I don't know where to start.

[sweety]

Have been having trouble with my sister and last weekend it really got to a head. I ended up punching my sister in the eye (because she allowed Rose to be humiliated and didn't stop it) and she was HORRIBLY dissrespectful to my mother. DH, a coworker of his and my nephew are going to help my mother move up to Dallas this weekend. My sister runs a low level of anger all the time (she's the ODD one I have talked about before) but now she has turned mean and vindictive. (menapause?) I doubt I will ever go back to my sister's house. (I know my husband won't) I took Rose to church camp monday morning and she was still shaken. (This incident with my sister happened saturday evening) I talked to the counselor about it. I hope Rose is having a good time in camp.She had stayed at my sister's house for weeks at a time when she was younger and was very fond of my sister and her cousin. (who instituted the humiliation) Rose doesn't know what hit her and what to think.

The whole thing boils down to my sister thinking that my mother and I have been picking on her all of our lives because she is not ADHD. She has NO self insight to ODD and ADHD even though her oldest son had it. (another long story entirely) Her husband is practically spineless and goes along with everything she says.I am still shaking at times .It's all is such a shame.

[Linda]

sweety...I think we are all capable of hurting someone. I think I probably would have gone after anyone that was "messing" with my kids. It really is sad it had to come down to someone getting hurt.

I hope you find some kind of closure with your sister...but if you don't...oh well...Rose comes first

[AnneM]

Sweety .... I agree with Linda ... I also could easily have been physical and still could be if my own child was threatened (whether that threat was physical or mental!) ...

The menopause can certainly make women feel grotty and bad-tempered however well-tempered they were previously... BUT if your sister has some underlying ODD which has been there all her life then this could well make thing that much worse!!

I can imagine how shaken both you and Rose are ... !!

[mothercat]

Sweety...It sounds like we have the same sister ;D
I hope everything blows over for you...I have to wander why all these people (like sisters) have to spend so much time dwelling on the past and childhoods and how unfair they feel the world is to them...seems like a waste of the time we are given...I hope Rose enjoys camp...kids bounce back on these things better than we do..stop shaking and let it go..it wont do you any good to worry about it.

[finnmom]

Oh Sweety, that could happend to anyone, sound´s like she had something coming, a punch to a nose or something else.

I think I could be cabable for that too to defend my child

[george2]

High Five Sweety, It sounds like she has been asking for that dose of medicine for a long time. My brother and I are in the same situation. Me with ADHD and him being the type of guy that alphabetizing his can goods. My sister asked me to meet with my brother and talk at his request. I let him show his hate and unwillingness to be the AO he is. It would feel good to smack him sometimes, but I'm afraid it might damage him too much if I let all of my feelings out in one punch.
What you did was one for all of us that have to put up with the same crap.

[sweety]

:)Well things have settled temporarily. My husband and his friend are moving my mother up to Richardson this weekend. I am currently arranging the Oxygen set up she needs. My niece who was partly the instigator of this whole mess has been nothing but polite helpful and sweet and is helping my mother pack and clean her trailer. My mother hasn't spoken to my sister since saturday except to say hello at the mailbox once. My mother has been to the bank, the tag office (what we call it in Texas when you get your car title and tag), got a perscription for her oxygen and is doing everything she can very quietly on her end. My sister thinks taking care her is such an ordeal but when a 49 year old woman expects her mother to obey her snd treats her like a child it leads to "ordeals"

[finnmom]

Clad to hear thing´s have settled down a bit... Good luck to moving

[mothercat]

Good luck with your family sweety

[sweety]

:)We got her moved and situated. Her apt is VERY small but they serve 3 meals a day and have lots of things to do so she won't be in her apt very much. Now I just need to recover.

[finnmom]

Great that you got the move done....it´s really a pain I hope she like´s the new place and enjoys the activities

[Kaiti]

Hey Sweety :-XMan I wish I had your courage and strength. I know this is a little late, but I'm glad to see your family situation has improved a bit.

Funny thing that made me think back a minute. My sis and I are only 11 months apart. When she was 19 and I was 18 we, well, she punched me in the eye, but mom grabbed me before I could hit her back, so she got me again.

Anyhow. I think your neice has smartened up, shame on your BIL for not having a spine though.

And both me and my sis will be in PA this weekend about an hour and a half apart. We are usually at Mom adn Dad's for the 4th. She told me to call her cell if I need anything. We are so funny now, to think we still fight like cats and dogs.....maybe that's why we don't talk much ;D ;D ;D

[sweety]

:)Momma has made several new friends and spent yesterday doing tai chi, going to the grocery store, bank and library. She asked me if I had spoken to my sister. I haven't. I'm not mad at her I just feel incredibaly sorry for a woman who has been angry and defiant all of her life.

[finnmom]

Good to hear about your mom ... about your sister... time will help, I hope I think it´s her turn to speak to you now...