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Post by Gooniesmom on Dec 17, 2004 23:09:33 GMT -5
Hello everyone I am new to the site. I have a question regarding my non-ADHD 16 year old daughter. She is very unmotivated when it comes to doing school work/doing well in school. My question is do you think a therapist could address these issues? If not what other options are available for this kind of issues. I would prefer a therapist because they could address other issues aswell. Any advice is welcome!!
Thank You!
Kristy
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Post by Amsmom on Dec 18, 2004 20:48:22 GMT -5
hi gooniesmom, welcome to our forum family! we are really glad you are here. you are a very smart mom, i think a therapist is an excellent idea. sixteen was not an easy age for any of us, so it could only improve her life to be able to talk to someone about all the feelings, doubts, insecurities that go along with that age. good luck and keep us posted  |
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Post by Linda on Dec 18, 2004 21:17:57 GMT -5
Hey Kristy...you asked the question...to me that means ...go for it!! Go with your "gut"...you know your girl better than anyone  |
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Post by AnneM on Dec 20, 2004 14:38:24 GMT -5
 Kristy and WELCOME ABOARD !! I have to say that 2 years ago ... well no ... even up until a year ago this was a REAL ISSUE with my (now 16.5 year old) son ... He was generally very unmotivated at school and the whole academic environment. However now (we are in the UK so our education system does work differently than the US) he is in college where a HUGE amount of his work is hand-on "practical" and suddenly his motivation has bounced in BIG TIME!! ... It may well be that your daughter (like my son) was disinterested and disillusioned with sitting in an academic "classroom" environment being taught a lot of the time =, subjects that they would simply "never use again" ... BUT a hands-on practical environment (and he DOES still do maths, english and IT) can "motivate" in a way where the academic classroom just CANNOT and DOES NOT with some of our kids!! ... I have found the "difference" quite overwhelming!! ... I would take a guess that your daughter will do something "practical" in her life rather than "academic" ... ??
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Post by Aurelia on Feb 17, 2005 14:21:43 GMT -5
I am an adult with ADHD in college and I'm having motivation issues as well. First off a therapist is a great idea. I'd get on that right away.
Secondly I find clutter and distractions are big problems for me. Help her find a spot where she has all her tools on hand and little to distract her. Encourage her to take breaks often. They say for ever 50 mins of work you take 10 mins break but for ADHD the ratio is based on the attention span of the child.
Thirdly rewards would also help. I read Out of the Fog and it encouraged adults to reward themselves when they succeed. With a child its different because some may think its bribery and you want her to do it for herself not for what you could give her. Maybe you and her can find ways she can reward herself for succeeding. And for ways to see how this will benefit her in the future. Help her balance work/school with fun time. I also find working to music helps or some kind of 'white noise'.
Good luck!
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Post by finnmom on Feb 17, 2005 16:27:42 GMT -5
Hello Gooniesmom and a big welcome to our forum. First, I think you got it right by yourself; therapist sound like a good idea, I´d deffenately try that. 16 is a hard age all together, so I think this could improve by time, but you obviously dont want to loose this time at her studie´s etc. So go for the therapist Aurelia, welcome to you as well, it´s so nice to have young adult´s w/ adhd, you give a good picture of how it can turn out with my ds. |
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