Post by tridlette on Jan 19, 2004 11:44:13 GMT -5
My DH tried to be romantic, only to find I am allergic to the flowers. He reminds me by calling home in the middle of the day just to see what I am doing.
I am too spontaneous to do that. Since my diagnosis in Sept., I tried the meds, but just can't remember to take them or if I already took them.
He is very supportive, he always blames my inablility to function well as a housewife, on the fact that I moved into his house directly from my parents house. I never had to be responsible for my own environment. But since he is bordering on OCD, I count on him to take care of what he thinks needs done! We went to counseling last week (for our son, but we met w/ the therapist alone). It was the first time DH has met a therapist, and I think he came away thinking "She really can't handle it on her own, she really does have a road block that holds her back" He told the therapist that he does about 75% of the work, and I honestly chimed in that I do about 5% and the rest gets left un done. He seemed a bit surprised that I could acknowledge that.
I think DH still doubts ADHD as a diagnosis at times, but I know he recognized their is something not right. He even is starting to loosen up a bit with his "OCD" patterns. I put that in quotes since he isn't diagnosed by anyone but me, and it may be his traits are actually normal, but since I like to be spontaneous and care free, his obsession to actually finish tasks may not really by OCD, just my perception because I am on the far end of the spectrum!
His cleaning, cleaning, cleaning, cleaning, drives me NUTS, but I know my slob, slob, slob, slob drives him nuts too! We have adjusted to each other after 17 years, and I wouldn't dare try it with anyone else now. I don't know that you can say we complement each other, but we have learned to live in comparative harmony despite our conflicting personalities!
Laurie
I am too spontaneous to do that. Since my diagnosis in Sept., I tried the meds, but just can't remember to take them or if I already took them.
He is very supportive, he always blames my inablility to function well as a housewife, on the fact that I moved into his house directly from my parents house. I never had to be responsible for my own environment. But since he is bordering on OCD, I count on him to take care of what he thinks needs done! We went to counseling last week (for our son, but we met w/ the therapist alone). It was the first time DH has met a therapist, and I think he came away thinking "She really can't handle it on her own, she really does have a road block that holds her back" He told the therapist that he does about 75% of the work, and I honestly chimed in that I do about 5% and the rest gets left un done. He seemed a bit surprised that I could acknowledge that.
I think DH still doubts ADHD as a diagnosis at times, but I know he recognized their is something not right. He even is starting to loosen up a bit with his "OCD" patterns. I put that in quotes since he isn't diagnosed by anyone but me, and it may be his traits are actually normal, but since I like to be spontaneous and care free, his obsession to actually finish tasks may not really by OCD, just my perception because I am on the far end of the spectrum!
His cleaning, cleaning, cleaning, cleaning, drives me NUTS, but I know my slob, slob, slob, slob drives him nuts too! We have adjusted to each other after 17 years, and I wouldn't dare try it with anyone else now. I don't know that you can say we complement each other, but we have learned to live in comparative harmony despite our conflicting personalities!
Laurie
