Post by aimee30 on Mar 10, 2004 23:57:51 GMT -5
Yesterday was my second appt with DD's therapist. It went so much better than last time. I explained that last time I didn't feel comfortable because EX was there. I also told her that I felt like she took sides with him. (him not seeing ADHD in DD). She said that if she made me feel that way she was very sorry. She didn't feel like she had done that and said she couldn't in her position. Anyway, it started out on a good note. She brought us both in and mostly talked with me at first. We talked about behavior I wanted to change, rules of the house, and consequences. Whenever I'm put on the spot like that I feel like I freeze up. I couldn't come up with anything. I eventually left the room and she talked to DD alone. She came up with her own behaviors that she knew were bad. 
It surprised me that she had so many. I guess she really does know what she is doing wrong. They wrote down bad behaviors she has at home, school and the bus. We made a plan for it all.
The first devastating thing happened today when DD disobeyed the rules. All of her clothes are gone from her room. She is in shock. I told her if she does what she is supposed to tomorrow she can choose what she wants to wear to school on Friday. Hopefully she will do what she is supposed to tomorrow.
The therapist and I also discussed my insurance problem. EX has insurance on DD but has yet to call to get pre approval for her to be seen for ADHD. We are on a school contract right now. They are paying for our first three visits. After that I don't know what will happen. I don't think the insurance company will give me pre approval because we are divorced. It stinks! But that is the way most insurance companies work. They won't tell you anything unless you are listed on the insurance. Anyway, she said she thought it could be considered medical negligence.
We also discussed EX not believing she was ADHD. She said after spending 20 minutes with her in the room she saw all the classic signs. She also doesn't think there would be a problem if I put DD on meds for it. EX doesn't want her put on anything. Afraid she will become a zombie. Their office apparently looks at the custodial parent to decide about meds. I was pleased with that. I have worried about that so much. I'm not sure that I even want to put her on meds yet. I would like to test the waters with the natural alternatives before hand, but I'm not sure how that would work. Waiting on some replies to my last post under natural alternatives.
I don't want to bore you all anymore with my ramblings so I will just say: we see the therapist again the 30th and the psychiatrist May 12th.
I was very pleased with the appointment Tuesday! Even if we still don't have a diagnosis!
It surprised me that she had so many. I guess she really does know what she is doing wrong. They wrote down bad behaviors she has at home, school and the bus. We made a plan for it all. The first devastating thing happened today when DD disobeyed the rules. All of her clothes are gone from her room. She is in shock. I told her if she does what she is supposed to tomorrow she can choose what she wants to wear to school on Friday. Hopefully she will do what she is supposed to tomorrow.
The therapist and I also discussed my insurance problem. EX has insurance on DD but has yet to call to get pre approval for her to be seen for ADHD. We are on a school contract right now. They are paying for our first three visits. After that I don't know what will happen. I don't think the insurance company will give me pre approval because we are divorced. It stinks! But that is the way most insurance companies work. They won't tell you anything unless you are listed on the insurance. Anyway, she said she thought it could be considered medical negligence.
We also discussed EX not believing she was ADHD. She said after spending 20 minutes with her in the room she saw all the classic signs. She also doesn't think there would be a problem if I put DD on meds for it. EX doesn't want her put on anything. Afraid she will become a zombie. Their office apparently looks at the custodial parent to decide about meds. I was pleased with that. I have worried about that so much. I'm not sure that I even want to put her on meds yet. I would like to test the waters with the natural alternatives before hand, but I'm not sure how that would work. Waiting on some replies to my last post under natural alternatives.
I don't want to bore you all anymore with my ramblings so I will just say: we see the therapist again the 30th and the psychiatrist May 12th.
I was very pleased with the appointment Tuesday! Even if we still don't have a diagnosis!
