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Post by Brenda on Mar 31, 2004 12:48:25 GMT -5
I don't know what to do.I get so mad at Stephanie and sometimes lose control.Sometimes I scream at her and feel so bad.I've spanked her and got carried away so I try not to spank her anymore.I know she can't control all of her behavior but sometimes I get so mad at her.I fussed at her this morning because she spilt her cereal all over her and we had to leave in 10 min.I screamed at her the whole time I got her cleaned up.I feel so bad now.Sometimes I feel like I'm going crazy.I worry all the time.I never enjoy things.I hate getting out of the bed in the mornings.I tried Buspar for a month and it didn't help.Maybe I should have tried it longer or asked about increasing the dose.Does this sound like anxiety?Someone please tell me that this is normal and I'm not going crazy!
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Post by finnmom on Mar 31, 2004 12:59:32 GMT -5
Hi You are not mad, not the only one and deffenately not going crasy  If you would be any or all of the above, you would have so many mom´s with you that the line would easily go from Seattle to Helsinki ;D ;D ;D I know how you feel, sometime´s thing´s just go the way that you end uop screaming and hitting the wall´s, that´s just life  Sad and dissappointing, yes, but we are only mom´s, not miracle-worker´s or angel´s When you loose temper, try to calm down and then just tell your kid, that this was too overwhelming, you just cant take it. You have the right to loose it, we all have. It´s so frustrating, I know, scary too. It´s a sign of burn-out as a mom/Parent. Best thing, if possible is to take some time for yourself, bath, walk, shopping, go to cafeteria what ever that feel´s good. Have a good night sleep and try again tomorrow!  You´re not a bad mom, just tired, frustrated...... Hang in there! I wish you a peacefull night! Marja |
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Post by catseye on Mar 31, 2004 13:00:06 GMT -5
You are definately not crazy! How do I know that you ask? Because if you were crazy when you do lose it you would not recognize, and feel bad (ooops missed that word) about it later!! There are days I have to apologize to my sd more than she has to apologize to me!  LOL I think it is good to show that we can make mistakes also... I am getting better with the yelling thing, but I too am a confessed yeller... Now about hateing to get out of bed, can you find the root as to why? Is your daughter difficult to wake? do you dread dealing with her morning attitude? Or is it something else in your day you dread faceing? If you can give a specific something to your dreading wakeing up, maybe someone can help... BTW did I say you are NOT crazy! Just wanted to remind you! cat |
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Post by Brenda on Mar 31, 2004 13:04:29 GMT -5
Thanks.Yeah I hate getting out of bed because I know I'm going to have to deal with everything all over again.If I sleep I don't worry!I really think I'm the one that needs medicine,not her.  |
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Post by camismom on Mar 31, 2004 13:49:38 GMT -5
Thanks.Yeah I hate getting out of bed because I know I'm going to have to deal with everything all over again.If I sleep I don't worry!I really think I'm the one that needs medicine,not her. I feel this way myself lots of time. I've even joked with my husband that some times I feel like my dreamworld is where I can be happy without worry. If you truly feel you need meds too, try that Buspar again and give it longer than a month. It takes a while to get in your system and for you to start really noticing the difference. I'm not ashamed to say I've gone rounds with Wellbutrin before. With my mom's constant bad health, and ADHD child, fulltime work, sometimes you just need a helping hand to get you through it all. Don't feel bad, just do what you gotta do. You've already gotten some great advice I can't really add much more. Just rememer, you are human, and you will crack sometime. When you get to the point of wanting to spank but feel like you'll "get carried away" walk away and blow off your stem on a pillow or something. This is advice a DFACS caseworker gave me. And if or I should say when you yell (because we all do at some time or another) then remember to apologize. That apology shows your child you care and you recongnize your own imperfections and value their feelings too. No, you are not crazy, you are a parent!  ;D |
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Post by finnmom on Mar 31, 2004 14:01:22 GMT -5
Hi I think it´s good for the kid´s to see that also adult´s can loose their temper, (not harming anyone of course) Like showing feeling´s is allowed, everyone can get really angry at sometime´s and get over it. I propably cant get this written as I want but I guess you´ll get my meaning  Getting out of bed at morning´s, well, count me in ;D Sometime´s it would be so nice just to lie on bed and be alone. in peace, in quiet............. But it never happend´s It´s eather "MOOOOM" or me trying to get ds awake and going I say it again: You´re a good mom, all good mom´s get really tired sometime´s. Take care of yourself so you´ll be able to take care of other´s!!!!! Marja |
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Post by Jorgy on Mar 31, 2004 15:24:34 GMT -5
Brenda! You are not crazy! ;D I was the same way and was diagnosed with depression. I had been this way for a long time. I was put on Prozac and whala! I am much better. It has helped me calm down enough to "pick my fights" with the kids. I don't feel certifiable anymore. Some days are still a little crazy... ok alot crazy but it is not everyday anymore. I am able to manage my emotions better. I don't look at this med as a long term fix and am planning to ween myself from it soon. I do have to say it is nice to have some zest for life back. Good luck, Sue
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Post by Honeysmom on Mar 31, 2004 17:57:31 GMT -5
I also sounded much the same way when I started Weblutrin. I worked well for me, but the side effects were scary so I had to stop it. Now there is only one med I can take for it and I am afraid of it so I am holding off, so I totally know how you feel.
Things can be going to well, and then BAM! It all falls apart. It happens to the best of us. Hang in there 9or serve toast for breakfast tomorrow!!! ;D
Becky
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