soulmates

[HooDunnit]

What actually is a soulmate?

[aimee30]

Maybe I don't buy into the whole traditional soulmate look at life. If you find a person who is there to help, comfort, love, shelter, guide, honor, adore, and challenge you then you have a soulmate. Whether that person be a friend, lover, companion, or even a family member, I think they are still your soulmate. I also feel you can have an unlimited supply of soulmates.

I think you should ask yourself is this real and unselfish love? Not is this my soulmate?

[AnneM]

Aimee ... I agree! ... I was just about to say "I think I have met a lot of soulmates in life" and then saw that you had said pretty much the same thing... I also do not buy into the "there is only one soulmate for each person" idea !! ...

[rosyred45]

After a little thought, I have to disagree a bit. I believe that I have indeed found my soul mate. You know the little old couples that sit and the lady finishes the man's sentences and vice versa. Mike and I have always been this way.

I believe that people were brought to us to touch us in some way, whether it is positive or negative. We become stronger once we know the lessons learned.
That said, there is all types of loves and mates that can be said about. Motherly, fatherly, sisterly, brotherly, passionately, friendly, lustfully, soulfully, etc.

Depending on your mind set and how you view circumstances, depends on if you believe in soul mates. I once went to a psychic, just to see what it was all about. I rememeber at the time she said I have 6 men in my life who loved me, but all differently.
1-as a father
1 as a brother
1 as a friend
1 as a lover
1 as a secret admirer
and 1 as a soul mate

Well noe, not to discredit the abilities of the lady, but don't most people have this in their life? I believe that the soul mate is more a combination of all of the above it. The father and son combo as protectors. the friend as someone to share desires. the lover-if you don't know I ain't telling. The secret admirer- watching w/out saying much. And as the combination of them all is the soulmate. They want to protect, share with, love, admire and lift the spirits of that certain someone.

I guess it's that to each his own kinda thing. Sorry so long.
Kaiti

[aimee30]

Barry,

You didn't give us your view on soulmates!

[HooDunnit]

Well, one question that I have is this -- does your soulmate(s) need to be alive. I realize that that is a technical point, but I was a biology major.

I went to a funeral in Jan. of a woman that I will call Linda. She met my friend, who I will call Bill in college. I had known Bill since high school and Linda since college. When Linda died, everyone got a hold of me since I have the same illness as her. I really don't like going to funerals, but I had been thinking of Bill and wanted offer some support to him. He told me at the reception that he is scared of bringing up their children, who are now in high school without her.

During the service, a girl from Linda's childhood got up and gave a choking tribute to all the kind things that Linda had done over the years. When this girl's family home burned down at age eleven, and she lost all her toys, Karen gave her her only Barbie doll. Karen went on to become a nurse, and so on.

But when the speaker described Karen and Bill, she said that they had been friends, lovers, parents, soulmates and now angels. So I thought, "Oh, well, Karen I guess is an angel now because she is now longer alive. Where does that leave Bill?" and so on.

Barry

[rosyred45]

Barry, I am lost for words, except that no, a soul mate in my eyes doesn't have to be in the physical sense. I had a boy I went to high school with, we dated for a little bit, but were always friends until a car accident took him from us....I still to this day talk to him and ask him questions. I always know when he is around, the Doors or Metallica play and I get a feeling.

I know I might sound looney, but I'm perfectly sane in my eyes. Nothing really dies until you forget it. You said you are a biology major right? OK, take a tree, the leaves fall from the tree, they decompose making dirt, dirt has nutrients in it to help the soil which in turn feeds said tree and brings about growthagain from that same leaf, over and over.

Barry, your in our prayers.
Kaiti

[HooDunnit]

Talking about The Doors, I saw them perform live at the Pacific Coloseum in Vancouver in July 1968. It was a wonderful concert -- about 20,000 fans there. I was 17, and just finished high school. I liked Vancouver so much that I decided to go to university there in the fall. Nobody told me that it rained all winter -- how depressing. But The Doors were great. They had had just two albums by then -- their first album which was just called The Doors, I believe, and then their Strange Days album. They did all those songs. Those were the only two albums that I ever owned by The Doors -- LPs in those days. When there is that gunshot sound in the song "When the Music's Over" -- Jim Morrison fell on his back on the stage. He started singing from there -- from the floor!! Morrison hadn't started going downhill yet -- exposing himself and what not. By 1971 or 1972, he was dead.

Alison mentioned on a different thread that she liked the movie Forest Gump because of the advice that Gump's mother gave to him -- things like "stupid is as stupid does". I loved that movie and I especially love the sound track. All the songs are from the late 60s, just when I was a young person. I just hit the end of the hippie thing. I got to Yorkville in Toronto in the "summer of love" 1967. I was 16. My friend and I went there from Saskatchewan in my Volkswagen. Why my parents let us go, I don't know. By the time that I got to Haight-Ashbury in San Francisco, it was 1969 and all the hippies were gone -- there were just drug addicts and policemen walking around. But I've never seen anything like Yorkville in the summer of 67. All those young baby boomers falling in love. Were their horomones every going!! But there was something innocent about it too, for a while at least.

In the movie Forest Gump, there is a scene where Jennie leaves her drug addict husband who has been abusing her. She has a black eye and has almost jumped off the building. But then she decides to leave and goes out while he is sleeping. A song from The Doors is playing the line in the background, " Don't you love her madly as she's goin' out the door?" Then the door slams and Jennie is gone.

Jennie was sort of like a soulmate for Forest. I don't know if Jennie felt the same way. Can the soulmate thing be unidirectional, or does it need to be mutual and continuous?

[rosyred45]

I think if you feel a bond, most of the time it is mutual, but not always. And I think as for the continuing of it, I think so, but just a matter of how you read it. Once it is there, it will be like a strand that you can forever go back to, almost like tying a string to the soul and back trackin following the string to whichever effected souls you are looking for.

The more I sit and think, the more I can see the fact of having more than on soul mate. Mike said he has had 3 so far that he has found. One is his Uncle who is deceased, one is an ex-girlfriend -who by the way is very nice and cordial when ever we see her, and me. The similarities of us growing up and our parents is freaky. Our dads are about 3 months apart age wise, they both were over in Vietnam with the AirForce at the same time, his dad grew up in a town about the same size as mine did, they are both one of 4 boys......too freaky if you ask me.

Any how. I have a little more to think about now.....But more needs to NOT be thought about. The more you think about how a situation is going to go, doesn't it seem to backfire sometimes? Not always, but looking at the Forret Gump thing.....
Forrest was innocent to the core, naive when it came to being afraid (think of some of the things our kids have done that have amazed us) and pure. It didn't matter what Jennie or Capt Dan or anyone else said or did. Forrest just did what he thought in his heart was right. Jennie knew she had a love for Forrest, she just thought it was a brotherly love, and there fore didn't follow her true heart, until Forrest Jr was born. Capt Dan knew Forrest had the soul of a fighter, but the niavity of a child and that is why is was so ticked when he wasn't left to die with dignity in the bush.

When you think with your heart and not your head, your soul is more open to mates fo every class and creed.

Novel done for now
Kaiti

[anneke]

my mother is my soulmate.

I know when she is sick and I am not at home. she knows when I am sick before I know.

she can make my bring things from the store that she forgot to put on the list. just by thinking of it and sending the message with her mind to me.

I can malke her call when I dont have anny money left on my mobile fone cart. I can even made her call when I was in peru.

she feels how I feel and I feel how she feels. she can make me feel better bij sending happy fellings true her brains. even with an ocian between

she can do it with my brother too. she can make him things do he does not want to do.

we have a strong conection
sometimes it is freecky, but other times it is handy.

Anneke

[aaa-alison]

I think Soulmates are people who are planned to come into our life before we are born to help teach us lessons we need to learn. Sometimes they possess a more outgoing demeanor and we learn from them how to be more expressive. Sometimes they push us beyond our limitations by making us angry or by helping us out. And sometimes they set the stage for our successes by building us the bridges we need to get ourselves through. I love Forest Gump. Hoodunit-please start a thread and write more about your 60's /70's experiences. I am a total hippy chick-born in the wrong age. I love Forest cause he is named after my favorite place to be and because he is antiestablishmentanism to the tee. He makes it and is successful because of all his wonderful qualities that surround his good just choices. Forest is about the underdog achieving on his good laurels and morals. Truth is that we can all achieve, when we are true to our realities, accepting of it, and good to ourselves and others. ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D

[HooDunnit]

Hi Alison -- Yes, I'll do that and start a thread on Forrest Gump. Do you remember when he was on the bus and heard Jenny's voice for the first time? It was the sweetest sound that he had ever heard . . . he wasn't even looking at her. She said that he could sit down beside her if he wanted. The other children were making fun of him and denying him a place to sit.