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Post by Honeysmom on Jul 16, 2004 17:07:27 GMT -5
Oh gosh! Now you and I are sharing brainwaves!!
I spent way to many years with welcome written across my forehead and shoe marks on my back. I made a promise to myself that I am no longer anyones doormat, and I hold to it. It is so hard to do and sometimes I feel like a real b*tch, and probably I am, but I do not care.
My family is super weird, and my in-laws are even weirder. I have learned that their opinion/beliefs/requests are no longer that important. If you don't take care of yourself, no one will, and that goes for everything.
As far as this guys goes, IMHO, he is just being really rude. Plus, if he is newly divorced, maybe he is playing the field and didn't want to commit. Even though it is far fatched, I would make sure that he is 100% divorced. Around here seperated and divorced are used interchagably, and people end up going out with married people w/o even realizing it.
OK, now I am rambling, but just remember that no one can hurt you unless you let them. Be a b&*^h, not a mean person, but one who knows what she wants. And don't settle for less. I was married young, and sometimes that is not all it is cracked up to be either.
Becky
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Post by buttercup on Jul 16, 2004 18:19:16 GMT -5
Thanks Becky. It means a lot to have the validation that you and the others think he was being rude too.
He hasn't called back, and that tells me a lot. I think a secure guy who has a high EQ wouldn't have a problem responding back with even a little humor, "Yikes, I surely did blow it. Pardon my very bad manners. Hope you'll give me the chance to make it up to you!"
For all I know, he may have been in a marriage where he was constantly criticized (wonder why?) and is just not in the mood to 'hear it' one more time.
At any rate, it wouldn't be any fun if this was going on all the time...getting excited, getting let down and him always acting like it's no big deal.
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Post by finnmom on Jul 17, 2004 13:16:55 GMT -5
Buttercup You dont need him, you can get one much better! He was rude, sound´s like he thought you´ll wait for ever if he just make´s you think he might come  You dont do that, if he call´s back, you´ll tell him he missed the train, you´re no more interested Really! Dont be offended or anything, but I just think, according what I´ve read from you, that you´re clever, humorous, well doing person who can( and should) wait so much better than this divorsed excuse for men  You´ll find someone or you´ll find your way of life other wice. |
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Post by buttercup on Jul 28, 2004 17:53:06 GMT -5
Agreed finnmom...and guess what? I'm over him. I think this calls for a CELEBRATION!!!
I'm also pretty proud of another situation that I didn't really post. A guy who poured on the gas to get my attention started showing the bad signs, so I VERY GRUDGINGLY broke it off. I never did sleep with him <TAKING A BOW>. It was my goal to be sincere with myself this time and not just stop talking with him to hopefully make him chase me harder. Nope. I really honestly walked away and it was SOOOOOO hard to do. I went through withdrawls like you would from drugs. He was a very good-looking, exciting, "IN" guy fix. <breathe> Life got boring without his emails and calls.
But, and there is a big BUTT ;D , he called me asking for help (which I posted in another post) and that is when I discovered how really screwed up he is. He went on to brag, divulge, and complain about ALL the women he has been "lovin'" OMG. I'm so glad it wasn't me. He said arrogant things like "A lot of girls get mad at me and say 'Mark, F-U" but then they say 'I love you.' OMG!!! I AM SOOOOOOOO GLAD I GOT OUT AND USED MY HEAD AND INTUITION. I have never been so privvy to the kind of information that he just inappropriately spilled to me. I think it was because he has hit some sort of rock bottom and just let it fly.
As I said in my other post, he didn't really want my help, I think he wanted a fix. I ran like heck and haven't spoken to him since that night. He actually called an left me a voice message about a week ago and I'm not retuning the call. For once in my life, I think I actually passed the "bad man" test. Took me long enough. Geez.
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Post by HooDunnit on Jul 28, 2004 18:04:02 GMT -5
Good going buttercup. Is that guy ever bad news. But these guys have a way of pouring on the charm and giving you the drug-like fix when it is working for them. What manipulators!
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Post by buttercup on Jul 28, 2004 18:33:34 GMT -5
You know it!!!!!!
It's even grosser than that, but thought I'd spare the gorey details.
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Post by finnmom on Jul 28, 2004 23:26:14 GMT -5
buttercup  good going!!!! I´am clad you´ve got this over with!! Those type´s are just bad new´s |
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Post by rosyred45 on Jul 29, 2004 6:27:26 GMT -5
Is it officially guys are morons week or something? Oh never mind, that's the lifetime thing  Alright, not nice, but good for you buttercup, keep thinking and using that intuition of yours  |
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