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Post by Dad2Brooke on Dec 23, 2003 11:15:19 GMT -5
LitlBaa's post "It's Tough to be 12" in the "Humor" section and the responses to it inspired this post.
When did you leave home and why?
I'll start..
I am a September baby and graduated HS when I was 17. As a result of a graduation night party mishap, I was grounded by my mom for the whole summer. (Later I found out she was only kidding)
Well, there was no way I was going to be grounded. I was 17 and I had graduated. The next day I talked to a recruiter and six days later found me in sunny Orlando Florida (106 degrees) starting bootcamp for the US Navy.
I don't regret my decision, and the grounding merely got me off my butt. At the time I was in a small town with no jobs and no future. The Navy straightened me out (I was always getting in trouble as a kid, never anything major, but not far from it) and made a man out of me. It taught me to take responsibility for my own actions and to respect others.
I spent ten years in, and only got out when I met my wife. I would highly recommend it for anyone.
So, that's my story and I am sticking to it.
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Post by eaccae on Dec 23, 2003 12:46:32 GMT -5
Well - there was the on and off years of college (but I didn't live at home during the summers). And then came home, got a job, moved into my own apartment, eventually moved home, met husband, moved in with him (although my mother will deny it to this day - I was physically at DH's, all my stuff - clothes & furniture - was there - BUT my mail still went to my parents house  ), then got married 11.5 years ago. |
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Post by finnmom on Dec 23, 2003 14:15:53 GMT -5
I have always been such a "daddy´s-girl", so I was 20, when I moved from home and that was b/c my DH-to-be, we moved together. If it woudn´t be him, I most propably would have lived in home a little longer. D2B, I´am so interested about this recruting to army thing you have in U.S. In here it´s an civil-obligation(for men) to go in to army, usually for 6 to 12 month´s. Most of men´s do that, now it has been an option for women also for about 5 year´s, but we are not obligated to go. So you just go and recrute and that´s it  Can you do that in any age or is there some age that you cant go anymore?? Are you paid? (You have to, dont you?) In here there is only a minimum-pay, "money-per-day" that´s no paycheck. Iám just curious. Marja |
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Post by Dad2Brooke on Dec 23, 2003 14:36:25 GMT -5
I have always been such a "daddy´s-girl", so I was 20, when I moved from home and that was b/c my DH-to-be, we moved together. If it woudn´t be him, I most propably would have lived in home a little longer. D2B, I´am so interested about this recruting to army thing you have in U.S. In here it´s an civil-obligation(for men) to go in to army, usually for 6 to 12 month´s. Most of men´s do that, now it has been an option for women also for about 5 year´s, but we are not obligated to go. So you just go and recrute and that´s it Can you do that in any age or is there some age that you cant go anymore?? Are you paid? (You have to, dont you?) In here there is only a minimum-pay, "money-per-day" that´s no paycheck. Iám just curious. Marja , You can join at age 17 with your parents permission. You can join from 18-37 and you don't need permission. We have no compulsery service in the US. Our armed forces are all volunteer, and there are five branches: US Navy, US Marine Corps, US Army, US Air Force and US Coast Guard. I can't speak for everyone, but I don't think anyone joins for the money, although it does provide stability, meals and roof over your head. I believe it is more for patriotism. |
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Post by finnmom on Dec 23, 2003 15:57:44 GMT -5
Dad2Brooke!
Thank you! that cleared the field nicely. I can agree with you about the patriotism; it´s the most important thing for our boy´s(and girl´s) to go to army, in here too. It´s not so hard to get out of it, if you really dont want to go, but most of them, at age 17-28(I belive that´s the top) do join the army, I think it´s something like 90-95%/boys born/year.
When I was at the age of 17-20, there was no possibility for women to go to army, if so, I think I would have gone. When that law came, I already had my first baby, my studies, home to run, and all the exuces you can come up with ;D
Thank you again!
Marja
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Post by kstquilter on Dec 23, 2003 19:38:42 GMT -5
i left home shortly after turning 19. i went away to college for a semester and quit. ( i know, it was stupid)
even after being away just a few months, it was so hard to come home. got a job, bought a car, bought a mobile home and moved out.
i loved living alone! met dh about 2 years later and married two years after that.
i know a few kids who have joined the service. most are glad they did but not all. do think it helps with the maturity process and being held accountable.
adhd dd thought of joining but can't imagine her being able to take orders for anything, especially the dumb stuff they do during boot camp! not sure if they'd take her anyway with the adhd.
karen
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Post by rosyred45 on Dec 23, 2003 19:44:21 GMT -5
Why oh why the questions to think about.......
I have typed and deleted so much to keep it small. We have been in and out of mom's and dad's for about 10yrs now.
All of the complaining that I do about all of the parents and in-laws, makes me appreciate the fact that we will never be OUT.
But to make it official, about 19.
Kaiti
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Post by aimee30 on Dec 23, 2003 21:48:17 GMT -5
O.K. so I was young and dumb. I started college and went for a semester. Was to interested in getting out and partying. I finally moved out after quitting college and meeting my ex husband. As I look back on it, it was so much of a mistake. We married in March and had my first child in December. If I had it to do over I never would have married that young. I still would have moved out though. Had a very crappy home life. The mistakes you make as a child.
Bottom line I was almost 19.
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Post by Jorgy on Dec 23, 2003 22:08:21 GMT -5
I will join the young and dumb group. I, at 18, went to college but dropped out after the first year. I liked to party too much too! I moved home for a month, got a job and an apt and have never looked back! So I guess officially I left the nest at 19 also. I ended up partying hardy 'till I finally settled down with my lucky hubby when I was 28. I could care less about partying now. All out of the system, I guess. Sue
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Post by rosyred45 on Dec 24, 2003 2:27:59 GMT -5
Wierd thing is, when I was 19 and went on the quiet side of not partying and all that, I quit college. It was funner to sit there, um, toasty, then straight.
Oh well, back to bed
Kaiti
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Post by mom2tj on Dec 24, 2003 9:15:37 GMT -5
I stayed home till I got married at 22 my parents where very good to me and I had no reason to want to leave before that...... they gave me freedom, room and boad and my own car at no expense, I was no fool  |
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Post by rosyred45 on Dec 24, 2003 9:27:21 GMT -5
OK, thinking about it: short version: moved into hubby's(before we were married), moved back home,moved to Delaware, moved home, moved to Carney's point, moved home for 2 weeks until this house was ready. Been here since 96. And as I look down the road about a quarter of a mile, I see my parents, grandparents, oh, we're all related here. LOL
I can say, I used to be jealous of others that had money. But thinking about it, dad bought me a car for my 18th birthday. Hey it only put him out $100 and it ran for 3 yrs.
I can't complain except that my parents don't care for my husband. But I don't care. We have 2 beautiful kids and a roof over our heads.
I am thankful
Kaiti
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Post by tridlette on Dec 24, 2003 10:42:39 GMT -5
DH and I bought a house before we were married. He moved in, I stayed with Mom and Dad till the night we before we were married. Lived in that house, a mile from my parents for another 2 years, then moved across town for the next 9 years. DH got a job transfer so we had to move about 175 miles north into Vermont. Stayed 2 years, then another transfer. Now we are 350 miles south of Mom and Dad in Valley Forge.
If I had my choice, I would have stayed forever right down the road from my folks, but the best thing that could have happened did, when we got transferred. Now I have to learn to take care of my own family... Six years, I still barely make it! But some day, FlyLady will finally get through to me, and I will learn!
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Post by jdmom on Dec 24, 2003 11:06:42 GMT -5
Ooooh, I'm another young dummie. Live in Arkansas, got a scholarship to a college in Virginia, so left home after high school. Stayed there a year and got SOOO homesick that I moved back home after freshman year. Started sophomore year at the community college and then met "the man of my dreams"NOT! Got pregnant, quit school, got married, left him after 5 years, moved back home for a little over a year. Now I live in my own home and have a good job....but you wonder how life "could have been". I wouldn't trade my little angel for anything, however. Live and learn!!!!
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Post by susanthemom on Dec 24, 2003 13:02:01 GMT -5
I think home left me, in a way. Lived about a mile from parents' home for about a year while attending a local university, but I don't really think of that as leaving home. I still saw my parents almost as frequently as when I lived with them. But it got interesting when I moved to "the city" (New Orleans) the next year, to attend a different school. Six short months later, my parents up and moved to China! That forced me into a kind of independence I never anticipated, but the most rewarding kind. Of course, the very month they went overseas, I started dating my now husband (he had just moved from N.J. the same month that I had). Fate, really.  Well, with four kids, my "Yankee" husband, and a college degree in tow; I'm right back where I started, living about a mile from my mother. Who knew? |
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