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Post by sweety on Mar 30, 2005 9:44:50 GMT -5
 Just writing to ask for prayers. My husband and I are having some problems. He has anger issues stemming from being verbally and psychologically abused by his mother and grandmother as a child and his father being an alcoholic. He never gets physical but he has a short frustration fuse and yells and makes snide remarks. He doesn't do it everyday but if he has a problem with work or with the computer at home or other things he starts in. I've sent him an email at work describing how I feel, so we wouldn't get into it in front of Rose and we both would be calm when we read it. In 12 years of marriage I have gotten him to admit he has a problem but he really need to see a professional about it. Pray for insight on his part and the ability to assist him on my part. Thank you.
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Post by Linda on Mar 30, 2005 9:52:08 GMT -5
Awwww Helen that is sad. I think it is alful when our childhoods rears there ugly heads sometimes and catch up with us when we are adults.Some of us get past it...others don't. I hope your dh seeks help not just for him but his family.  |
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Post by AnneM on Mar 30, 2005 11:01:47 GMT -5
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Post by sweety on Mar 30, 2005 11:58:29 GMT -5
:)I got a reply from him in email. He denies that there is any "gender issue" but he knows he comes from a very dysfunctional family. He sees it as his ultimate responsibility to keep Rose and I's computer "running perfectly" and gets really annoyed when it doesn't . I think it's a man thing. This is a man who has a thing about making sure that my car is always running perfectly. He even bought me a set of tires for my birthday one year.  Maybe I am fixated on this issue with his annoyance with the female gender. (You know how we ADHDer's get set on something and we stew over it till it is long past useful) I also don't think he realizes what he is saying sometimes. At least we are talking together. |
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Post by finnmom on Mar 30, 2005 14:43:50 GMT -5
Sweety to you, I think you´ve got a nice way to aproache him, even though he didnt agree this time. Sending an email, giving him time to answer and being separated(physically) at the time is a good idea  I hope he sees the fact´s beyond this and will be willing to get some help for all of your sake |
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Post by mothercat on Mar 30, 2005 16:33:54 GMT -5
Sweety..I had never even thought about issues with childhood being responsible for abgry outbursts and stuff..interesting. Bobo had a less than perfect mother and childhood..he has had alot of new really rotten memory flashes in the last couple years and his blood pressure has also remained high and wont be brought down with meds..  I hope you and your Dh get things all sorted our..keeping things functioning perfectly is a big thing here too. I wander why they take that type of responsibility so seriously? Always something new to think about isn't there...thats why we are what they call absent minded..the mind isn't absent it is just off worrying about something else when we need it. ;D |
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Post by sportsmom on Mar 30, 2005 19:33:34 GMT -5
Sweety and special prayers coming your way. I am glad to hear that he did answer you email and didn't ignore you. He might not have agreed with you this time but at least you have given him some food for thought. Hope everything works out and once again |
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Post by sweety on Mar 31, 2005 9:21:04 GMT -5
:)Was real sweet and quiet at home last night. He's trying. |
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Post by Linda on Mar 31, 2005 9:34:07 GMT -5
At this point...that is about all you can ask for |
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Post by mothercat on Mar 31, 2005 16:59:50 GMT -5
Sounds like he wants to help himself..that is terrific |
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