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Post by Allanque on May 23, 2004 0:40:37 GMT -5
I think I'm going to have to change doctors to keep my mom and my doctor from conspiring behind my back. I had an appointment on Thursday (last week, the 13th). We decided that, seeing as how a Dr. Pepper (a caffeinated soda) made more of an effect than dexedrine, that maybe I would try being off drugs for a bit before the first summer session of school started. The person I'm living with this summer agreed to be my slave driver and make sure I'm doing homework and all that fun stuff.
Mom had an appt on Monday, the 17th. They decided, with absolutely no input from me, to put me on a full dose of Provigil, 200mg twice daily. They expect me to wake up at 8am every day to take it, and remember to take it again at 4pm. Hello?
I think I'm going to end up trying to find a doctor up here so they can't pull crap like this. We've gone through just about every freakin' drug (including provigil at a lower dose) and they either didn't do anything or had too many side effects.
And I'm basically ranting now, so I'm going to go to bed.
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Post by shelli on May 23, 2004 11:52:08 GMT -5
How old are you? I would think if you are 18 that it would be a breech of your confidentiality for the doctor to discuss things with your mom with out your consent or your presence. I know she is your mom, but it does not matter. If your 18 they can not do that, unless you have consented to it. If your 18 I would say it is time to take responsibility for your treatment or no treatment and take responsibility for the outcome of your choice. I'd say also that you know down in your heart if you are capable of taking responsibility for your treatment, and if not then you need to let your mother do it.
Shelli
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Post by Linda on May 23, 2004 12:00:59 GMT -5
alla...I agree with shelli...take responsibility for your self...you are in my opinion old enough to do so.  |
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Post by TexasMom on May 23, 2004 23:04:01 GMT -5
Just remember your mom probably doesn't have any disrespect intended. If anything, it's probably habit, from years of handling your medical issues. But it probably is time you took control and saw a local doctor.
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Post by Allanque on May 24, 2004 11:10:54 GMT -5
No, see, the problem is, Mom's still paying for my school. She has flat out told me that until I am out of school or until I'm paying for it, I WILL be on medication. Even though we've pretty gone through just about everything and Adderall is the only thing that really worked. Mom swears I'm just being too picky. Well, excuse me if I don't want to take something that either (a) doesn't work, (b) makes me not eat or sleep, or (c) both.
Shelli - I'm 22. It's the not the legal shtuff I'm worried about, it's the financial consequences. As in, I'm trying to figure out right now how much it would cost me in the long run to just take out student loans and say to heck with mom.
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Post by sierra on May 24, 2004 11:51:28 GMT -5
Alla,
Dang good to see you girl! I've been wondering how you're getting on.
We're different people and I think you're more mature than I was at your age. Third year of college was when I cut my nose off to spite my face with my mom and dad. I told them that there were just too many strings attached to their money and I'd do without thank you very much.
I didn't put any planning into the decision I just made it and dealt with it. Things have changed a lot since then as far as the economics of school is concerned. I don't know if I could make a choice like that today in the same situation and at the same age. As it was it put me back a year because I didn't qualify for financial aid until I'd been self supporting for at least a year. So I took a break and worked for a year or so.
Between working and financial aid I was able to finish college after that break without going into debt.
Like I said the economics of school have changed a lot.
You're probably too honorable to fill the prescription but just not take it.
How many semesters before you finish your degree?
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Post by Honeysmom on May 24, 2004 17:17:24 GMT -5
I can see your point with having to follow the rules mom makes as long as she is paying, but would she compromise? Maybe if you told her that you just want to try it one semester, if it goes well she may see it your way, but if you bomb everything then I am sure you would both see it as a sign.  Or you could very nicely talk to you mom about how it makes you feel like a child when she does that. Let her know that you appriciate her input and you would hope that she felt the same about your opinion. If you do talk to her first just be really careful that you are as mature as possible. I think sometimes parents forgot that their kids grew up and it becomes a habit. If you get whiney or argumentative with her she will see it as a sign of immaturity and probably refuse you flat out. Good Luck, Becky BTW, if you live that far away how does she know that you actually take it?? OK, that was a really bad suggestion, but I am sure it crossed your mind before. |
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Post by shelli on May 25, 2004 9:40:37 GMT -5
You have to come to some agreement with your mom. Have your ever tried going with out meds during school (even highschool)? If so what happended, with your grades? You are defineitely stuck in a tough spot. Have you ever used short acting Ritalin, and if so how long has it been since you tried it? Alot of times what did not work long ago, will work now because you may of over come enough on your own that you may not need the same things. Your brain chemistriy changes as you get older too.
Shelli
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Post by Allanque on May 25, 2004 14:42:41 GMT -5
Shelli, I wasn't really diagnosed until after my first year of college. They tried Ritalin 2 or 3 years ago. I have not been unmedicated since I was diagnosed ('cept for stuff like forgetting to take it).
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Post by Sorka on Jun 2, 2004 7:47:06 GMT -5
How about this.. I Presume that summer session is a little lighter on the work load than regular fall and spring sessions? (you can only determine this based on the class/es you are taking) If so. Then how about you go without for the first summer session. If it goes well then you go without the second session. If it goes poorly you try what the doc suggests. I think that that is a reasonable compromise.
Reasons to back you up...
a. Will you be on medication the rest of your life??
B. The side effects can have just as much if not more effect on your school performance as the lack of meds..
(you can't do well in a class if you are too tired/sick to attend it in the first place)
C. It is your life and you want to take responcibility for it and work out ways that you can do that best yourself.. as college is a 'trial' and 'prep' for the real world then you need to do this now.
Some ideas..
Also the less emotional you get about it the better you can make your case..
Have your FULL rant and RAVE.. about your anger over this behind your back pow wow and get it out.. If you have to write it out in a letter to your mom.. then put it away..
Then you move on to write out your case.. pros and cons about taking the meds.
think..vulcan.. heheh Also steer clear of name calling.. like you know.. mom you are such a dweeb.. and stick to when you did this it made me feel.. this....
I hope this helps you out!
Now off to make my own offspring very unhappy!!!! hehehe
(they're little yet!)
Denise
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Post by Allanque on Jun 3, 2004 22:47:54 GMT -5
Last week, mom asked if the fact that I'm not griping means I'm not taking it anymore. I said yup. She said ok. She's asking me almost daily if I'm going to be able to handle it. She hasn't insisted on trying something else yet. She has, however, insisted that I find a tutor for my finance class - which is probably a good idea, seeing as how I didn't have all that great a grasp of the stuff in the first one. I think as soon as I told her that she'd like this prof, she realized that meant that he was the kind that most college kids hate (no multiple choice, show every step, and oh, the definitions in the book? half of them are wrong) and I was gonna need all the help I can get.
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Post by shelli on Jun 4, 2004 19:32:20 GMT -5
Keep the lines of communication open with your mom even if things start to get a little rocky!!! She made a good alternative suggestion besides meds. (tutor). So you have to give her credit for that!!!! If things start sliding let her know and maybe she will have more suggestions. You would be amazed at what we mom's can come up with!!!!! Good Luck!!!!! Shelli |
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Post by Honeysmom on Jun 7, 2004 9:32:54 GMT -5
Alla,
That is great!! I hope you keep doing well on your own. Your mom is going to forever worry about you b/c she has that little mother gene that most of us have. She might bug you about it now, but when she can see that time has passed and you are still doing well she will ease up. She is only worried about your best interest. If she didn't care she wouldn't bother.
I have been living on my own for over 8 years and my mom still calls to make sure I see the dentist and get my kids thier shots. At least I know she cares about me.
Becky
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