Am I "Projecting?"

[SasyMomaCat]

Okay, just started my meds today and am really hoping it helps.

But the issue I've got in mind is my son - he's in kindergarten. I see a lot of myself in him when it comes to behavior, etc. I worry that he has ADHD. He is easily distractible, doesn't follow instructions well, etc. But, he's 5 - isn't that normal for a 5 year old?

My concern is this - am I projecting my own difficulties onto my son when they don't actually exist? I worry first that I will see things that aren't there. Second, I worry that in an effort to be sure I'm NOT seeing things that aren't there, I won't see things that ARE there and will allow him to struggle in ways that he doesn't have to. Granted, it didn't kill me - I survived and actually did pretty well in school. But, I wonder what could have been if my condition had been recognized and effectively treated way back then ...

Am I making a mountain out of a molehill? Is it too soon to look for these things?

Thanks for listening to me ramble - any suggestions would be greatly appreciated!

Hugs!

smc

[Linda]

I think it is probably normal for you to worry,but how is your son doing in school? They are always the first to notice if their is a problem.

[Kaiti]

I have worried about my son since my MIL told me that he was just like my BIL when he was little :oDON"T CURSE ME LIKE THAT ;DToo late.

Anyhow, if you have a concern with the school,or your son's behavior for that matter, just ask them. It wouldn't hurt you or them to have a five minute meeting for them to tell you yes he is doing fine or well, there might be a problem....let's see how it goes.

I think the biggest thing that my problem is with the worrying, I let it undermine the things that Mikey is trying to tell me.....and I step on his toes knowing what he is going to say and do.

Granted it is good from the mom stand point because I catch him red handed, but I aslo wonder if it is hurting him and NOT letting him develop at his own pace.

Just write a note or callt eh school, it can put your mind at ease with some kind of an answer.

[SasyMomaCat]

That's part of the problem - he's an extremely bright little boy, so he catches on to things very quickly. So, as far as subject mastery, he's doing just fine. In fact, excelling beyond many of his classmates.

However, he doesn't follow instructions well - insists on doing things his way. Also, doesn't listen well to instructions - it's like he listens to part of the instructions but tunes out half-way through. And, when testing him, the teacher had to separate him completely from the rest of the class in order for him to pay enough attention to answer her questions. When she did this, he did just fine. It was apparently significant enough to make her feel like we needed to know this as she noted it on his report card.

He's a little younger than most of his class - at the middle of the first semester, they had parent-teacher conferences for all of the parents. I asked her about his distractibility and she though some of it might be his developmental level - that he would grow out of it. She hasn't asked for another conference and Mike (hubby) touches base with her regularly as he's the one that usually picks up Josh.

I just don't know what to think ...

smc

[Linda]

Wait it out and see what the teacher has to say