stranger danger

[Amsmom]

You may have already heard the horrific news that little Carlie Brucia was found murdered. I am so sick over it. I have had all the talks with ds8 about stranger danger, but with all tricks that the monsters use, they still can lure kids sometimes. Last night I saw a piece on this by a specialist named Ken Wood ( I'm pretty sure that's his name). He has a website at www.childlure.org, that gives ideas on how to talk to your child.

This morning I was going over the talk with ds8. He tells me sometimes that I treat him like a baby. I wanted to show him the clip where little Carlie is being apprehended by the monster, so ds could see how easily it can happen. Unfortunately, when I turned on the tv, they were just announcing that she had been killed. It was not a good way for my ds to find out and I feel bad that it happened that way. He became so nervous and clingy. I told him I know how scary it is, but unfortunatley, we have to be alert and aware. I told him that I would always keep him safe when I'm with him, but for him to know what to do if he is ever out of my eyeshot (just in case) Soon after he had to leave on the school bus and he was still very nervous. I am going to call his teacher to let her know how he is feeling and to let him talk about it.

It makes me sick that these monsters are out there and that our precious kids are their prey.

[camismom]

I heard about it right before I arrived at work, it just broke on the radio. It turns my stomach to think someone could do this to a child. Sad thing is though, kids are doing it to kids these days too. There was a girl shot and killed right across the street from where I work last year. This past week alone I have read on the internet about a 14 yr old boy being killed by another 14 yr old boy while AT SCHOOL, and two boys aged 11 and 12 sexually assaulting a 10 year old girl AT SCHOOL. This world has become a dangerous place for our kids, it's a sad thing...

What bothers me the most about her death (aside from teh obvious of course) is that we will never know how he lured her. I mean I have watched that video time and time again and it doesn't show her really putting up a fight? She hesitates, but then walks away with him, only being lead by the arm. What did this monster say to get her to do so? Proof positive that they have more tricks than we obviously know about.

May God be with Carlie's family and friends...

[rosyred45]

We had an incident a few years back with a little girl that lives 2 doors down from us. Everytime I hear about something like, it breaks my heart for the families involved AND for this little girls family to relive for another. The worst about the girl down the street was it was a neighbor who lured her and then killed her. Small town, big city, doesn't matter anymore.

Prayers to all the familes affected by this type of evil
Kaiti

[AnneM]

rosyred45 said:

We had an incident a few years back with a little girl that lives 2 doors down from us. Everytime I hear about something like, it breaks my heart for the families involved AND for this little girls family to relive for another. The worst about the girl down the street was it was a neighbor who lured her and then killed her. Small town, big city, doesn't matter anymore.

Prayers to all the familes affected by this type of evil
Kaiti

I am so sad about Carlie Brucia ... although I am in the UK so haven't heard about this directly we have had a few similar stories here ...

BUT the way I understand it the threat to our children is VERY tiny and rare from a 'stranger' ... danger is far more likely to come from someone they actually KNOW ... Unfortunately we hear SO MUCH from the media about these relatively rare occurrences with complete strangers that it seems to take away from the many more who are hurt by people who are simply NOT strangers at all ...

[finnmom]

:'(How sad new´s, I didnt heard it yet, although i have read about the case my prayers go to the family of that poor little girl.

Anne, you´re so right, how can we teach our children to trust but not trust for other´s. This is not such a problem in my neck of wood´s,but I still tell my kid´s that you may go with only these and these relative´s, really close and trusted one´s, and NOONE else without my promission!!!!!!!

I´am really worried that they went with someone they see daily, or someone in the neighbourhood that i might say hello to. Woop´s, Iám getting paranoid in here, but I think that I can not be too carefull about my kid´s

sadly this is the way this world has gone, take care everyone!!
Marja

[Honeysmom]

It makes me sick to my stomach to even think about it. I also worry about my kids, espeically since they are so small. They can't defend themselves in any way.

We always joke that if anyone abducted Honey he would turn the tables and terrorize them. It scares the hell out of me.

How sad for her family

[SKay]

I didn't hear until this evening that the girl's body was found. I also was very sad.

Maybe I'm going way out on a limb here, but don't you think that when children are exposed to sex, especially violent sex, repeatedly at a very young age when they grow up they need more and more to excite them and also begin to act out what they see? Of course not all children grow up to be perverts like this man, but unfortunately the more that stuff is out there and being exposed to children, the more children will be affected. Isn't the addictive quality of sex how pornographers make their money? The more people see, the more numbed they become and need more graphic and violent pictures to bring the excitement. I know I'm in the minority here, but for the above reason, I can't say that a woman's breast being exposed, especially in a violent way as it was Sunday, is nothing to get upset about.

[AnneM]

SKay said:

I didn't hear until this evening that the girl's body was found. I also was very sad.

Maybe I'm going way out on a limb here, but don't you think that when children are exposed to sex, especially violent sex, repeatedly at a very young age when they grow up they need more and more to excite them and also begin to act out what they see? Of course not all children grow up to be perverts like this man, but unfortunately the more that stuff is out there and being exposed to children, the more children will be affected. Isn't the addictive quality of sex how pornographers make their money? The more people see, the more numbed they become and need more graphic and violent pictures to bring the excitement. I know I'm in the minority here, but for the above reason, I can't say that a woman's breast being exposed, especially in a violent way as it was Sunday, is nothing to get upset about.

Hi Skay ... I think this is a toughie ... I also think you have a REAL point ... but I also think that the people who ARE affected by/need to act out what they see on the screen are few and far between in the "bigger picture" .. I think 99% of the human population can see things on the screen and completely disassociate them from what they would actually "do" BUT there is a 1% who do not/cannot disassociate it and it is for
this 1% that we have to be very careful ... that is my 2 cents worth !!

[finnmom]

Skay
I think you have a point in there in the way that we should do everything to prevent children beeing abused, sold for s. e. x, domestic violence, insest.... I´ve read that those children who have been abused as children´s, are more able to grow up to be abuser´s as adult´s Learned pattern and so on...

I dont want to affend anyone, not everyone miscared child grow up as an monster, those who survive, are totally wonderfull person´s, I admire them all, but unfortunately not every abused child is strong enough to survive it.

I agree your point of violence, sex in video´s, game´s etc. That´s totally parent´s duty to make shure their child is not expoced to that stuff. As Anne said, not everyone is ruined because of that, but this is still not good for child. Everyone draw´s the line; what is forbidden what is not, may it be the brest or a killing-game(first example´s that came in my mind) I´d love to see more parent´s make the decision for their child, children are not cabable to do that.

Marja