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Post by sweety on Feb 19, 2004 9:29:23 GMT -5
:-[Hello you ADHD adults! Does any one else have trouble with understanding social cues and putting your foot in it? I have a job that I call on hospitals and sometime I go home feeing like I've really put my foot in it by saying the wrong thing or not knowing what to say. Sometimes I feel really stupid. Does anyone have any ideas or tips? Anything would be appreciated.  |
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Post by rosyred45 on Feb 19, 2004 20:53:33 GMT -5
Well, sweety, w/out an official diagnosis for hubby or me, but for our son, we know where he got it from. ;D
I know for me personally, when I deal with parents, I have to differenciate between me as a person and me as a professional. I have worked with the school that I grew up in for almost 12 years, I'm 29 now. Any how,
I have had to pull my self and just say out loud "I am wearing my ...hat" and that is how I deal with somethings. I KNOW that I put my foot in my mouth quite a bit, especially in the eyes of some of the parents that don't have diagnosed kids...but at those same moments, I have opened some eyes to the relavance of what I have just said.
My bigges line of defense is, well, none. If I feel the need to apologize after I have said something, I do. I tell them that I didn't mean to offend them if I did. Most of the time, they just look at the blond and think I'm stupid, but I say what I feel and feel what I say.
I have learned to curb the urge to say dumb things to an extent, but professionally speaking you need not take things personally, just remind your self (over and over and over, like I do)
I WILL NEVER SAY SOMETHING THAT DUMB AGAIN (until the next time)
Take it easy, don't beat yourself up too much or that will become a problem in itself.
Kaiti
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aaa-alison
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Post by aaa-alison on Mar 23, 2004 10:31:01 GMT -5
Hell yeah and if that offends-Heck yeah-I've had terrible problems with socialization. Mostly cause I was to bored to listen. I would say tons of shocking things-before medication. Now A.M. -after medication- I still get hyperfocused, have trouble listening and understanding, and get obsessed. Apparently, I say some things that make my husband cringe-cause they are so out of the social realm of normality. But I focus all my wierd comments and stuff on being funny-which is socially allowed and it works. When I am bored I say outrageous stuff or act super silly and make people laugh. This is a much better way to be than when I would give unsolicited advice, act like I knew everything, come up with the great idea-that had just been said, or grill people on their personal lives and choices.
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