 2005 23:19:09 GMT -5
Bud is non adhd and Jared is adhd...but they are brothers....Bud has a friend Jimmy who tells me he used to be on rit...(he is a foster child) . Bud and Jimmy get along so well..Jimmy is gunho and Bud is more of a "lets stop and think this out dude" type. They get along so well and their behaviors do compliment each other. Jimmy gets the job done while Bud plans a schedule. Jimmy finishes a computer game ...while Bud tries to duplicate the programming..BUT when they have problems they sit down and talk them out together and listen to each other. Bud has much the same effect on Jared when they aren't doing the big /little brother annoying crud. Anne you are exactly right...it is interesting.
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Post by AnneM on Aug 6, 2005 7:42:16 GMT -5
Are you sure that Sam doesn't have the H? ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D The way the Dr described it to us was that Sam has "some" H ... and he has "some" impulsivity ... but it isn't nearly enough of either to cause a problem in this regard... whereas his 'inattentiveness' is by far the more significant area for him... which is why he ends up with the diagnosis of add rather than adHd !! ... ;D ;D |
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Post by Linda on Aug 6, 2005 8:21:08 GMT -5
They DO make life interesting for us though ;D ;D ;D
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Post by AnneM on Aug 6, 2005 9:20:23 GMT -5
They DO make life interesting for us though ;D ;D ;D Oh yes!! NEver a dull moment!! ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D |
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Post by finnmom on Aug 6, 2005 15:19:59 GMT -5
I schime in here a bit late but here it come´s, my two sent´s... Sometime´s, mainly lately, I´ve found myself in situation´s where I look at my ds and some other kid´s and find myself thinking:"witch one of these really IS ADHD" And then there is time´s when it´s obvous ofcourse  Ds has few friend´s, 2 in the neighbourhood wich both were a bit bully-kind´s at first, I had the feeling they played with ds and that made me mad.... but lately, mayby during the last year, I´ve seen the change, my ds has moved from follower to the duer/leader/equal partner(in crime ) mening that those boy´s have noticed that my ds really DOES thing´s they are planning, he just crab´s the idea and start´s working on it and get´s some good result´s, so they seem to respect him much more nowadays ... they just lay there thinking about doing something and there goes ds, not only doing the thing but taking it to the next level too, improving the original idea |
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Post by kstquilter on Aug 8, 2005 10:43:56 GMT -5
it's always been obvious at our house since brittany is adhd and chris is neither. he's so laid back and is quite content to watch tv or play video/computer games. he does however want fun, exciting things to be available and is excited to do them when there is an opportunity to do them.
brittany has mainly non-adhd friends which is why i think they come and go so often. she's exhausting to be around for long. the adhd friends tend to be there for a longer haul although they get irritated with each other at times and don't see each for awhile and then get back together again.
i have to say, i went to my mom's this weekend, two hr ride each way, and had chris with me. what a nice, relaxing trip and visit!
karen
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Post by AnneM on Aug 8, 2005 12:43:22 GMT -5
I Ds has few friend´s, 2 in the neighbourhood wich both were a bit bully-kind´s at first, I had the feeling they played with ds and that made me mad.... but lately, mayby during the last year, I´ve seen the change, my ds has moved from follower to the duer/leader/equal partner(in crime ) mening that those boy´s have noticed that my ds really DOES thing´s they are planning, he just crab´s the idea and start´s working on it and get´s some good result´s, so they seem to respect him much more nowadays ... they just lay there thinking about doing something and there goes ds, not only doing the thing but taking it to the next level too, improving the original idea Marja .. In my opinion Sami is displaying here some of the REAL REAL positives of adhd ... as in : "he just grabs the idea and starts working on it" .. OMG!! If ADHD is channelled correctly there is NOTHING these guys and girls cannot do !! ... This can be seen from the MANY MANY amazing " Do-ers" in the famous adhd lists!!! ... I will let you into a secret right now ... although Sam is predominantly add (with very little "H") I have OFTEN honestly wished there was (just a little) "more" H in him!! .. What Sam lacks and what those with H do NOT lack is the ENERGY to pursue things ... I am NOT saying that they always use that energy for the good things BUT its there and it CAN BE such an amazing gift!! .. Will anyone send (JUST A LITTLE) more "H" my way?? ;D ;D |
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Post by Linda on Aug 8, 2005 14:11:02 GMT -5
I HAVE SAID THIS TO YOU BEFORE ANNE:
BE CAREFUL WHAT YOU WISH FOR ;D ;D ;D ;D
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Post by AnneM on Aug 8, 2005 14:59:51 GMT -5
YIKES !! Yes !! and we know what has happened THEN Linda!! ;D ;D OK ... ok ... just a "little itsy bitsy bit" more ofthe H then?? ;D ;D ;D
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Post by finnmom on Aug 8, 2005 22:48:11 GMT -5
I´ll ask if Sami can send some ;D ;D ;D But you´re right Anne, as usual, these kid´s have So much in them!!! Chaneling it in the right way may be a bit difficult but there is lot´s of posible thing´s in having an H and an inventive mind I love the way they think out of box and want to ty everything, Sami is 10 and he think´s about thng´s that some 15y old dont know about(mayby they have other interest´s, but still )... If only we could incouridge them to use their wonderfull asset´s in the right way |
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Post by kstquilter on Aug 9, 2005 9:11:40 GMT -5
i agree so much with what these kids are capable of! i second the notion of being careful what you ask for!
when they aren't driving us crazy, they truly are the best kids a mom or dad could ask for!
karen
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