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Post by hummer19742000 on Jul 25, 2005 10:03:58 GMT -5
 I need help please i dont know where else to go but i do know that i need help it's with my nephew who i think may have add or adhd but i dont know my sister is in denial with the way her son acts i have told my kids that they are not aloud in the same room with him without one of us around for the fear of their safety and others: when he comes to our home he is fine for the first 5 mins. that he is here than it's a light switch he goes from loving to a very mean little boy to where he hits, scratches, bites, stabs what ever he want to do he does it they are having problems with him in school if you dont talk about what he wants he bites, pinches, hits that what he has done so far to his teacher because she wouldnt talk about science any more he is only 5 yrs. old and i dotn know what to do other than keep my kids at a safe distance from him i know that mean but still; i dont know if he has add or adhd but i dont know what the typical signs are of having this the dr.s in this area where she at they dont know either please if someone can help me please do so
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Post by Linda on Jul 25, 2005 10:38:01 GMT -5
Hi hummer and welcome. Not all ADHD kids are the way you described...in fact sometimes just the opposite.
Tell your sister that her son needs to be evaluated by a doctor and if you fear for your children....keep them away from your nephew.
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Post by milesofsmiles on Jul 25, 2005 12:44:23 GMT -5
Hi Hummer, Just wanted to expand a bit on what Linda said above. Children do not intentionally want to be bad at that age, something is triggering it. If you do not think that the Dr.'s know what is wrong, then you are asking the wrong doctor. There are specialists in child behavior, and can recognize the different symptoms, and recommend treatment. Sometimes it is medicine, sometimes counciling, most times both. Most times you have to go outside the area to get the special doctors. I have to agree with what you said. If the child can go off with no warning, constant adult supervision is needed. Hope you and your family find peace soon, we are here for you to bounce ideas and thoughts off of. Miles  |
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Post by finnmom on Jul 25, 2005 14:33:18 GMT -5
Hummer I do also agree with Linda and Miles; not a quite typical behaviour for (all) the adhder´s and deffenately not intentionally just trying to be bad... something is triggering this child´s behaviour and you have to urge his mom to get him evaluated. If you think your doc doesnt know about these thing´s then she need´s to get an other one, sound´s like something is bugging this kid and you need to find out what that is. In the meantime; keep an eye on your kid´s when they are with him, dont let them play unsupervised to avoid all the harm´s, better to be safe than sorry, even thou it might seem a bit hars to watch them all the time... that´s what we as adhder´s parent´s have to do quite requently; wath carefully when they play, so it wont get ugly  you´ve done the right thing already; you´ve started to seak help for this little boy, that´s the best thing to do for him and his family.....I can totally understant the defiency too, but some time you have to get over it and get help Warm welcome to our site, we have lot´s of info in here, take a look!! |
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Post by MomA on Jul 26, 2005 17:14:05 GMT -5
Awww, hummer, that's good of you to care about your nephew and try to help. And it's crucial to supervise for your own kids' sakes!
Just speaking as the "sister" for a minute, please remember that she's going through a difficult process. I've been there. I was never in denial that something was different about my son; it was from the day he was born. But too much advice from my family got frustrating when they didn't see that I'd already tried everything they loudly offered. I had to figure it out myself.
One word of adivce, just in case--don't tell your kids to do back what your nephew does to them. My sister and bro-in-law told their kids that, and I was horrified knowing that even negative attention was a stimulant for my son and he could get out-of-control enough to actually hurt someone. He never did only because my nieces and nephew never actually tried it.
And if it's a consolation, my son is now 8, and, though still out of control of his own body, he feels bad and apologizes at the slightest accidental bump into another kid.
As others have said, this isn't necessarily ADD/ADHD behavior. It can be for some kids.
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