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Post by camismom on Mar 1, 2005 14:01:46 GMT -5
Thinking about it further, it seems that most of the people I know with two kids have two kids completely opposite each other. Even Andy's two girls are completely different. Where one is very petite, the other let's just say, isn't. One is very out there, very conscience of her looks/weight, etc., wanting to be seen and heard and doted on, Miss Popularity (cheerleader, pageant competiter, homecoming, etc.) the other is more laid back, what you see is what you get. Then a coworker of mine has a dd and a ds that are complete opposites. Her dd is very outspoken, not a shy bone in her body, and her son is extremely shy. Go figure. Maybe I should have had another. Maybe my luck of the draw would have been a quiet, cleanly, well-behaved and obeying kid the second go round.  |
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Post by AnneM on Mar 1, 2005 14:13:08 GMT -5
Hmmm ... I have also seen these vast differences in siblings ... and sometimes it is a real "Yikes!" factor ... but then again I honestly think if we look a little "further" ... look round the family as a whole ... NOT just at the parents ... and you will probably find characters throughout any family with traits of all of these differences ...  |
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Post by finnmom on Mar 1, 2005 15:07:50 GMT -5
I can see myself in dd6, too well actually some of me in ds9 and in dd3 and at the same time, some of their dad´s traid´s too They are total mixture´s and still all of them are different ;D I got to say that my adhd was very easy as a baby, slept well, never cried without a reason, learned to speak early, to walk, to run, to go to potty...everything early and easy... now he´s adhd...go figure |
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Post by camismom on Mar 1, 2005 15:31:54 GMT -5
Funny you mention that Marja, cause Cami was a wonderful baby as well. she started sleeping thru the night at a very early age (between two-three months), walked before she turned 1, etc, etc., but now? Oh boy! Sometimes I want to grab her and look deep in those blue eyes of her to see if there is ANY of me in there! As far as what Anne mentioned about some traits coming from other family members, I now know that to be true too. If y'all are keeping up with my life saga on the Oscar thread, y'all will know I didn't grow up with my dad's side of the family. Growing up I often wondered how I fit in with my mom's side, I was so different than all of them. When I met my dad and his sisters, the big light-bulb over my my head blew from the over-watage going thru it. It was like, HA! THAT'S WHERE I GOT XXXXX FROM! THAT'S WHY I ACT THAT WAY!! etc, etc. |
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Post by kstquilter on Mar 2, 2005 10:12:02 GMT -5
well my adhd'er is my first born. she rarely slept and was such an awful baby that no one could believe i had another child!
ds is not adhd and is very laid back, much like my brother and my dad. he was a wonderful baby but got into more mischief as a toddler than dd did.
dd is about half me and half dh and we are very opposite people so it's no wonder she has add! it's more amazing that she doesn't have multiple personalities!
both my kids are very different in almost every way and in ways that have nothing to do with adhd.
my brother and i are very different people as well.
dh has undiagnosed adhd and is the baby of four.
i agree with whoever said that it's just the luck of the draw like everything else about our kids, hair color, eye color, tall, short, etc.
karen
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Post by AnneM on Mar 2, 2005 14:30:10 GMT -5
Sam was a difficult baby ... although he SLEPT beautifully and STILL to this day "loves" his sleep !! ... but he used to get very upset very easily and I can remember the embarrassment of taking him out and him suddenly howling VERY loudly and nothing and I mean NOTHING would seem to pacify him!! Speaking of which I was at the supermarket today and a toddler started to cry and scream. The checkout woman said "Ohhh !! I know what "I" would do with that kid!" ... which I found really insulting ... !! She (the check out lady!) had NO IDEA what the circumstances were with that chlld ...  But once again it was an example of the prejudices people instantly have against a child who is acting out ... they think some tough discipline will "solve it" ... UGH!! I get soooo mad at this narrow-minded attitude at times !! |
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Post by mskris on Mar 2, 2005 14:53:23 GMT -5
Ds 9 is the oldest and so far, the only one wiht ADHD. He was a very good baby, and slept great, but started having night terrors at 9 mos. He still sleeps great. I didn't begin to notice any problems at all until he was about 3, and then thought it was due to the birth of his sister (which it might have been). We didn't realize ADHD until he was 5-6 and in school. Now it seems so obvious. He is on the mild-moderate end, though. Nowadays, he's less trouble (most of the time) than his younger sister. I'm beginning to wonder if she's adhd, too, or just spoiled rotten by her daddy! Geez, you should see him wait on her - and lets her get away with too much! She is now nearly 7 and I can see more trouble looming. Grrrrrr. She, too, was a great baby, but never did sleep too well. Once out of the crib, forget it! She still roams the house nightly, usually ending up in our bed (dh leaves - told you he spoils her). She was diagnosed LD in reading this past Jan. Baby is wonderful and I'm praying she has no issues!! Please, God, give me one that sails right through!!  KRis |
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