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Post by Blue Oreo on Mar 14, 2004 21:25:07 GMT -5
Sorry guys and gals.. Life has thrown me a loop, and trying to deal with it as easily as possible. Seems while I was down south having my surgery, my so called devoted husband was engaging in an extra martial affair with a friends sister. My DD, informed me when I got back along with my other 3 kids. I went crazy, and then she shows up in my house! I could have killed both of them. I finally had enough of his lies, adultery and physical abuse on me, so as of this past Monday, he no longer lives here. I can and have been dealing with the kids problems and mental health issues. My DD is now on 20 mg of Abilify and doing super well, no tantrums, no whining, no hitting, no OCD, no ODD issues.. I cant believe the diffence in her within the past month. More good news.. My surgery for weight loss is going great, as of a few days ago I have lost 75 pounds, and 10 pant sizes in 13 weeks. I feel great, and now will start a new chapter in my life without him. Thanks for all the support from various people in here. I will keep you posted with more later. I'm moving south to be near family to help me out, life will surely be better off for us near them. tata for now.. Blue Oreo
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Post by Dad2Brooke on Mar 14, 2004 22:12:09 GMT -5
Blue Oreo, sounds like you lost more than just 75 lbs of excess weight. Sounds like you lost some baggage as well.
Good luck moving south, and take joy in your children. I am glad they are doing well.
Maintain a positive mental attitude and take care of yourself. We are here if you need us, but I don't think you will.
Go get 'em!
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Post by HooDunnit on Mar 14, 2004 23:18:37 GMT -5
Hi Blue Oreo. I suppose that from Alaska, everything seems south. I think that you are wise to move to where you can find some support. Some people in abusive relationships are not able to get out. They want to, but they just can't make the break. You seem to have more courage than many. I'm glad the Abilify is helping your dd. I know you have a lot of challenges with all your children. You are one of the people that deserves all the support you can get.
Barry
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Post by Amsmom on Mar 15, 2004 7:41:10 GMT -5
Dear Blue Oreo,
Welcome back! You were definitely missed! As another mom who left an abusive relationship, a great big congratulations to you! You will be much better off without a man who was doing all these terrible things to you. I love your positive attitude and you are right! You will have a wonderful new life and I am so proud of you! I am also glad to hear how well your dd is doing. That is wonderful news!!!
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Post by mom2tj on Mar 15, 2004 9:17:07 GMT -5
Good luck.... you took the 1st step, just keep on going dont look back.... keep us posted.
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Post by Linda on Mar 15, 2004 9:43:11 GMT -5
Good Luck to you,and don't stay away to long.  |
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Post by AnneM on Mar 15, 2004 11:23:55 GMT -5
Well done Blue Oreo for getting out of this relationship AND losing 75 pounds ... this is definitely a new beginning for you and it certainly sounds like a really positive one!! .. Good to see you back ... and good news with your daughter too ;D ... sounds like good news all round to me although I am sure its been a painful period....
Keep us posted !!
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Post by finnmom on Mar 15, 2004 12:01:17 GMT -5
Blue Oreo!! Great to see you back here I´am sorry you had such a though awakening, but as you know and other´s have told you already; this is a good start! Even though, I honor marriage, I think that this kind of an abusive relationship is no marriage to stick in  Good decision! Good ne´w´s about your daughter! Great! I wish you all the best to come! Marja |
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Post by tridlette on Mar 15, 2004 12:03:36 GMT -5
God bless you for taking such important steps for yourself, and for your children!
You are an inspiration in the making... we will all keep you in our prayers.
Remember that you are strong and capable, and when you need to refresh, we are all here for you.
Laurie
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Post by camismom on Mar 15, 2004 13:43:57 GMT -5
I know that finding that out had to be very painful, yet you've made it through! Sign number one that YOU CAN DO IT! Congrats on your weight loss and dd's success. Good luck for your future. You will remain in my prayers. And hey, come on down! It's better in the South! hehe  {{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} |
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Post by rosyred45 on Mar 15, 2004 20:19:23 GMT -5
HI Blue, I KNOW you can handle anything!!!  My thoughts, prayers and support are behind you all the way!!!! Glad to see you again. Hollar if you need anything Kaiti |
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Post by aimee30 on Mar 15, 2004 21:47:57 GMT -5
Blue Oreo,
Congrats on the weight loss and your dd improvement!
As far as the husband situation, you are better off without him. You can make it on your own. It took me a long time to realize I could do without my first hubby. But I did it and am doing fine. You will too. It may not seem like it at first but you will. Keep your chin up and let us know how you are doing!
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Post by Honeysmom on Mar 16, 2004 0:49:41 GMT -5
Glad to hear you are back!! Good for you on EVERYTHING! Now the fun part, DH is gone, you lost a bunch of weight, and that means you get to go shopping!!!! Good Luck, Becky |
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Post by gabrielsmom on Mar 19, 2004 13:58:05 GMT -5
You have made all of us proud!!!
Keep up the good work
God Bless
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Post by Blue Oreo on Apr 1, 2004 10:32:18 GMT -5
Ok, still here, I finally got the troopers to get off thier royal arses and serve him with a restraining order. While I was back in Juneau on spring break, he came in the house and ran sacked it. he stole massive things, and the worst part, he stole girl scout cookies my daughter had for someone. He also stole my 2 four wheelers. They cant do a darn thing since techanically we are still married. They gave me the wrong divorce papers too, so now back to filling out massive more. But I changed the locks and turned off the garage opener since he lied to the troopers last night and said he didnt have it anymore. WHAT A CROCK.. thats how he stole me ATV's and other things in there. BUT good news.. I've lost 82 pounds so far. I did go shopping for more shirts and pants that dont fall off.. DD is doing very well, and the others are well with all the dad crap going on here. He even called my DFD worker to milk her for info about me. He lied to her and said I was verbally abusive towards the kids and the foster daughter. Which the worker knows he is lying and the kids also know he pulling for anything to get back in the house and get money. he is a hurting puppy right now and grasping for anything to keep him afloat. I will toss him the boat anchor is all I care to do for him. Well thats about my life right now, I'm hurring to pack the house and move away from him. I will post more later, but still kicking and not going down without a fight. take care, and thanks everyone for your kind words and prayers..
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