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Post by halfdoz on Dec 31, 2004 23:27:11 GMT -5
 Hello- I am as yet un DX'd. I have to admit I am a little afraid to be. Although most of what I have read points to ADD, I am a little afraid of having a DR. tell me it's all in my head and I just need to get my act together. Anyone else felt this way I happened upon the possibility of ADD when an article about it caught my eye. As I read it I was amazed at how much I could relate. I then visited some of the websites it suggested that gave check lists of symptoms. Those pointed to the possibility of my having ADD. I also read "Driven to Distaction" and " I'm not lazy, crazy or stupid". I then called my parents to talk with them about how I was as a kid. They said that although I was a "gifted" student, my report cards always had comments like "April has great potential, if she would only listen/ pay attention/ stop talking, etc." I have always struggled with getting things done and I am the queen of piles (much to my husband's dismay). My parents wondered why I was all of the sudden wondering about ADD, and I started wondering as well. I think that I have learned to cope over the years and to just accept the things I couldn't seem to change, like my piles. But, lately life has become much, much busier as my kids get older. I have six (15, 13, 12, 10, 5 and 3) and we homschool. This is our 12 year. But as the kids have gotten more involved in activities, my coping skills don't seem to keep up. I would be sunk without my Palm. Then I start to feel like my lack of follow-through is effecting the kids and I get afraid that I am failing them. I would love to hear from those of you who have been afraid of DX and finding that you don't have ADD and there is no hope. How did you find your DX Are things better now?? Thanks for letting me ramble. I look forward to hearing from you. April
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Post by rosyred45 on Dec 31, 2004 23:36:32 GMT -5
:)April, we'll let you ramble, it doesn't matter, we all do it.
Anyhow, I don't have a dx, but I think I should for mine own reasons. I am just not wanting to go to a doc for it.
That's about the only reason I don't go. I have too much going on right now, and I know it is a pain for me to go.........so I don't.......
Sorry not much help, hope we can help you here
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Post by AnneM on Jan 2, 2005 16:26:18 GMT -5
April Welcome!! I don't have add but my dh does ... but he is also undiagnosed ... it was only when my 16 year old son was diagnosed (at age 13) with add that it was plain and clear that dh also has it ... With SIX children I can well imagine how busy your life must be !! ... I am exhausted just thinking about it!! ...  It certainly doesn't sound like you are in any way failing your kids ... to have been homeschooling them for all these years speaks for itself! ... WELL DONE!! ... I would say though that from what I have seen and heard there is absolutely no need to be fearful of a diagnosis ... in fact many people seem to find it a "relief" because it makes sense of some of the problems they have had in their lives... it is also the first step to make things better .... I would say by getting a diagnosis there is only one direction you are heading and that is FORWARD! Please keep us posted and I look forward to seeing you around the site. GOOD LUCK!! |
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Post by Linda on Jan 2, 2005 17:22:10 GMT -5
Hi April and welcome.....I don't know if you are ADD or not but if you think you are get yourself to a Dr. and get dx if that is what you want. You can have traits of ADHD and not be ADHD if that makes any sense. I have a lot of the traits myself....the biggest one is running off at the mouth  Anyway I don't know how you do it with 6 kids...maybe it is a blessing if you are ADHD....AT LEAST YOU ARE KEEPING UP WITH THEM  |
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Post by Allanque on Jan 3, 2005 11:06:36 GMT -5
*blinks*
You have 6 kids and have managed not to lose any of them permanently? My parents "lost" me in Disney--I can't ever remember which one it is in Florida - when I was somewhere between 4 and 6. Apparently I wandered off and was having a grand old time. And they only had 2 kids to keep track of!
I think ANYONE with 6 kids who is homeschooling all of them is going to have problems keeping everything straight.
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Post by Sorka on Jan 4, 2005 9:29:25 GMT -5
Holy cow!! my long lost twin!! Ok.. April.. you know they say that you lose 1/3 of your brain processing power for each kid you have.. so .. do the math.. if you still can....  I have 4 kids, 8 6 3 1 and we are also home schooling it is our second year.. I have a bit of an atvantage in the organization department beause we are using the Ohio Virtual acadamy. My plans are delivered to me.. the curriculum is great.. and it's all organized in one easy to manage place on the computer.. Plus I have a teacher (or two) supporting me.. I too am undiagnosed.. but the apple doesn't fall far from the trees... I also wonder if my own disorganisation and lack of follow through are effecting my kids.. my son especially. I have found two great books, some great tools like.. fly lady and Pocket cook (Love those palms need to use it more need a wrist mounted one!!) But yup.. there they sit not being used because I can't seem to organize my own self thought to get to it. Sure I get by, things get done.. sure the house is messy, but that is not the priority.. but it is a frustration. I guess I am more afraid of making a decision on what to do about it.. meds or what.. I kinda doubt that a doc would say it is all in my head.. but could say oh it's depression only. And sure with 6 kids.. there is naturally going to be a little chaos, and disorganization.. but you probably still have that feeling like.. I should be able to get myself together.. some days I feel like my 6 year old daughter is keeping everything together!! MiniMom.. ;D I don't know.. but there could be other things that are contributing to your troubles..and making it more difficult to cope.. so a good once over by the doctor couldn't hurt. Denise |
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Post by halfdoz on Jan 4, 2005 18:53:37 GMT -5
 Thanks for all the encouragement. I am going to try and get to a GP this month and go from there . Denise - It's nice to know someone who can really relate. The staement you made about feeling like "if only I could get myself together" is so ME!!!! I have felt like that even when I just had me to worry about in college. It has always been an issue. Guess I sould get DX'd and start getting some answers rather than always wondering. April P.S. I will let you know what I find out
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Post by CJsMOM28 on Jan 8, 2005 14:58:53 GMT -5
Hi April, and welcome! I am (sorta) new too! I am just now getting to a Doctor about getting a diagnoses,it is scary! I see myself in my Son,all the problems he has had are me as a lttle girl to a T! But I think that if I get a diagnoses,it will help me to help him,plus my ADHD (if I have it) has interferred greatly with my life,especially my marriage. Like the others have said, having six kids to keep up with, it's no wonder you feel the way you do! I have one and I feel so crazy some days! You have six kids and are homeschooling, I really admire you!! Good luck and please keep us posted!  CJsMOM |
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