Hello ;)

[danielle]

I figured I would say hello.. I am from PA.. my husband has adhd.. only been diagnosed for last 4 years. I myself do not quite understand all the areas of this disorder and more certaintly to not understand how someone can all of a sudden develop this.. my husband was 22 when he was diagnosed with adhd .. and counseled and medicated.. 4 years .. almost 5 years later.. he has taken himself off of medication w/o counseling and left me completely in the dark about all of it. So I found this site out of complete frustration .. and I am glad I did .. Forgive me if i don't recall all of your questions from my other posts.. but someone did ask what meds he was on ..

ritalin - 2 years
concerta - 1 year
adderal - 1 year
adderal xr - 1 year

I personally do not like the medication .. and I dunno much about ADHD .. but I can not deal with the mode swings when the medication wears off.. on the other hand .. the not being medicated has cause a lot of fear for me .. because he forgets a lot of things.. and starts things and never finishes.. impulsiveness.... i dunno if this is characteristic of adhd.. but I hope to by posting on this site get a better understanding in this disorder and possible find a few people in similar situations to share my concerns and hopefully find ways to help my family deal with this .. because right now all I want to do is avoid it .. and I know that is not the answer.

[HooDunnit]

Hi danielle. I think I suggested exercise on the other thread.

The more that you can learn about ADD/ ADHD, in my opinion, the better. I have found that reading about and talking to other parents about our ADHD child has really been helpful. Without knowledge, there may be a tendency to dislike these people, or certainly some of their behaviours. And you can become afraid of what the future might hold.

So welcome to our forums and I hope that you are gradually able to learn more about this medical condition.

Barry

[finnmom]

Hello Danielle

i also replied to your first thread, unfortunately I had no answer´s to you. I´am clad you´re seeking for information and support; I think that´s the main thing to do if you want to make thing´s better for you two.

It sure can get frustrating, I get frustrated as a mom to an adhder, age does make the difference in some area´s but when your hubby has been dxéd at adult age, he hasnt been able to learn to cope with these problem´s adhd bring´s to our life.

You asked, how it can all the sudden be the case, like boom, you have adhd, well it cant, it can only be not evatuated before

I hope you find this place helpfull, ask away all you want, we have lot´s of info in here about almost anything....
Welcome again!!

[rosyred45]

Hi Again Danielle, Barry and Marja are both right to say #1 the more you know the better you are and
#2 it doesn't develop over night.

And I'm in NJ ;Dby the way, and my husband has family in Centre County

Back to your husband, what I have noticed is that I don't differentiate between my kids, my husband, and myself. Meaning, look at all the sections around here, you might notice something in the behavior section.....it might be geared towards kids, BUT you can always modify things to suit adults.

And you can forgive me for not remembering everything I had typed in the other thread as well, but we don't do the medication. We have adjust my son's diet as per Fiengold, and that makes enough of a difference for us to notice his behavior changing. No artificials and no preservatives, plus a few foods that contain salycitates that REALLY aggravate Mikey, well, they aggrivate me more

As a start to try to help, STICKY NOTES AND LISTS.

They do wonders for me. Plus I am the biggest procrastinator, so what I do remember I wait until the last minute to do most of the time And I have more than one to do list at any given time, just in case I loose my others--which I usually do

[tridlette]

Welcome Danielle, I wrote to you on the other line as well. I am in Montgomery County, PA, so an extra hello from within the Commonwealth.

I hope you come to join us often and we can help you through the rough days and nights!

Laurie

[Sorka]

If the mood swings are getting ya..you could suggest to him to try Strattera..

also there is a really good book out there.. ADD Friendly Ways to Organize your life..

And there is another one out there called.. Honey are you listening? by Rick Fowler.. that one might help you!

It is better if you understand what he is going through so you can better help him, and lower your own frustration level..

And he most likely did not develop this suddenly.. quite often it has been going on all your life.. and people just shove it off as the person being lazy or not quite too intellegent.. and all that.. and the person pretty much starts to accept that assesment of themselves.. only to come to realise that it is not really what is going on..
There is a big frustration level here for him too I am sure..
so keep that in mind..

Denise