I need to vent!

[Honeysmom]

I am having a terrible day! I just want to cry. I found out today that we have to move.

For those of you who don't know, we receive a housing allowance as part of Jerry's benefits. Currently we live on the same property as his boss, right at the farm he works at. It has been hard at times having Honey here, because it can be dangerous, but the benefits definately out-weigh that.

Well, Jerry came home this morning and said that due to the hiring of a new employee, we need to move. The new employee is going to be living in our house. This new guy does need to be closer due to his job responsibilities (he is the herdsman and Jerry is a maintnance/mechanic/feeder/welder) but darn it, this is my house!

We've been here just under a year and I have redone every room. I painted, put up little borders, made curtains, the whole bit. We are not required to move, and we will be compensated in other ways, but I feel like I am getting pushed out.

This is the first time in my life I have felt like I have a home, not just a house. Our last house we bought from my in-laws, it never was my house, it was my MIL's. Not intentionally, but that is the way those things go. Then we lost our house. We used own our own dairy farm and like lots of farmers we went under. That was really hard.

So then we rented until we moved here. This is really a crappy feeling. I feel like I am bouncing my kids from house to house. As soon as they get settled in I make them move again. This will be Honey's 4th house, and he is only 5!

Anyhow, I am getting long, but I really needed to get this all out. I know financially it is a good move, but emotionally it is not. I told Jerry that I will not move if I can't stay in this school district. That's where I'm putting my foot down.

Thanks for listening to me...Becky

[rosyred45]

Oh Becky, I'm sorry to hear that you have to move. We haven't moved since we got here 7 yrs ago, but we rent, and our property is up for sale, so we might be in the same boat as you here shortly with the nice weather and all coming.

Well, if it's any consolation, at least you won't have to deal with a flooded basement
Kaiti

[finnmom]

Oh no Becky

Moving with kid´s is a killer , We sold our apartment until we could move to our house, so we had to move to an smaller apartment and stay ther 9 month´s, then move here. I wouldn´t wish that to anyone!

But hey, you said it would be a good desicion to move, so mayby there will be some light in he end of this move too. I´ll send you some cyber-strenght for packing and carrying and....... Oh I got tired already

Marja

[Amsmom]

Oh Becky,
I'm sorry to hear that you need to move. What a pain in the ***. I thought the same thing that Kaiti did, at least you won't have a flooded basement to worry about. I know it's hard though, with all the cute little additions you made to the house and having to uproot the kids again. ((((Hugs to Becky)))))

[Linda]

Becky...you are so talented and resilient,I just know your next house will be a challenge to you.

Check the basement out for water problems..and the roof

[anneke]

I never moved and I dont mind that.
my granthmother is moving in 2 weeks for the 20th time.

good luck

Anneke

[Honeysmom]

Thanks everyone!!

I feel better about it today. And I never though of leaving behind my wet basement. There is a silver lining in this!!

Jerry's boss is really being awesome about this. There is no where else for us to rent in our school district and I refuse to leave this district. The next one over is one of the worst school systems in the state. They have a lot of problems with violence and race related conflicts. My kids don't need to deal with that. So now we are looking for houses again. That makes me feel better, at least this next one will be our, if we are really lucky.

As far as moving the stuff goes, it won't be too bad. Since the basement was wetI had to either throw stuff away (which I never should have saved in the first place) or repack it in water safe containers so they are set to go. I could pack my house up in less that 3 days. Once you move enough times you really get it down to a science.

Thanks again...Becky

[loveforeric]

Becky;

I am sorry to hear about leaving the house. Especially after all the work you have done. But the bright side is that you are leaving behind the basement water problem...

I hope you are able to find a house in the same district. That would be terrible if not... I'll be hoping for you...

I hope there are better days ahead.
Have a peaceful day,
Christina